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Old 12-27-2015, 06:54 AM
 
Location: Groveland, FL
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I was reading a Dear Abby column yesterday that made me sad. A woman told about how she and a few others were waiting to receive their chemo treatments. All were in their final stages of cancer and didn't have much time left. She said one of the men told the others that when his wife would bring him to his appointments, she'd be wrapped up with her cellphone rather than paying attention to him. She said he looked so sad when he said this. I thought about how awful he must feel. He has so little time left, and he feels like his wife would rather play on her phone than to have those last memories with her husband. I have been thinking back over the years about how wrapped up people are becoming with their gadgets to the point of ignoring those around them. In a restaurant, I saw a table of four friends ALL playing on their phones rather than making eye contact with each other or conversing. I go to supermarkets and see mothers pushing their baby in a cart with one hand while texting with the other while the baby doesn't get the attention and stimuli afforded the babies of yesterday's generation. Does anybody else think that this is a pretty sad state of affairs?
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Old 12-27-2015, 07:28 AM
 
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First thought I had:

There is being preoccupied with the gadget and then there is deliberately using the gadget to avoid dealing with something you would rather not have to deal with. I think people do it for different reasons.

And yes, I think it is sad and a mistake.

The one that made my heart ache a little was a little girl taking a walk with her daddy. She was pleasantly chattering away, seeming so happy to be out for a stroll with dad. Her little finger was pointing things out and she was asking questions. There dad was with his nose stuck in an iPhone totally oblivious to that sweet little voice.
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Old 12-27-2015, 08:58 AM
 
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My son was interviewing people for a job and he commented being surprised any of them could raise their head up to look at him because while waiting, they were all looking at their phones.

I think there is a whole generation which will begin the mutation of necks growing a different direction.

Went to dinner recently with a couple and their 3 children. The children did not have phones, but each had an electronic device they played with all through the meal.
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Old 12-27-2015, 09:44 AM
 
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I took a twenty-something to lunch and realized she was fiddling with something under the table.
"Oh no, you aren't?" I asked in disbelief when I realized she was texting.

She looked so sheepish and put it in her purse. Then she fidgeted for a few minutes and excused herself to use the restroom.

I thought it almost looked like addiction. Something she couldn't say no to.
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Old 12-27-2015, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Groveland, FL
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My son was interviewing people for a job and he commented being surprised any of them could raise their head up to look at him because while waiting, they were all looking at their phones.

I think there is a whole generation which will begin the mutation of necks growing a different direction.
I had thought about this issue before, too. Your post made me decide to do a little research, and I found this article about "text-neck". Teens' compulsive texting can cause neck injury, experts warn - LA Times
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Old 12-27-2015, 06:41 PM
 
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yahhhh...it sure is a sad state of affairs alright.
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Old 12-27-2015, 06:45 PM
 
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I had thought about this issue before, too. Your post made me decide to do a little research, and I found this article about "text-neck". Teens' compulsive texting can cause neck injury, experts warn - LA Times
Thanks! That's a great article. I'm sending it to some people who need to read it.
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Old 12-27-2015, 11:52 PM
 
Location: TOVCCA
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Dog happily jumping at their person, wanting to play. Person playing with cellphone.
Child excitedly talking at their parent, wanting to show them something. Parent talking on cellphone.
See it all the time.
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Old 12-28-2015, 03:47 AM
 
Location: Guangzhou, China
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I remember circa 2004, my ex-fiance got a brand-new Powerbook that engulfed her life. After she got it, we stopped doing our nightly walks by the beach (we lived in Venice Beach, CA), because there was always "something to work on." I'd ask her a question, and then have to say her name two or three times, progressively louder, before she looked up and gave a dopey, "...huh?" I had to go on road trips for work in a company car, and after a couple years of insisting that she had to go with me no matter what, first, she got a car adapter for the laptop, and then, she just stopped going altogether. She would be on the computer when I left home, and she'd be on it when I got home. If I went to pick her up at school (she was in art school), guaranteed, I would find her in the student hall with her back to a lot of the people she'd formerly hung out with, staring at the screen of her computer. "HEY, _______! What's up, man?" They'd say, and she wouldn't hear it. I could talk to them for 45 minutes, right behind her, without her sending me a "where are you?" message, and when she realized I'd been there the whole time, she'd just go, "oh, well, we can stay if you want to hang out with people," and go back to her laptop. If we went out to eat and I went to go use the bathroom, I'd come back and that silver piece of crap would be on the table.

Eventually, the thing wore out, since it was in use about 16 hours per day for a year and a half straight, and it was one of the worst crises of her life. She was more distraught than she was when a pet she'd had since she was a little girl had died, or when a friend of ours died. She demanded that we get to the Apple store before it was too late, and when we got there and it was closed, we found a repair shop in Koreatown that could do it for double the price, and she agreed without hesitation.

At the onset of this, our relationship was experiencing some difficulties, mostly over her sexuality - she had always identified (quite vocally) as "bi," but over time, consciously hunted out gay friends and made it so that most of her social circle revolved around the gay community. Long before we broke up, I'd realized she was really just a closeted lesbian who stayed with me out of routine, familiarity, and stability (I made good money - I'd bought her the damn computer in the first place). The computer was her link to the LGBT chat rooms and forums which were her refuge, and over time, took precedent over our actual relationship. Over time, the computer itself - as a physical object and not simply as a tool - took on huge significance to both of us - to her, her freedom and liberation... to me, a frustrating obstacle to enjoying a relationship with the woman I shared a home with and supported. I still have yet to buy an Apple product for my personal use since then
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Old 12-28-2015, 05:38 AM
 
Location: rural south west UK
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that's modern life for you, people are ADDICTED(and yes that is the right word) to their technology.
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