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The car financially is a terrible decision financially. Yo can lose your job tomorrow and then you're ****ed.
Now if she said I think it's a bad idea that's fine and reasonable. But for her to try and tell you how to spend your money is absurd. Cut her loose before you destroy your life. She'll have your balls in her purse if you marry her.
And let me guess -she won't think spending tens of thousands of dollars on a worthless rock for her would be a bad way to spend money.
The car financially is a terrible decision financially. Yo can lose your job tomorrow and then you're ****ed.
Now if she said I think it's a bad idea that's fine and reasonable. But for her to try and tell you how to spend your money is absurd. Cut her loose before you destroy your life. She'll have your balls in her purse if you marry her.
And let me guess -she won't think spending tens of thousands of dollars on a worthless rock for her would be a bad way to spend money.
They already broke up. Read the damn thread.
Its absurd for her to have any input in life decisions for the person she cares for? If they ended up married it would be very relevant, and to her, it might be a good test if he has any value for her opinion. There are many women who don't give a crap about an engagement ring, so don't generalize. Its pretty sexist.
Its absurd for her to have any input in life decisions for the person she cares for? If they ended up married it would be very relevant, and to her, it might be a good test if he has any value for her opinion. There are many women who don't give a crap about an engagement ring, so don't generalize. Its pretty sexist.
This. If they stayed together his decision effects her. She has every right to an opinion on the matter.
When I first commented on this thread way back, I pretty much figured the situation would turn out like this, lol. I could tell the OP was going to get the car regardless of the advice presented either way, and it sounded like the GF would not be around for long either. OP wish you the best with your new car, and hopefully a successful relationship soon too.
Well instant gratification ("ever since I graduated college 2 years ago") is something your generation thinks is important so I doubt anyone on the internet will change your mind. You may loose your shirt, your job, your gf, and even your car depending on how the future plays out but I won't loose any sleep over it.
Its absurd for her to have any input in life decisions for the person she cares for? If they ended up married it would be very relevant, and to her, it might be a good test if he has any value for her opinion. There are many women who don't give a crap about an engagement ring, so don't generalize. Its pretty sexist.
lmao sorry i didn't read 20 pages of this thread
as for "don't generalize" when probably at least 95% if not more women would want a nice ring it's safe to generalize- it's not being sexist.stop being so sensitive and politically correct. the diamond industry exists because women want them. i didn't invent the industry so if you don't like it blame some long dead Debeer's executives.
and yes it is absolutely absurd for someone to TELL a grown adult what they can and can't buy with their own money who they aren't even married to. It would be equally absurd for him to have told her how to spend her money.
Being on the same page financially is important for a long term relationship or marriage.But if one person has to tell the other how to spend money or if they have the audacity to think they have that right as a mere girlfriend then it's doomed to fail.
It sounds like she dodged a bullet of having someone spend money in a way she think is stupid and he dodged being neutered for the rest of his life.
as for "don't generalize" when probably at least 95% if not more women would want a nice ring it's safe to generalize- it's not being sexist.stop being so sensitive and politically correct. the diamond industry exists because women want them. i didn't invent the industry so if you don't like it blame some long dead Debeer's executives.
and yes it is absolutely absurd for someone to TELL a grown adult what they can and can't buy with their own money who they aren't even married to. It would be equally absurd for him to have told her how to spend her money.
Being on the same page financially is important for a long term relationship or marriage.But if one person has to tell the other how to spend money or if they have the audacity to think they have that right as a mere girlfriend then it's doomed to fail.
It sounds like she dodged a bullet of having someone spend money in a way she think is stupid and he dodged being neutered for the rest of his life.
Read your own post. She expecting a committed relationship is 100% in the right to opine on how he spends his money.
I cannot seem to edit the first post but I forgot to mention that I did go from contributing to a Roth 401K to a traditional 401K. This boosted my monthly take home by a little over $400 bringing my monthly cash flow into the black without counting rental income.
Looking at my situation...I am 24 years old driving the car I could have only dreamed of being in my driveway just 2 years ago. I have a a good amount of equity in a beautiful townhome in a friendly neighborhood that I am able to rent a portion of to help bolster my savings. I have over $50k of liquid savings (now closer to $55k) and am maxing my 401K and Roth IRA accounts. I have a big cash bonus that I am looking forward to in a few months. I am VERY happy and VERY comfortable with my current situation. I understand that not everyone agrees but I am so very glad that instead of mulling over this for too long I just went for it. This weekend, after a long week of work, I took the car up into the Smoky Mountains and spent my entire Saturday morning just driving. It was surreal. If I knew the car would bring me this much happiness, I would have even considered spending double what I did. I make this post in case someone reading may be in a similar situation. Despite the risk, sometimes you just have to go for it!
I will try and get a couple pics up when I get a chance!
TLDR: Cash flow is not negative, I am very happy. Some risks are worth taking.
everything is a dream until you own it. That includes a car, even a dream girl.
We as humans get tired of stuff we already own. In order to keep up the freshness, we always looking for the next thing (maybe not the girl friend, as it's not a thing
I cannot seem to edit the first post but I forgot to mention that I did go from contributing to a Roth 401K to a traditional 401K. This boosted my monthly take home by a little over $400 bringing my monthly cash flow into the black without counting rental income.
Looking at my situation...I am 24 years old driving the car I could have only dreamed of being in my driveway just 2 years ago. I have a a good amount of equity in a beautiful townhome in a friendly neighborhood that I am able to rent a portion of to help bolster my savings. I have over $50k of liquid savings (now closer to $55k) and am maxing my 401K and Roth IRA accounts. I have a big cash bonus that I am looking forward to in a few months. I am VERY happy and VERY comfortable with my current situation. I understand that not everyone agrees but I am so very glad that instead of mulling over this for too long I just went for it. This weekend, after a long week of work, I took the car up into the Smoky Mountains and spent my entire Saturday morning just driving. It was surreal. If I knew the car would bring me this much happiness, I would have even considered spending double what I did. I make this post in case someone reading may be in a similar situation. Despite the risk, sometimes you just have to go for it!
I will try and get a couple pics up when I get a chance!
TLDR: Cash flow is not negative, I am very happy. Some risks are worth taking.
You will most likely be fine...this a harsh place to suggesting buying expensive cars at a young age. I mean its a freaking personal finance forum. You pretty much knew the answer you would get before you hit "post"
Good luck and be careful...dont wrap that thing around a tree.
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