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Old 10-18-2015, 01:51 PM
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by Channing20 View Post
Why do we act like life is wonderful when all we really do is work all the time? I'm getting ready to graduate college and Ive been struggling to think of a reason I shouldn't just kill myself. There's nothing to look forward to in life. We spend all of our time at work so we can afford to feed and shelter ourselves so that we're healthy enough to go back to work the next day. Then we get excited because we get a week off once a year.
Meanwhile, our children are being raised by someone else who is getting to see all their milestones. We spend most of our time with coworkers instead of our friends and spouses. Things that are supposed to make life worthwhile like traveling can barely be done because to most people who are making enough money to afford it don't have enough time off. Life is pretty much work, stress, and disappointment but we keep trying to find ways to prolong it. I don't get it
When you write you write as if you are the spokesperson for everyone. Using we instead of I is what makes it that way. You are only speaking for yourself. Others may agree with you, but many do not, so You aren't speaking for them.

People who stay single do not have to worry about putting food on the table for a family, so that's one way not to have to work so hard. If you are smart enough to graduate college you are surely smart enough to know you have a darker outlook than the majority. I see some posters here want to make it political, which is ridiculous and only reflects their own biased thinking.
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Old 10-18-2015, 03:02 PM
Location: Northern Maine
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Join the military. You get 4.5 weeks off a year.

Start your own business. You'll work hard, but schedule yourself. You can go fishing just after the rain stops.
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Old 10-18-2015, 03:11 PM
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Oh the horrors of modern day life. Working 8 hours a day? A few hundred years ago, most people were working 12-16 hour days just to survive. If they could experience an 8 hour work day along with the luxuries (air conditioning, electricity, indoor plumbing, refrigeration, modern medicine) we enjoy, they'd be perplexed by all the whining. People then didn't experience angst about their existence. They were too busy doing whatever they had to do to survive another day.
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Old 10-18-2015, 04:15 PM
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A 9-5, 9-6 workday really isn't that bad. Especially if you don't have a brutal commute like usually do.

Look I get it, sometimes I question what life is about. Sometimes it's simply finding something worth fighting and struggling for because life is a fight. I feel that right now you have a hard time finding something to fight and struggle for.

But in regards to working that's what makes the time I have away from work that much sweeter and I appreciate it more because of that.
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Old 10-18-2015, 06:33 PM
Location: Gray Court, SC
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Well, now that you want to kill yourself, because you have to go to work, you can claim youre depressed, and draw disability!!!
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Old 10-18-2015, 06:46 PM
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For one thing, there are plenty of workplaces that offer more than one week of leave per year. I've worked in places where we started with three weeks and 3 personal days, not including sick leave.

But there are also a lot of alternatives to doing yourself in.

If you do something you truly love, although you might have the occasional bad day or rough week like everyone else, it won't seem like work.

You could start your own business, either to be an entrepreneur or an independent contractor. I read somewhere that 40% of American workers are independent contractors. That's what I am, and it is wonderful. I get so much more done working at home, and often my afternoons are free if I put in a good six hours from 8:00 to 2:00.

Or you could expatriate to a country with saner views on labor, as others have suggested.
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Old 10-18-2015, 06:49 PM
Location: Canada
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I actually feel sorry for the OP..mainly because when ones work entails a huge portion of your life..and yet have to work at something that doesn'e either stimulate you nor meets your needs of somehow making a difference...It's a sad reality of life..and many if not most actually work to pay bills and even after working links hours with no thanks or remuneration to equal the efforts..WELCOME to how more than 60% if not more of most human beings...

The biggest gift for any worker..is to actually ENJOY what they do ( wether or not lucrative) and feel like they either assisted or made a difference or at the very least..made whomever their customer was..enjoy their experience...
It does sound like the OP has some rather unrealistic expectations of what the world actually offers them?? Could it be..going into the workplace expecting more than you actually add to the dynamic?? Or is it..you expect the whole world to meet YOUR expectations?? Or is it..You wish to do the least work and receive the Excessive results for that??

Sorry..Life efforts for some is easy..some excessive..but in both bases..Not either actually see it in the same way...The easy come by types..expect more..and those who work more only want to increase their value and hopefully get some extra time to do what truly is important to them like spend more time with family..Sadly, Many work hard to support them..yet continually get blamed for their station in life!! Kind of like how Political Rhetoric's loves to paint hardworking/long hour employees as TAKERS of some sort...

Meanwhile..their families have someone important in their lives taken away from them..and Yes..It's always someones fault..NOPE..It's what society/economy/ POWERS that BE dictate....It's been going on for many decades!!
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Old 10-18-2015, 09:39 PM
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You work and make money so you can spend it in your hobbies/interest, that's the way I see it. If someone is working a 9-5 that's not paying enough for them to have some fun then that's their problem.

Pushing papers from 9-5 only gets you so far. It's more for job security than money.
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Old 10-19-2015, 05:20 AM
Location: Oregon
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Well said. this OP needs to find out other than what he/she knows. Because there's a lot more out there, and learning what is worthwhile and what's not is part of it. Learn what makes you feel happy, learn what you really need to be doing, do some dreaming, take some time for you.
But i know how frazzled a person can feel at the end of college, so that may be part of it. Take a break after you get done, do something refreshing. Those breaks of relaxation make a difference, whether they are an hour or a week or a month. In those times, you need to be truly resting and getting a good vision for yourself, and what you really need to be doing next.
What works for me big time,as a Christian, is praying, and really getting a full Sabbath day off that's total rest. Inspiration, redirect, rest and renewal are priceless and essential to human wellbeing.

Originally Posted by ca_north View Post
It's good that you're figuring this out at a young age. A lot of modern work just feeds consumerism and overpopulation. People make more stuff for more people who make more stuff for more people, and so on.

Economic growthism is a technical term for it. When oil and other forms of cheap energy allowed us to produce more than we needed, high-pressure marketing was born. That's why someone's always trying to sell you something. Many companies depend on sales hype to stay in business and are akin to drug-pushers. It's hard to find work totally detached from that mania unless you're a humble dirt farmer or mountain man.

I think many people instinctively know that the Protestant work ethic is tedious and unnatural, but they see it as a badge of honor to trudge through the day or show off how much money they make to others who may not even care.
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Old 10-20-2015, 02:52 AM
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Location: Dallas, TX
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IF life can be said to have any meaning, it's to prevent or mitigate suffering of others. It's more important that as many people as possible have realistically humane levels of food, clothing, shelter, mobility, dignity, and at least "not bad" psychological health than it is for anybody to be able to afford a Beverly Hills lifestyle. This definitely includes other people as well as you yourself. Differences of opinion do occur about whose suffering prevention or mitigation (and what type of suffering) has greater priority. But I see nothing wrong with the basic principle I just stated.

Pleasure (as in 'surplus good') is OK, but I can't see any great moral value in it except to the extent that it reduces sufferings or other "bads" (long story about why I give pleasure lower moral priority than prevention of bad). Even at lower intensities for pleasure or suffering, posting on C-D is important only to the extent that the displeasure at not posting on it would be worse.

There's a lot more anyone can say about this matter, of course. This is just my bare-bones take about it.
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