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Old 11-11-2013, 09:41 PM
 
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For NATO phonetic alphabet fans

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From the 'philosophical' perspective what is the goal you are trying to accomplish?




You made me think of how those conversations must go when a star witness in a major case enters witness protection program.


FBI Agent: "Alright 'Matt', what do you want your new name to be? Any preferences? We recommend mid range common frequency names to blend in better."

Craving Mountains: "I insist on being distinguishable!"

FBI Agent: "Well, if you don't want to be a target easily identified, you need to lay low and be an ordinary guy who goes about your daily life without making waves"

Craving Mountains: "I want to use my mothers maiden name as surname"

FBI Agent: "We don't recommend that, as anyone searching for you will likely look under that surname"

Craving Mountains: "I insist on being Alan Snifferhoffer! And Snifferhoffer I will be!"

In the news a month later:
Mysterious Death of FBI Star Witness
Snifferhoffer snuffed by suspected crime boss.

Neighbors say Alan S. Snifferhoffer was a quiet unassuming man who got along well in the neighborhood until the local kids who noticed his name was Alan S. Snifferhoffer started referring to him by his acronym. After a few public outbursts and a restraining order for threatening behavior that was placed on him, apparently the crime boss whom Snifferhoofer snitched on smoked him out and snuffed him out. Family of Snifferhoffer are interested in pressing charges against local teens for bullying and possible contributing to a wrongful death suit. The family is being represented by Dewey, Cheatum and Howe.

If only he would have taken Paul Simon's lyrical advice...


Paul Simon - You Can Call Me Al - YouTube
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Old 11-15-2013, 01:18 PM
 
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Absolutely nothing wrong with changing your name and your family sounds inconsiderate and embarrassing to not respect your wishes. I changed my last name when I was 19 and from then on, life just got easier and better. I've received compliments on my last name and almost everyone can pronounce it!
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Old 11-17-2013, 03:43 AM
 
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Well, I was wrong about your gender.

If you call me anything other than what the court rules you to call me it can legally be defined as harassment. You will accept my new name or I can press charges.



Honestly, you sound like a spoiled child. Grow up and stop thinking everyone should play along in your little drama filled life.
Call me spoiled if you want. But you will also call me by my new name. Court ordered!
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Old 11-17-2013, 03:44 AM
 
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For NATO phonetic alphabet fans

_ _ _ ._ _. = _ _ .. _._ .


From the 'philosophical' perspective what is the goal you are trying to accomplish?




You made me think of how those conversations must go when a star witness in a major case enters witness protection program.


FBI Agent: "Alright 'Matt', what do you want your new name to be? Any preferences? We recommend mid range common frequency names to blend in better."

Craving Mountains: "I insist on being distinguishable!"

FBI Agent: "Well, if you don't want to be a target easily identified, you need to lay low and be an ordinary guy who goes about your daily life without making waves"

Craving Mountains: "I want to use my mothers maiden name as surname"

FBI Agent: "We don't recommend that, as anyone searching for you will likely look under that surname"

Craving Mountains: "I insist on being Alan Snifferhoffer! And Snifferhoffer I will be!"

In the news a month later:
Mysterious Death of FBI Star Witness
Snifferhoffer snuffed by suspected crime boss.

Neighbors say Alan S. Snifferhoffer was a quiet unassuming man who got along well in the neighborhood until the local kids who noticed his name was Alan S. Snifferhoffer started referring to him by his acronym. After a few public outbursts and a restraining order for threatening behavior that was placed on him, apparently the crime boss whom Snifferhoofer snitched on smoked him out and snuffed him out. Family of Snifferhoffer are interested in pressing charges against local teens for bullying and possible contributing to a wrongful death suit. The family is being represented by Dewey, Cheatum and Howe.

If only he would have taken Paul Simon's lyrical advice...


