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Old 01-23-2015, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Keosauqua, Iowa
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I have no interest in being a landlord either. But I cannot imagine owning a house that I don't live in, especially one that is full of someone else's junk. That sounds even worse than being a landlord. Houses aren't maintenance-free, far from it. 8-10 years is a lot of money in terms of repair bills, utilities, insurance, taxes, etc. So I think you're making a terrible financial decision. But it sounds like this is really an emotional decision, not a financial decision, right?
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Interesting that you would refer to someone's parent's and family possessions as "junk."
It's not really such a unique observation. Some people are emotionally attached to possessions, some aren't. As the previous poster said, this appears to be more of an emotional decision than a financial decision, and the fact that you want to keep your parents' possessions rather than haul them off to the auction house to sell seems to reinforce that.

And there's absolutely nothing wrong with making the decision from an emotional standpoint; but you asked the question on the Personal Finance board, so you need to understand that you are going to get some answers that only address the financial aspect of what you want to do.
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Old 01-24-2015, 01:17 AM
 
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Dedratermi – may I ask -- who said anything about a house that is “full of someone else's junk?” Were you referring to my original issue and house in question -- or just offering an opinion about a totally different situation in general that’s not applicable to this situation?

Thanks duster, appreciate the response.

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“It's not really such a unique observation. Some people are emotionally attached to possessions, some aren't.”
Perhaps the person doesn’t realize – but I’m sure you do – that not even getting into what one’s own definition of “junk” may be -- there’s a difference between being emotionally attached to possessions (that, BTW, still work and have a function) …..and holding on to “junk.”

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“the fact that you want to keep your parents' possessions rather than haul them off to the auction house to sell seems to reinforce that.”
To be clear, I know YOU never said the possession were junk. So please don’t think I think YOU did. My point is that if there’s already a TV (that I will use) and a bed (that I can sleep in), and kitchen ware I will use, and décor that I’m comfortable with (so the house isn’t barren when I visit) -- why should that be referred to as “junk.” Which is why you see above, that I asked for clarification about the remark. It seems the post was referring to my mother’s house, and intimated that it was “full of….junk?”…..which really isn’t on point to the discussion at hand anyway.

If I’m going there once a month, should I sell the things that are there and have to BUY replacements. I suppose I should sell the LR set and have no place to sit, or get rid of the dishes and have nothing to eat on.

Certainly clothing, books, and other personal items will be removed. The house isn’t being left as a shrine, and I don’t think I ever said it was. Nor, did I ever say NOTHING would be removed -- which the other post seems to presume. That’s all I’m saying. But what’s an online community without presumptions, I guess. I've just always had no little patience those who comment and presume instead of with asking for clarification of a situation, BEFORE making an an issue of something that people weren't even talking about anyway. But again, that's the internet for ya. I'll work on my empathy in 2015.

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Old 01-24-2015, 07:30 AM
 
Location: Omaha, Nebraska
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To be clear, I know YOU never said the possession were junk. So please don’t think I think YOU did. My point is that if there’s already a TV (that I will use) and a bed (that I can sleep in), and kitchen ware I will use, and décor that I’m comfortable with (so the house isn’t barren when I visit) -- why should that be referred to as “junk.” Which is why you see above, that I asked for clarification about the remark. It seems the post was referring to my mother’s house, and intimated that it was “full of….junk?”…..which really isn’t on point to the discussion at hand anyway.

If I’m going there once a month, should I sell the things that are there and have to BUY replacements. I suppose I should sell the LR set and have no place to sit, or get rid of the dishes and have nothing to eat on.
And that makes sense for the time when you're only a rare visitor to the house. But when the day comes when you want to move in permanently, are you going to move all the stuff you already own into your mother's house? Because you don't need two beds, two TVs, two sets of kitchenware, etc. And most people find they prefer the items they specifically picked out for themselves.

That's why the earlier poster referred to the stuff in the house now as junk - because for most people, that is EXACTLY what their parents' possessions are. It's furniture and belongings that need to be disposed of, because the "kids" are adults who already have households of their own and don't need or have room for any of it.
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Old 01-24-2015, 10:57 AM
 
Location: Cary, NC
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Dedratermi – may I ask -- who said anything about a house that is “full of someone else's junk?” Were you referring to my original issue and house in question -- or just offering an opinion about a totally different situation in general that’s not applicable to this situation?
Your words from your own original post:
"The house is FULL of my mom's stuff and a sibling's stuff" and "it could take me MONTHS to clear all that out."

That's my definition of junk!
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Old 01-24-2015, 11:43 AM
 
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That's my definition of junk!
Interesting.

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And that makes sense for the time when you're only a rare visitor to the house. But when the day comes when you want to move in permanently, are you going to move all the stuff you already own into your mother's house? Because you don't need two beds, two TVs, two sets of kitchenware, etc. And most people find they prefer the items they specifically picked out for themselves.

That's why the earlier poster referred to the stuff in the house now as junk - because for most people, that is EXACTLY what their parents' possessions are. It's furniture and belongings that need to be disposed of, because the "kids" are adults who already have households of their own and don't need or have room for any of it.
Actually my case is quite the opposite. I live in a suburban area that has lots of yard sales. My plan is to sell MY things and move into the furnished childhood home (which is already updated and remodeled to my taste, has furniture I picked out and also newer than mine). It's easier for me to have a 'whole house, everything must go/downsizing sale' HERE where I am, and move very little with me into retirement. Anything not sold can be donated. I'm so NOT attached to my things that other than some clothes, books and family photos, there's nothing much I need to move with me. I'd have to sell some of my stuff anyway, because I'd be downsizing from 2000 SF, 3BR, 2 1/2 BA....
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Old 01-24-2015, 02:00 PM
 
Location: California
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It's junk to me. Even the stuff I picked out for myself is junk .

IMO it's fine to have a place you don't live in, especially if people will occasionally go there and others live near by.
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Old 01-24-2015, 07:10 PM
 
Location: Omaha, Nebraska
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Actually my case is quite the opposite. I live in a suburban area that has lots of yard sales. My plan is to sell MY things and move into the furnished childhood home (which is already updated and remodeled to my taste, has furniture I picked out and also newer than mine). It's easier for me to have a 'whole house, everything must go/downsizing sale' HERE where I am, and move very little with me into retirement. Anything not sold can be donated. I'm so NOT attached to my things that other than some clothes, books and family photos, there's nothing much I need to move with me. I'd have to sell some of my stuff anyway, because I'd be downsizing from 2000 SF, 3BR, 2 1/2 BA....
Sounds like you've got everything well planned out, then. If your brother across the street is willing to keep an eye on the place and check it out inside once or twice a week, and you're going to stay there once a month, that should be enough to deter vandals and to catch any maintenance issues while they're still small. So there's no need to become a landlord if you really would rather not do so.
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