Negative Emotions and Thought (Ascension/Law of Attraction) From a Metaphysical Perspective, Only) :)

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by nightlysparrow

From Eckart Tolle's The Power of Now:

"All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry---all forms of fear---are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence."

Wow! So true. Many carry the past like a ball and chain. Itr can lead to a person not taking the calculated risks to move ahead in life or change a situation they want to leave and prevent relationships from either forming or progressing. Every day that is gone-is gone.

[OwlKaMyst]

Originally Posted by imcurious

When you can see that poor choices are going to result in pain, and they do, if you love the person, you feel the pain, as well. If you are involved in their life, then you are affected by their decisions and actions, for good or bad.
Yes, I am empathic, which makes it all more intense. I pick up on subtleties in the environment (usually negative) that other people do not see - and I get scapegoated for that, because no one wants negative stuff pointed out all of the time. Then I feel the pain of people I love . . . and hurt when they hurt. Not sure what to do about that.

You have to see everyone as a free spirit. They have their lessons to learn and experiences to live. You can offer advice and find satisfaction in saying 'I told you so'. But you can't expect them to listen to any advice. You have to either accept them and love them as a whole package or not at all. If they are a threat to your existence (not talking emotions here) then you have to cut ties.
When another's decisions has a direct affect on my security and stability on a material and physical level, they got to go. If you are just attaching your emotions to their lives, as long as they are respectful to you, love them unconditionally.
Since you are empathic, you need to develop some shielding. There are many different ways. The one I like is a visualization. First ground yourself, you are like a tree, sending roots down with the tap root coming from your root chakra. Once well grounded, send a swirl of air around your feet. Start slow and pick up momentum. What you are creating is a tornado of sorts from the ground up. As it reaches speed, build it up slowly. Make it over your head. Once it's full size and spinning fast, electrify it. Charge it so it zaps all unwanted energy before it gets to you.
You say, if you love someone you feel the pain. That's tough as an empath. But you don't have to feel it. It's retraining yourself. Breaking the old connections in the brain and making new ones. Persistence will solve this. Catch yourself as soon as you feel it and move on doing what ever it takes. Each time will be easier than the last. Also, don't feel guilty or disappointed with yourself if you do happen to lose it or fall into the pain pit. It happens, we are not perfect. Aknowledge and toss it aside.




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