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Old 08-20-2013, 11:18 AM
 
Location: Pasadena, CA
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I'm not a parent yet, but looking 16 years into the future, this is what I imagine I would think:

Pot x 100. Especially if it is only a few times a month. 1/2 a pack to 1 pack a day is a lot of cigarettes for anyone to be smoking, let alone a young kid. How would a kid that age find enough time in the day to smoke 10-15 cigarettes? They obviously cannot smoke much at school, so they must just be chain smoking once they get off campus. And if you smoke that much as a kid, you are looking at a steep uphill battle against the addiction. 2-packs a day is in that kid's near future. I smoked a bit in college and after college, but the most I ever got up to was maybe half a pack a day, and it was not a huge issue to quit (though I do bum a friend's cig here and there).

I would prefer my 16 to not smoke pot at all, but just a few times a month isn't bad. I smoked pot at a much higher frequency when I was in high school (3-4 times a week), and while I grew up just fine I do regret it a bit. Mostly because I think of all the times I came a millisecond away from getting busted, which could have significantly effected my future (expulsions, etc.).

I would also prefer my kid to be smoking pot a few times a month to getting drunk every weekend (especially because teens tend to drink and drive a lot).
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Old 08-20-2013, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas, NV
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The marijuana itself may not kill... it's all the stuff happening in the background involving it that kills. Gangs, drug dealers, cartels...

If your kids are experimenting with it that means that they're involved with someone who's involved with others who are bad news and that's the path you don't want your kids going down.

I was surrounded by pot especially in college... and although I tried it I had no desire to continue to want to do it because I was always around those who did it all the time and they were not people I wanted to be like. Lazy, dirty, dishevled.... and like I said, I didn't like the people that they were involved with who supplied it... so... no thanks.

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Old 08-20-2013, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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Tough question, but if I have to pick one it is smoking cigarettes daily. Every time I see a young kid with one in his fingers I cringe. I feel like saying "You have no idea the life you are committing yourself to." You want to shake some sense into them, but everyone has to learn for themselves, I guess.

My Dad died when I was ll, he was 47, from heart problems. He smoked since he was 13. I remember him trying to play ball with me and having to sit down because his chest hurt. He would tell me repeatedly, "I don't care if you are 50 years old, if I EVER see you with a cigarette in your hands I am going to break your fingers !" I never have smoked and neither have my two Sons.......thanks Dad for the good lesson.

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Old 08-20-2013, 12:42 PM
 
Location: Downtown Raleigh
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I vote neither, of course. Do I want my (real) 16-year-old son to begin a habit that will likely take his life early or begin a habit that will suck the motivation out of his daily life? (I'm a teacher, and I have learned this to be true with a high percentage of teens.)

If it were my friend, I'd prefer the marijuana usage. With my son, I'll knock a knot on his head if he picks up either.
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Old 08-20-2013, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Madison, WI
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Cigarettes.
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Old 08-20-2013, 02:14 PM
 
Location: Pasadena, CA
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The marijuana itself may not kill... it's all the stuff happening in the background involving it that kills. Gangs, drug dealers, cartels...

If your kids are experimenting with it that means that they're involved with someone who's involved with others who are bad news and that's the path you don't want your kids going down.

I was surrounded by pot especially in college... and although I tried it I had no desire to continue to want to do it because I was always around those who did it all the time and they were not people I wanted to be like. Lazy, dirty, dishevled.... and like I said, I didn't like the people that they were involved with who supplied it... so... no thanks.
LOL not really. Maybe in the inner city but even then... unlikely. I didn't grow up in a lily-white town, and in fact it has quite a large gang problem - but I never had to deal with cartel members or gangs when procuring marijuana. Most kids just buy it from their friend or some other kid at their school.
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Old 08-20-2013, 02:21 PM
 
Location: E ND & NW MN
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No 16 yr old of mine will do either as at that age.
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Old 08-20-2013, 02:30 PM
 
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No 16 yr old of mine will do either as at that age.
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I vote neither, of course.
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All are poison to the body!
Irrelevant.

Which one would bother you more?
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Old 08-20-2013, 03:37 PM
 
Location: In your feelings
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No 16 yr old of mine will do either as at that age.
Good luck with that! 16 year olds are pretty much going to try what they want to try. You can't stop them, but you can try to instill a sense of self-preservation and moderation and hope they'll make good choices. Lock them in their room if you want, but eventually they're going to get out and rebel twice over (judging from personal experience, anyway).
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Old 08-20-2013, 04:24 PM
 
Location: E ND & NW MN
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As a parent of young kids....the question is posed to me as if either choice is acceptable for a 16 yr old to do. Thus the premise to me is wrong. If the question was which of the two would make you most angry, etc then the premise of the question was changed so that both are bad to start. To me picking one is like given a choice of which disease would you prefer your 16 yr old to have.... diabetes or leukemia. I just picked two off the top of my head. Certainly one may have more severe and immediate consequence, but as a parent of course I dont want any. Thus I am not going to pick one over the other.

I grew up in a dry county in Kentucky and thus saw no alcohol except on TV til college and to this day I dont drink as I never grew up with the idea that is acceptable to do so. But that is my opinion and I have many friends that do drink socially but I just choose not too. I dont judge them on that.
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