Rudeness in Pittsburgh (lessons, complaints, offer)

[londonbarcelona]

Originally Posted by GirlFromJersey

I'm from New Jersey, I have dealt with my fair share of attitude, sass. snobbery, etc. and I'd have to agree that I've noticed a higher level of rudeness here.

It's not so much that people are outrightly rude, but if there's anything you don't agree on, their attitude changes immediately. If I tell people that my fiance and I are looking for houses in the northern suburbs, I get immediate attitude about why I don't want to stay close to the city and how all those places are full of rich and snobby people. When I inform people that I will probably move back to NJ or eastern PA after I graduate, (I'm a fashion major and there aren't many apparel companies headquartered here) I almost always get a laundry list of Pittsburgh's qualities. Yes, it's nice that there are plenty of museums and sights to see, but that's not going to make up for being jobless. It can sometimes feel like their itching for a fight.

And you know, I can almost understand it. I know what it's like to want to defend where you come from, to make people understand that it's not that bad, but when you're practically putting the other person down to make a point, it's not helpful anymore.

Thank you. You said it much better than I ever could. I guess I just get all wrapped up in my emotions. Thank you for popping in and clarifying what I've been trying to say all along!

[Katiana]

Add: Here are the first six responses, BTW:

1.

Originally Posted by PghREA

I'm not a native Pittsburgher but, have lived here for a long time. I haven't noticed any rudeness. Pittsburghers are rarely rude to people who are nice to them.
I travel alot also and really haven't noticed any rudeness - I guess I'm thick skinned or have a demeanor that evokes niceness.

Blames poster

2.

Originally Posted by Chuckles1821

I think when you're going to a restuarant or business and find rude people, that might be different than just a person on the street. If someone is working they might be stressed out or be dealing with pressure from their bosses, so I can understand some rudeness there.
I have found that generally, though, Pittsburghers are exceptionally friendly. If you're open to it, you can make new friends anywhere you go.

Blames poster

3.

Originally Posted by hnsq

I used to live just outside of Philadelphia, and compared to that, Pittsburgh is incredibly friendly. I people aren't as nice as small town USA, but as far as cities go, I am pretty happy with Pittsburgh.

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4.

Originally Posted by Bong477

I've found Pittsburgh on average to be way more friendly and polite than other places I lived or spent substantial time in (DC, hampton roads, NJ/NYC area to name a few). You do run into a rude person every once a while of course, but its not typical.

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5.

Originally Posted by BrianTH

In my experience, Pittsburgh folks are at least as friendly as the people in the Midwestern cities where I have lived (Detroit and Chicago), and considerably more friendly than the East Coast cities where I have lived or spent considerable time.

Of course this is all city-to-city comparisons--the friendliest people (at least in a context like a business or restaurant) I have met have tended to be in rural areas.

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6.

Originally Posted by zip95

As far as cities go...Pittsburgh is one of the friendliest.

If you compare Pittsburgh to a small town...I guess it's possible to get a different answer.

Disagrees

[Chuckles1821]

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Originally Posted by Chuckles1821
I think when you're going to a restuarant or business and find rude people, that might be different than just a person on the street. If someone is working they might be stressed out or be dealing with pressure from their bosses, so I can understand some rudeness there.
I have found that generally, though, Pittsburghers are exceptionally friendly. If you're open to it, you can make new friends anywhere you go.

Blames poster

C'mon now, I wasn't blaming anyone. I am just saying that in my opinion, it is easy to make friends in the city. My post was not rude, nor did I attack what the original poster said. Don't add me in with the people who are taking this too far.

[londonbarcelona]

Originally Posted by BrianTH

I'm honestly not sure to what you are referring. I used the word "snarky" because you used it in your post.

In any event, I really am trying to provide you with constructive advice. Since it appears it isn't coming across that way, I will stop.

I apologize Brian. It was Guylocke who used that term with me.

"Maybe someone can fill me in on how to find a job in the 'burgh.
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Posted By guylocke
In 2006 the Pittsburgh region hired new people...

In 2006 the Pittsburgh region hired new people for over SIX HUNDRED THOUSAND jobs. So let's keep the snarky replies to yourself especially since the original poster specifically asked for...

[guylocke]

I only quoted the original poster!!! lol. It was a snarky comment, London, you can't deny that!

[londonbarcelona]

Originally Posted by guylocke

I only quoted the original poster!!! lol. It was a snarky comment, London, you can't deny that!

Denied. It was an opinion. Geez. No wonder so many people move away from Pittsburgh..........

[BrianTH]

Originally Posted by Katiana

You can blame londonbarcelona and I all you want for the tone of this thread.

I said I would not comment again, but I don't think I should let this pass. I am not "blaming" you and londonbarcelona for the tone of this forum, or of this thread for that matter. Rather, what I have been trying to do is give you both helpful advice about the sorts of comments which are counterproductive to improving the tone here. Obviously I have not been able to persuade you that my advice on this subject is worth following, but I don't take that conclusion to this discussion personally. I hope you can do the same.

[BrianTH]

Originally Posted by Chuckles1821

C'mon now, I wasn't blaming anyone. I am just saying that in my opinion, it is easy to make friends in the city. My post was not rude, nor did I attack what the original poster said. Don't add me in with the people who are taking this too far.

For what it is worth, I agree, in that I think neither of the comments Katiana described as "blames poster" actually did that. Rather, they were stating what the person just believed about how people in Pittsburgh generally behave, and again people should feel free to express their honest opinions on such subjects.

[guylocke]

It fits the definition of snarky pretty well in my book, short, rudely sarcastic, irritable. I imagine the OP would agree. lol.

[BrianTH]

Originally Posted by londonbarcelona

I apologize Brian.

No problem, and in fact I was far more puzzled than offended.