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Old 11-02-2013, 06:45 PM
 
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Who are you to demand anything of society? Do what you want, but that doesn't mean we have to accept or embrace what you do to satisy your self-image problem.
Yes you do! If you call me anything other than what the court rules you to call me it can legally be defined as harassment. You will accept my new name or I can press charges.
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Old 11-02-2013, 07:33 PM
 
Location: Northern CA
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Yes you do! If you call me anything other than what the court rules you to call me it can legally be defined as harassment. You will accept my new name or I can press charges.
oh yeah? I'd love to see you try to bring charges. Don't you think courts and police have better things to do than protect your ego? What is your injury? And what's the problem with the last name you were born with? This is soooo stupid!
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Old 11-02-2013, 08:28 PM
 
Location: TOVCCA
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I changed my whole name...it was one of the most uplifting things I have ever done for myself.
Bravo for you. I have two friends who did this. It changed their lives to the positive immensely.

One is a woman who carried a name given to her by the stepfather who legally adopted her...and later molested her. Dumping his name was like a rebirth for her; it gave her a new identity in the most meaningful sense of the word. The other is a man named after his mother's husband at the time---who was NOT his biological father. The pregnancy had come from a secret one-night-stand (no joke). Her marriage broke up when he was an infant, and she had no further contact with the ex. The first and last names were of classic Jewish origin, but neither the mother nor bio dad was Jewish. He always had to explain to people who made "assumptions." When he changed his names, they suddenly "fit" him. He became more of his own man, an individual.
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Old 11-04-2013, 07:41 PM
 
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Yes you do! If you call me anything other than what the court rules you to call me it can legally be defined as harassment. You will accept my new name or I can press charges.
So if your name is Tom and I call you Bob, you're going to press harassment charges?

Please try that and report back.
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Old 11-05-2013, 01:48 PM
 
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So if your name is Tom and I call you Bob, you're going to press harassment charges?

Please try that and report back.
Yes please try that, I need a good laugh.

While you're at it, direct this energy of yours toward something useful.

I mean seriously...it's well within your right to change your name and I would never stand in your way of doing so

And I would call you by your chosen name.

And if you changed your name to go along with a gender change or for race-related reasons I'd say that'd be a good reason to be a bit more sensitive about people who didn't acknowledge the change.

But from what you've stated you've done...it's such a non-event you seem silly to be THIS obsessed about it.
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Old 11-05-2013, 02:57 PM
 
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I changed my whole name when I was in my early 20s. It cost about 450 dollars and a lot of paperwork but it was one of the most uplifting things I have ever done for myself.



I may change my name again if I get bored of this one! It is my right to do so! It is your children's right to do so if they want and YOU have to accept it!
Sure do, no problem. All of our children were givin only one name (other than the last of course)..reason being we figured they could pick another name if they wanted later, when grown...You can call yourself what ever you want, something I'd do if I had the hankering...much cheaper by the sounds of it. Legalities are too expensive for me.
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Old 11-06-2013, 10:01 AM
 
Location: Mesa, AZ
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Remember that episode of "Friends" where Phoebe changed her legal name to Princess Consuela Banana Hammock?
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Old 11-06-2013, 12:38 PM
 
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If I wanted to name myself Lorena Bobbit you better respect that and refer to me as such! Sometimes males change their name to female sounding names. We have a right in society to do that and it should be respected.
You can't demand respect, you must earn it. Acting annoyed because you perceive folks aren't giving you the respect you think you deserve is a little immature, and doesn't earn you the respect you crave.

Why do you even care what perfect strangers think anyway?
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Old 11-06-2013, 12:43 PM
 
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Yes you do! If you call me anything other than what the court rules you to call me it can legally be defined as harassment. You will accept my new name or I can press charges.
Seriously? Huh, I get called the wrong name a lot (there are a few variations of my name, first and last, and a lot of people get it wrong). I just "understand" what they meant to say, and move on. In fact, a very good friend's daughter just got married and my invitation had the wrong name. Did I flip out? Did I sue for harassment? Did I press charges? Nope, nope and nope. I was just thankful that they thought enough of me to invite me to their special day.

And please show me the statute that shows someone can press charges for calling you the wrong name. I'd be interested in seeing that.
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Old 11-06-2013, 01:02 PM
 
Location: South Portland, ME
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I've considered changing my last name to be more traditional in the Nordic sense (my family came over from Norway in the late 1890s).

For example (I'll use fake names), my last name is Johnson and my dad's name is Magnus Johnson. I'm Michael Johnson, but under Nordic tradition my name SHOULD be Michael Magnusson. Similarly, I'd like to name my kids [first name] Michaelson.

The cost and effort has been prohibitive though, I'm not sure I want to put up with all the paperwork/fees just to do this. So I may end up keeping my name but still renewing the tradition with my kids. We'll see I guess.
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