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how can i stop being a fatalist,i believe in fate and probably always will but sometimes it overwhelms me. like tonight i was talking to this girl online we spoke for hours,very deep conversation,havent had such a great conversation in a long time.Anyway we ended up talking again,and we were talking and i felt she was kind of being vague for a second so i disconnected without really thinking what i was doing,and could'nt reconnect again,its a chat thing.
the rest of the night i kept thinking why did i do that,now i've changed the whole fate of my day/night,i probably would have talked to her all night,had some huge revelation about something,learnt something,discovered something important about myself,became friends,etc etc - my whole fate is different now cause i suddenly disconnected,ill do different things tonight and my fate is completely changed from the fate if i had kept talking to her.
Your *fate* is exactly as it should be since you consciously chose to end the conversation.
It is in the past and cannot be changed and there is nothing accomplished when one wastes one moment of their life on
*what if*
thats just what i want to hear,good advice,but i felt like i didnt even know what i was doing when i disconnected,i was not really thinking.
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Originally Posted by CSD610
Your *fate* is exactly as it should be since you consciously chose to end the conversation.
It is in the past and cannot be changed and there is nothing accomplished when one wastes one moment of their life on
*what if*
how can i stop being a fatalist,i believe in fate and probably always will but sometimes it overwhelms me. like tonight i was talking to this girl online we spoke for hours,very deep conversation,havent had such a great conversation in a long time.Anyway we ended up talking again,and we were talking and i felt she was kind of being vague for a second so i disconnected without really thinking what i was doing,and could'nt reconnect again,its a chat thing.
the rest of the night i kept thinking why did i do that,now i've changed the whole fate of my day/night,i probably would have talked to her all night,had some huge revelation about something,learnt something,discovered something important about myself,became friends,etc etc - my whole fate is different now cause i suddenly disconnected,ill do different things tonight and my fate is completely changed from the fate if i had kept talking to her.
anyway its driving me crazy?
ignore reality and make it ok for yourself. Maybe you would have went down on her ship. What the truth doesn't matter anyway. good luck, I mean that.
We do things repetitiously in life (relationships are often filled with co-habits). This is not fate, but rather a repetition of past habits though no two repetitions are ever exactly the same, though they may seem very much alike.
There is no define future. Life just manifests based upon all events that are continously created. What happens happens. What could have happened is just another creation of a creative mind and again it is what happens.
We have a choice to change direction, i.e. do something different than our habits would imply, but results are always uncertain. It may feel worse or better than we had imagined it would buy we learn and choose different directions if we choose.
Your post is a new direction which is affected by all that you are reading. Life is about choices, observation, learning and then make new choices.
If you choose to remain a fatalist, then this is an example of a habit.
Apparantly you were thinking or you would not have chosen to disconnect.
You have already wasted too many moments on this non issue.
I don't think she is wasting time to examine her actions if it will help her future life. If she dwells exclusively on this moment and learns nothing then yes it's navel-gazing and not good.
Her actions came subconsciously so if it were me I'd try and figure out why my subconscious did a "disconnect". Sometimes a similar situation will happen to me and a thought will pass through my head about something that happened and I will mentally wince and ask myself "Why did I say that?" or "do that?"
Others go through their lives never thinking about what they do or self-critiquing but some of us are more aware, just the way we are born.
After I re-examinewhat I did or said I will sometimes change my behavior for the better (I think) and sometimes even apologize to a person I said something to unintentionally that might have been hurtful. Small things do matter and add up to big things. I am an artist and maybe I see the world differently.
OP: I don't think you are a fatalist, there is another word I cannot remember but maybe will later
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