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The fact that he is expected to pay most of the time when dating several women seems like it would be harder to stock money away. Most women can multi-date and not expected to pay for anything but if a man goes on three 1st dates he is expected to pay on all of those dates. Plus whatever I take out of my account to save the money that is left over has to last me 4 weeks because I can only save once a month. The check I take money out of is the non-rent check which is the middle of the month check. The last check of the month goes mostly toward rent and I have about $115 or a little more leftover. I haven't dated since December and I can already see the difference in my account from January to April. But once I start going out on dates again that's when I feel everything changes. Plus if you hit it off with a women she doesn't offer to pay until date 3 or 4 so that's another reason why saving may become challenging.
Nope. You have it easier than a parent (male OR female!) of multiple kids!
I guess the real solution is to find a job paying more so more would be left over. Right now I am able to save about $400 a month and that should increase to $600 a year from now once I eliminate the debt of one of my credit cards.
You may be right. I'm a saver and seem to be able to put something back no matter what and I'm from the generation where women rarely paid for dating expenses, so that makes a difference.
It's still better than trying to save as a single woman (assuming she is also trying to date) - she has to spend money on 'going out' dresses, shoes, jewelry, make up, hair products, etc, in addition to female-only expenses like birth control, tampons (or other menses control products). The guy she's dating can easily request a cheap/free date or to split expenses, but she would still be expected to spend all that money on personal upkeep. You can't tell me that a guy's haircut and shaving plus clothes which are easily reusable for interviews/work add up to more than what a woman has to spend..
All of the money that I have saved during periods of time when I am single, ultimately always got spent very quickly when in a relationship.
Jewelry, Coach purses and trips to Fiji and Cabo can get expensive.
All totally worth it though.
Those are all optional. I barely budge for a movie or a dinner even though I could buy 2 tickets to Japan without it affecting me. I have that money because I'm
A miser.
The fact that he is expected to pay most of the time when dating several women seems like it would be harder to stock money away. Most women can multi-date and not expected to pay for anything but if a man goes on three 1st dates he is expected to pay on all of those dates. Plus whatever I take out of my account to save the money that is left over has to last me 4 weeks because I can only save once a month. The check I take money out of is the non-rent check which is the middle of the month check. The last check of the month goes mostly toward rent and I have about $115 or a little more leftover. I haven't dated since December and I can already see the difference in my account from January to April. But once I start going out on dates again that's when I feel everything changes. Plus if you hit it off with a women she doesn't offer to pay until date 3 or 4 so that's another reason why saving may become challenging.
I'm probably going to get slammed for this, but it sounds like you're dating the wrong women. In my limited experience, professional women aren't looking to be "kept." At least early on (before the relationship becomes committed) want to avoid being seen as "beholden" to the guy so they are likely to also contribute to early dates - or at least be sensitive to the cost. If you're dating a woman who doesn't seem to care, you might dating a "princess." Nothing wrong with that, just go into it with open eyes.
You also mention challenges with paying dating expenses out of one check. Try budgeting your money throughout the month, so that you're splitting the cost of rent over both pay checks, rather than paying it all out of one.
Finally, dating multiple women can be expensive, and draining emotionally as well. Maybe slow down a little and take the time to explore relationships more patiently. It's cheaper, and may give you a better read on your date as a potential long term partner. Just my thoughts.
But you're presumably making more money than she is, since there is still no such thing as equal pay. Maybe you should start asking out more independent women who will split the tab. Or choose cheaper places to dine.
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