Dating scene for single male (doctor) (Pittsburgh: home, school, living)

[josh238]

how is the dating scene here in pittsburgh for young professionals. I know being a doctor is supposed to be a plus- but trust me its not.

How is the casual dating scene? Bar hookups? What types of professional women are available for long term serious dating? Is it difficult to meet people- how about in the winter?

[Moby Hick]

What do you mean by "professional"?

[UKyank]

Originally Posted by josh238

how is the dating scene here in pittsburgh for young professionals. I know being a doctor is supposed to be a plus- but trust me its not.

How is the casual dating scene? Bar hookups? What types of professional women are available for long term serious dating? Is it difficult to meet people- how about in the winter?

Pretty much the same mix of women as you will find anywhere else with a mix of professional service jobs. Not sure what the bolded part means?

[SteelCityRising]

You've never heard that women find rich successful doctors to be a turn-on? Speaking from personal experience as someone who has always been the primary breadwinner I'd be so happy if someone successful like that showed an interest in me, so, yeah, being a doctor should give him an advantage.

[I_Like_Spam]

In your other posts, doc, you said that you were looking to figure out what city to do your residency in.

so you really aren't a doctor, just a resident or intern, right now, and probably not making that terribly much.

I'd say your best bet would be to be active in a church or synagogue so you can meet people that will be able to help you in your professional life. Good prospects for patients, other folks in the medical profession that you might be able to get into their practice and who might also have family members that they might want you to meet- you do have potential as a family man.

[josh238]

No, im currently a resident. But whether you are an intern or resident or attending you are still a doctor. i find it odious that only if I am making x amount of money as a doctor would someone be more interested in me- if Im to have a life long partner I expect her to show me interest when I am at my most difficult (ie less finances).

Also- Im just saying- being a doctor or resident or whatever doesnt mean women are throwing themselves at me- its hard to meet when you work 60+ hours a week.

I am searching a variety of cities to identify places that have an ease to meeting women. Im from Pittsburgh suburbs but moved out to a nearby city for med school- i never experienced the city life as much so I dont know much about it- but I am comfortable and familiar with the area.

I was looking into other cities with a lot of residency opportunities that I liked (ie fellowship/research etc) but I want to go to a place where I can meet as many women as possible and make the best decision.

Too many of my fellow docs marry whatever is available or falls in their lap- only to regret later. I've met way too many divorced doctors who were my attendings to be satisfied with this attitude.

[bluecarebear]

Originally Posted by josh238

i find it odious that only if I am making x amount of money as a doctor would someone be more interested in me- if Im to have a life long partner I expect her to show me interest when I am at my most difficult (ie less finances).

Good luck. There are too many threads to count on the shallowness of the Hookup Culture.

[Hopes]

Originally Posted by SteelCityRising

You've never heard that women find rich successful doctors to be a turn-on? Speaking from personal experience as someone who has always been the primary breadwinner I'd be so happy if someone successful like that showed an interest in me, so, yeah, being a doctor should give him an advantage.

It's hard to be a doctor's spouse. It's a lonely life. It requires an incredibly confident and independent person because the majority of their lives is like living single due to the incredibly long hours doctors work. I know women who are basically single mothers because their husbands don't get home from work until 11pm, and they're back out the door at 5pm or earlier. They really only see their spouses on the weekends, and sometimes they are on call or working on the weekends. Someone who would be "so happy if someone successful showed an interest" isn't the type of person who could endure the long haul.

Originally Posted by josh238

No, im currently a resident. But whether you are an intern or resident or attending you are still a doctor. i find it odious that only if I am making x amount of money as a doctor would someone be more interested in me- if Im to have a life long partner I expect her to show me interest when I am at my most difficult (ie less finances).

On the flip side, many doctors divorce spouses who financially supported them though their internship and residency.

Originally Posted by josh238

I am searching a variety of cities to identify places that have an ease to meeting women. Im from Pittsburgh suburbs but moved out to a nearby city for med school- i never experienced the city life as much so I dont know much about it- but I am comfortable and familiar with the area.

I was looking into other cities with a lot of residency opportunities that I liked (ie fellowship/research etc) but I want to go to a place where I can meet as many women as possible and make the best decision.

Too many of my fellow docs marry whatever is available or falls in their lap- only to regret later. I've met way too many divorced doctors who were my attendings to be satisfied with this attitude.

The most successful marriages I know are doctors who are married to other doctors. Since you're working such long hours, your social life will be mostly in the hospital setting. I don't think one city will have more female interns and residents than another city.

[Tiger Beer]

Originally Posted by josh238

Too many of my fellow docs marry whatever is available or falls in their lap- only to regret later. I've met way too many divorced doctors who were my attendings to be satisfied with this attitude.

I think that goes with the territory of working 60+ hours a week.

Being in a city where there is a lot more dating opportunities wouldn't decrease your chances. You'd still have the same chance when it comes to a 1-on-1 relationship. Unless you are saying, you only want to date a lot, without long-term commitments of marriage, etc.

[Hopes]

Originally Posted by josh238

i find it odious that only if I am making x amount of money as a doctor would someone be more interested in me- if Im to have a life long partner I expect her to show me interest when I am at my most difficult (ie less finances

There are women who will show an interest while you are poor for the payoff years later. If this is truly how you feel, don't tell them you are a resident when you meet them and first start dating until they have already shown a genuine interest in you. That's the only way you can know for sure. Plus, you'll be a hypocrite if you tell women you're a resident to get dates.