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Look at caloroic intake. He should be around 2000 and you around 1500. So he should pay 66% of the grocery bill and you pay 34%. I am rounding up because you probably make more than he does.
If you get to this level of hairsplitting, you're roommates, not a couple. Roommates fight about who drank the last Coke; couples should not.
i think its fair and reasonable for a couple to come up with a mutually agreed upon equitable distribution of expenses. maybe it isnt how it worked out for me but im not going to judge someone's relationship negatively for it.
If your boyfriend is counting every penny when living with you and try to split all expenses evenly, he is not a good husband material, it's not about the money, more about the gesture.
I would get a credit card in both your names that is used exclusively for groceries and split the bill at the end of the month. If there are splurges (candy, ice cream, sushi) that is not agreeable then those are covered separately.
If your boyfriend is counting every penny when living with you and try to split all expenses evenly, he is not a good husband material, it's not about the money, more about the gesture.
Totally disagree.
"Evenly" implies fairness. The way I read your reply, it's ok for the wife to buy anything she wants, drive up expenses, and hubby is just supposed to shrug shoulders and pay?
Here we go again with the "If you have separate finances and split expenses, your relationship is crap" nonsense. Every couple gets to work out finances in a way that satisfies them. If OP and her BF have decided they want to split certain things equally, we should help OP accomplish that. Not wag fingers at her and chastise her for not mooching off a man.
Here we go again with the "If you have separate finances and split expenses, your relationship is crap" nonsense. Every couple gets to work out finances in a way that satisfies them. If OP and her BF have decided they want to split certain things equally, we should help OP accomplish that. Not wag fingers at her and chastise her for not mooching off a man.
It's also quite sensible to keep finances separate until there is long-term stability, even marriage. Sharing a limited account with increasing amounts is an excellent step that lets trust build without exposing either party to financial disaster.
60/40. Guy should contribute more because of earning power. Gal has other expenses that guys just don't have.
We don't know if any of that is even remotely true.
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