Paul Simon - You Can Call Me Al - YouTube
I like the last name snifferhoffer. Lol
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Old 11-19-2013, 03:46 PM
 
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Ultimately, you HAVE to call people by what they want to be called. We have legal protections like this in place to minimize harassment.
You wouldn't have to demand it of people if they liked you...most people call their friends by their name..only one wouldn't would be someone whose pissed off or doesn't like you, (and any one that doesn't know you would anyways)...and that's the same for us all...whether we changed our names or not.
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Old 11-24-2013, 05:37 AM
 
Location: Poshawa, Ontario
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No one has to accept your new name.
Really? Would that logic apply to all people or just those who have changed their name? It would seem to follow that should I not have to accept CravingMountains "new" legal name, why should I have to accept anyone's legal name at all?
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Old 11-24-2013, 05:28 PM
 
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Names can be powerful. I feel it is a sign of respect to call someone how they'd like to be called.

Myself, I have a very common first name and an uncommon last name. I wish it were reversed, hah, it would be easier to hide on the internet that way.

I'm trying to get a novel published, and I know I'd use a pen name if I ever did. I don't like my first name - this might sound strange, but I don't know what I prefer to be called: the full or diminutive version. (It would be a choice that's similar to Kimberly or Kim). As a kid, I always went by Kimberly at school, when first meeting friends, and when I first started at a job, etc., so I was always known as Kimberly. I remember being surprised when I learned my sister went by her diminutive name at school. And yet my family always calls me Kim. I sign greeting cards to family as Kim. But it would be weird to my ears for friends or co-workers to call me Kim. My sister introduces me to her own friends as Kim, and that sounds strange, too. So I feel like I have this crisis: what's my name?

So I've settled on a pen name, that has different first and last names, with a first name I quite like, and I'm considering asking friends and family to start calling me that. But I'm not sure how they'd react.
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Old 11-26-2013, 12:38 AM
 
Location: California
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First, it's not society you have a problem with it's your family. Welcome to reality.
Second, why tell new people you meet you changed your name? IT'S CHANGED! Yet you still want to talk about the old one? Sounds to me like you just want to call attention to yourself for some weird reason and are getting upset when you don't get the reactions you want. Again...reality.

People can call you whatever they want, and you can avoid them if you don't like it.

Lot's of people go by a different names as adults than they did as children. Often it's the shedding of a nickname, shortened name, or something similar. Or a whole new name. People change it when they get married, divorced, etc. It's not a huge deal IMO. Shut up and introduce yourself as whatever you want.

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Old 01-01-2014, 08:58 PM
 
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First, it's not society you have a problem with it's your family. Welcome to reality.
Second, why tell new people you meet you changed your name? IT'S CHANGED! Yet you still want to talk about the old one? Sounds to me like you just want to call attention to yourself for some weird reason and are getting upset when you don't get the reactions you want. Again...reality.

People can call you whatever they want, and you can avoid them if you don't like it.

Lot's of people go by a different names as adults than they did as children. Often it's the shedding of a nickname, shortened name, or something similar. Or a whole new name. People change it when they get married, divorced, etc. It's not a huge deal IMO. Shut up and introduce yourself as whatever you want.
I NEVER bring up my old name in person. Only my family still knows what my former name was. I am bringing this issue up in conversation to address the stigma associated with men changing their names.

So, tell me Ceece, if your son changed his full legal name, what would you call him by? And don't tell people to shut up. Its rude.
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Old 01-01-2014, 10:06 PM
 
Location: Winston-Salem, NC
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I NEVER bring up my old name in person. Only my family still knows what my former name was. I am bringing this issue up in conversation to address the stigma associated with men changing their names.
It was good enough for Prince. What's he going by now? I wasn't aware that there was some stigma, and I don't know how I'd know anyone had changed their name. Aside from women doing it for marriage, people have pen names or stage names, but I guess those don't have legal force as identifiers? Not sure about that.

As for harassment, Harassment Law & Legal Definition may help you decide if you have a case against anyone in particular. It is one thing to think you can press charges, it is quite another to succeed at it.
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