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Old 01-21-2014, 09:25 PM
 
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I changed my whole name when I was in my early 20s. It cost about 450 dollars and a lot of paperwork but it was one of the most uplifting things I have ever done for myself.

My family still cannot accept that my name is different than what they have me at birth. I compromised with them by saying that they can certainly call me by my birth name but everyone else in society will know me by my new name. Whenever we are in a public place and I introduce myself my family throws a fit screaming "that's not his name!". I have already told my mother she is not allowed around my friends anymore because she talks to them behind my back telling them to call me by my birth name. Tomorrow, I am going to tell them that I will not join them in restaurants or bars any longer. They have had seven years to accept my new name (it has only been legal for 3 years) and that is long enough. They need to get over it or they won't see me.

Society also is usually quite take aback when I say I changed my first and last name. Especially conservative males get scared and a lot of people don't even know it is a constitutional right to do this.

FYI my birth name (first and last) was ANNOYINGLY common. I now have a very unique name that I love and am always getting compliments on.

I may change my name again if I get bored of this one! It is my right to do so! It is your children's right to do so if they want and YOU have to accept it!
As long as you donn't change it to "Bee Zow Doo Doo ZoppityBoP Bop Bop" (this is someone's real name), go to town!
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Old 01-22-2014, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Winston-Salem, NC
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Why should I have a problem with someone's atrociously long name? It seems in Beezow's case, he could be a poster child for persecution of minor marijuana possession. What a tax racket. It should all be legalized.
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Old 01-23-2014, 03:44 AM
 
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by CravingMountains View Post
I changed my whole name when I was in my early 20s. It cost about 450 dollars and a lot of paperwork but it was one of the most uplifting things I have ever done for myself.

My family still cannot accept that my name is different than what they have me at birth. I compromised with them by saying that they can certainly call me by my birth name but everyone else in society will know me by my new name. Whenever we are in a public place and I introduce myself my family throws a fit screaming "that's not his name!". I have already told my mother she is not allowed around my friends anymore because she talks to them behind my back telling them to call me by my birth name. Tomorrow, I am going to tell them that I will not join them in restaurants or bars any longer. They have had seven years to accept my new name (it has only been legal for 3 years) and that is long enough. They need to get over it or they won't see me.

Society also is usually quite take aback when I say I changed my first and last name. Especially conservative males get scared and a lot of people don't even know it is a constitutional right to do this.

FYI my birth name (first and last) was ANNOYINGLY common. I now have a very unique name that I love and am always getting compliments on.

I may change my name again if I get bored of this one! It is my right to do so! It is your children's right to do so if they want and YOU have to accept it!

maybe they should be more accepting

but it's not easy (and that's why they are not)

your name becomes a part of your identity and it becomes too confusing for a person's psyche (to the people who know you by a particular name) to deal with the changes
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Old 01-25-2014, 10:24 AM
 
Location: Victoria TX
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How does "Society" know if you have changed your name? As far as I know, nobody knows whether I have ever changed my name or not.
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Old 01-25-2014, 02:08 PM
 
Location: Guadalajara, Jalisco, Mexico
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Your mother gave birth to you. She named you. That was a VERY special day for her - and then you turned your back on her just so you could have a "unique" name.
I'm Sorry - you sound like a jerk.
The fact she gave birth to him, doesn't mean she owns him. If OP wasn't happy with his old name, but it is with the new one, all we can say is; congratulations!
Personally, I a bit weary of people who tell other people how should they live, or act, or be.
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Old 02-04-2014, 10:19 PM
 
Location: Europe, in the Land of the mean
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Lots if women change their surnames upon marriage so it shouldn't be such a stretch for a man to do his,no?
I didn't like my birth name so used a shortform & my mum's name.Sure prevents people from stumbling over it .Also many are such poor spellers & it takes them forever to get it (not forgetting their probing over its origins,etc)

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Old 02-09-2014, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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So by saying "society needs to..." actually means mommy and daddy. Ok...personally, if someone wants to change their name to Ductape Oilslick, or Moonbeam Peppercorn I don't care.
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