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Old 11-30-2013, 10:33 AM
 
Location: Greenwood Village Colorado
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"...15 to 18 percent of girls under 12 now wear mascara, eyeliner and lipstick regularly; eating disorders are up and self-esteem is down; and 25 percent of young American women would rather win America's Next Top Model than the Nobel Peace Prize."

After reading many posts in this forum, I think it's clear to see how society is pushing girls to be so self conscious and insecure, ingrained at a young age.

Lisa Bloom: How to Talk to Little Girls
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Old 11-30-2013, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Unfortunately this is not new. When my now 30 year old daughter was this age I was worried about her and her friends. And now I have 2 eleven year old daughters. But I have to say the eldest still doesn't wear any makeup or jewelry- that's just her personality. She did have a slight hickup in middle school when she wished she had a boyfriend when her peers did but she got over that pretty quickly and wasn't serious about anybody till she was in college. The 11 year olds are not inclined to wear makeup anytime soon either. They are now playing with nail polish but won't wear it to school for some reason. That's fine.

I think as parents we aren't aware of how dangerous it is for our young daughters who are so influenced by media. We have no glamour magazines around the house, we don't tell them they need to look a certain way-just clean and neat- and most of all our own standards are pretty high with most strong emphasis on academics and family life. Plus, while they were given Barbies as gifts, I never bought them one and we always tried to go for non gender specific toys for all our kids.
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Old 11-30-2013, 12:57 PM
 
Location: Sudcaroland
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Very intersting article. Thanks for sharing!
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Old 11-30-2013, 03:06 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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It's an interesting article. Unfortunately, just because someone writes a book saying that there is too much emphasis on appearance doesn't mean the world is going to quit treating pretty people better. So I let my daughters play with makeup. I let them wear it sometimes. If one of them thinks highlights will change her life, we get highlights. I make sure they have pretty clothes and look their best. Being pretty is a skill.
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Old 11-30-2013, 03:10 PM
 
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i think adults dont help and i see women do this more than men,,,tell little girls how pretty and cute they are, how they look like a little princess
so,,,by the time they are 5, most of their compliments are on their looks.....

adults mean well, and all,,,but i think it gets into a kids head,,,,,then they seek approval on looks on an early age..


so, the next time you are in the midst of little girl(s) and adults are throwing out the how cutes/how pretty they are,,,think about it,,,
or
do the adults, brag about them because they are good talkers, can spell words, etc...
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Old 11-30-2013, 03:50 PM
 
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I complain about this all of the time.

Girls and women are complimented on their physical attributes by EVERYONE around them. They are told that they should look good while males are almost never told this.

If you have daughters/grand-daughters/nieces/little sisters/cousins please do not focus on complimenting them on their looks. Think about how often you tell little boys that they are handsome and think about how often you say that to little girls.

Also, the media reinforces this.

I was so disappointed to watch an old interview with Danica McKellar yesterday. She has written all these great books about math for girls and I was planning to introduce the books to one of my young relatives. Then, I googled her and was treated to some photos of her in skimpy lingerie!!!

Even women who are educated and successful in other fields still feel compelled to promote themselves as nothing but sex objects. From Rachel Ray, Gabrielle Reece, even Kate Middleton!!! I know what all of these women look like in their underthings.

I think that we should focus on treating our daughters exactly the same way as our sons. They will be held to higher standards in education and success. We also have to present ourselves without gender bias. If you are from a traditional family (stay-at-home mom for example), you may find this hard to do. But, you don't have to believe that everything should be gender-free if that is not your opinion. Try to simply discard the concept that a girl is nothing but her appearance and focus less on how girls look.

Maybe the emphasis of the article was on the AGE of the girls. In that case, I am rambling on for nothing. I think that as much delay as possible is probably he best way to go.
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Old 11-30-2013, 04:11 PM
 
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Women know despite how smart or successful they are, a man will marry the best looking woman he can afford and tight butts get rich husbands.

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Old 11-30-2013, 04:27 PM
 
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mens fault????

woman buy most of those magazines,, (cept for s.i.)

it isnt my fault,,i dont like a greyhound looking woman,,,i like a little marbling-looks healthier
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Old 11-30-2013, 04:32 PM
 
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mens fault????

woman buy most of those magazines,, (cept for s.i.)

it isnt my fault,,i dont like a greyhound looking woman,,,i like a little marbling-looks healthier
It was meant to be sarcastic. I edited that out.
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Old 11-30-2013, 08:55 PM
 
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It's an interesting article. Unfortunately, just because someone writes a book saying that there is too much emphasis on appearance doesn't mean the world is going to quit treating pretty people better. So I let my daughters play with makeup. I let them wear it sometimes. If one of them thinks highlights will change her life, we get highlights. I make sure they have pretty clothes and look their best. Being pretty is a skill.
How old are your daughters? Sorry, but getting highlights will not change anyone's life and as a parent we should not encourage this behavior. And being pretty is not a skill. We should be teaching them self esteem on the attributes that they have. Hair color, nails, pretty clothes and whatever are just material things and will only hurt them later on in life.
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