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Then we would NOT get along and I have a very bitchy temper! I don't mind telling someone off when they are in the wrong.
And for all those who think this can't be brought to a legal issue you are WRONG! It would fall under the same clauses that calling someone a curse word would, or a racial slur, or a derogatory name for any other groups of people.
Ultimately, you HAVE to call people by what they want to be called. We have legal protections like this in place to minimize harassment.
Again, please show me the "clause" that states this. I believe we have free speech in this country, and I am FREE to call you whatever I want.
Again, please show me the "clause" that states this. I believe we have free speech in this country, and I am FREE to call you whatever I want.
I have a court order. I will gladly show you if we cross someday and you refuse to call me by my legal name. You will never know that I changed my name from something else though!
FYI my birth name (first and last) was ANNOYINGLY common. I now have a very unique name that I love and am always getting compliments on.
What was your first name? I'm actually debating introducing myself as my second name. "Mike" is like the "Mohamed" of america. It's so common that it's actually like being nameless. At work it's degrading, I'm just one of the Mikes and when I introduce myself I have to use my last name.
I also know a person named "Er" (like how a cartoon dog would make a question sound). This kids life was clearly destroyed by his name (good person and friend but in and out of jail, drugs, fights, against the system, the system against him).
What was your first name? I'm actually debating introducing myself as my second name. "Mike" is like the "Mohamed" of america.
I did that and it worked out well. It sets you above the crowd a bit. Sometimes that's good and sometimes it isn't. In business you can sign your paperwork M. (middle name) (last name).
I have a court order. I will gladly show you if we cross someday and you refuse to call me by my legal name. You will never know that I changed my name from something else though!
OP, ask your mother how many times you were dropped on your head as an infant. There has to be an explanation for you somewhere.
Your mother gave birth to you. She named you. That was a VERY special day for her - and then you turned your back on her just so you could have a "unique" name.
I'm Sorry - you sound like a jerk.
If you get a name that you are teased for all your life, like Latrina Goldfarb or Otis Criblicobis, then your mother's Special Day was clueless, self-absorbed, or both, and her attachment to misplaced family pride is overdue for breakage.
If you simply are John Smith and think it's blah, and change it for that reason, then you are treating your name as if it were furniture or maybe a personal accessory that doesn't match your imagined decor, and then I would say the wisdom of changing it over against how it will impact others and even yourself, is kinda questionable. Even there, though, you're making an unwarranted snap judgment about the OP. In and of itself, Mom is, in my view, over-reacting. She should want her son to be happy and not view him as a narcissistic extension of herself. All she's doing by pitching snits and being rude is driving him away. She strikes me as one of those parents with a warped idea of what "respect" actually is.
We are only getting one side of the story, of course, but if the family reaction is being accurately depicted, this is bigger than his name change -- that just seems big because of the symbolism involved in between people's ears. It could be for example that the OP's family dynamic is highly conformist and this is the OP's clumsy way of asserting healthy distance from that. It may not be the best battle to pick or the best way to go about it but it still needs to be done.
It is not that widely known that changing your name is a personal right and not as difficult or expensive as you'd think so long as you aren't a felon. More people ought to do it, IMO. How many people do you know who have personal names that you'd cringe if it belonged to you? How many young parents give their kids names that are a cutesy play on the family name or unintentionally hilarious names, like Crystal Ball, Sandy Beaches, Candy Kane, Harry Balls, etc. These names are guaranteed to make people spit out their coffee even as adults, imagine what it does in middle school for the poor kid. I would get tired of the raised eyebrows.
I know a guy that changed his name to...Bob Dirty Moccasin. It was on his drivers license.
I called him Bob. I think I'll call you Fred. That's it. For now, to me, you are Fred. I enjoyed your thread, Fred. Hey, that rhymes!!!
When you disclose your new name I will call you by that new name.
Wrong. Court ordered. If a court orders you to stay away from someone for instance, you most certainly do need to stay away from whomever filed the restraining order. A court ordered my new name. People need to refer to me by my new name.
Here's the problem Fred....
We weren't in that court...
Also, I'm pretty sure I'm not in it's jurisdiction!!!!!
Nice try Fred, but your "legal opinion" is a FAIL!
My original name has been one of the top five names given to boys since at least the 1970s. I changed it to a name (still a boys name) that is still of English origin but is much less common. I changed my last name to my mothers maiden name (she was not happy about this).
Again, to those who can't read well, people with criminal records can't change their names. I get that joke a lot, but I actually have a pristine criminal record.
Well, I was wrong about your gender.
If you call me anything other than what the court rules you to call me it can legally be defined as harassment. You will accept my new name or I can press charges.
Honestly, you sound like a spoiled child. Grow up and stop thinking everyone should play along in your little drama filled life.
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