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Old 08-05-2018, 12:15 AM
 
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It does not sound like "principle" to me. It sounds like "sour grapes" and jealousy.

 
Old 08-05-2018, 12:18 AM
 
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I have never heard of a will where the beneficiaries are "Households". Wills leave money to people, not households.
OP doesn't and won't see it that way.

Don't forget OP thinks it should have been left to people all right, but only equally to the two daughters, nothing to the(grand) kids.

OP will never see it.

We might as well give it up.

 
Old 08-05-2018, 12:29 AM
 
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OP doesn't and won't see it that way.

Don't forget OP thinks it should have been left to people all right, but only equally to the two daughters, nothing to the(grand) kids.

OP will never see it.

We might as well give it up.

Wrong

I said IF granny wanted to leave a little something to the 5 grands then 10k each wouldn’t be so GROSSLY unequal

And 125k each to daughters

That’s 165k to 1 family

135 to the other



Not equal. But not ridiculous
 
Old 08-05-2018, 04:41 AM
 
Location: Where the sun likes to shine!!
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Most of the people I’ve told agree with me.

I seriously doubt that. You mean most think it's OK to tell someone else what to do with "their" money? Not.


Even a few on this thread agree with me.

True...but again they said "they" wouldn't do that not that granny didn't have a right to do that.

I really don't understand why you care. You sound well off and that difference in money wouldn't change your life. And yes I can see granny's point of view "if" you are so insistent in talking about households(even though it was left to individuals and very fairly). The "households" earn about the same but the one with more children will have a harder time with bills because of more people. The one with the 100,000 a year income and one child...I don't feel bad for them at all. Heck their house should already be paid off


You sound bitter and get angry when people don't agree with you. You need to grow up and get over it. Live your life and don't let this destroy the relationships with your family. I can also say if anyone talked about "my" money choices the way you and/or wife had I would cut you out of my will in a heartbeat.
 
Old 08-05-2018, 05:41 AM
 
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I really don't understand why you care. You sound well off and that difference in money wouldn't change your life. And yes I can see granny's point of view "if" you are so insistent in talking about households(even though it was left to individuals and very fairly). The "households" earn about the same but the one with more children will have a harder time with bills because of more people. The one with the 100,000 a year income and one child...I don't feel bad for them at all. Heck their house should already be paid off


You sound bitter and get angry when people don't agree with you. You need to grow up and get over it. Live your life and don't let this destroy the relationships with your family. I can also say if anyone talked about "my" money choices the way you and/or wife had I would cut you out of my will in a heartbeat.
They agree it’s grossly unequal. Again who’s is to say daughter 2 doesn’t have 2 more kids.

Financial situations are similar. No debt nice house savings
 
Old 08-05-2018, 05:44 AM
 
Location: Philadelphia/South Jersey area
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Settle down.

Most of the people I’ve told agree with me.


Even a few on this thread agree with me.

So you and I will never agree.




Comparing pizzas and number of bedrooms with inheritance? Pleeeeease...


Maybe they shouldn’t have so many kids with only two bedrooms
I find that interesting, I threw this question out to my coworkers ~50 people. Lol had a 30 minute chat at lunch, pretty much the overwhelming concensus was
1) everyone has the right to give THEIR money in any way they see fit
2) Children are not entitled to a dime
3) We'd be grateful and not whine about any money we got. But most of us grew up low middle class or working poor so we don't have entitlement mentalities.

So is your wife going to throw this in her sisters face forever?
 
Old 08-05-2018, 06:02 AM
 
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I find that interesting, I threw this question out to my coworkers ~50 people. Lol had a 30 minute chat at lunch, pretty much the overwhelming concensus was
1) everyone has the right to give THEIR money in any way they see fit
2) Children are not entitled to a dime
3) We'd be grateful and not whine about any money we got. But most of us grew up low middle class or working poor so we don't have entitlement mentalities.

So is your wife going to throw this in her sisters face forever?

But there were some that agreed with me in your 50 person lunch

They can do whatever they want with their money

Entitled was never mentioned

Nope
 
Old 08-05-2018, 06:08 AM
 
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Yes you are entitled to your opinion.

It’s not equal in my eyes. Maybe “unfair” is the wrong word
Are you the spurned family?

I am sick of the word, “fair”. My $$$..my decision.
 
Old 08-05-2018, 06:11 AM
 
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Recieving one gift to cover a Christmas time birthday with Christmas gift is not fair. ��
 
Old 08-05-2018, 06:20 AM
 
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Sounds like everyone was treated equally to me. Money left to grandkids is for them, not their parents, it's not "family" money. So many greedy people in this world.
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