Pittsburgh vs. L.A.....Need advice (neighborhood, beach, smog)
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wherever it is that I move I kind of want to make it permanent. And because of all the great things of I heard and seen around Pittsburgh, I feel that it would be the better choice.
I think that my friend and I both know that once we're ready to start settling down...it's probably going to be harder to do in L.A. (Although with the last few ex's I had, I'm starting to wonder if most of the men in the world have lost all their brain cells!) Haha!
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Originally Posted by jazz06
In my opinion, Pittsburgh is that place for me. And I think with how bad off California has been for the last few years, I'd be terrified to move there.
It sounds to me like you've already chosen Pittsburgh, it is just a matter of if your friend can influence you to move to L.A. instead, or if you can influence your friend to move to Pittsburgh.
Does she like Pittsburgh?
It's possible that you both will have to go separate ways...which isn't bad. You also need to see how serious she is with L.A., and if she wants to just 'taste it for a did there, done that' experience...or if that really is THE place she sees herself in her life.
No matter what, in life, no matter how good of friends you are right now, you'll be making work friends, neighborhood friends, and later boyfriends that turn into husbands with familys and such.
So that friend now might be great for an initial move, but in the end, it's just you living out your own life as well.
Yeah she likes Pittsburgh. It's the thought of L.A. that makes her want to live there. I've almost got her convinced. Haha! I've been trying to convince her for months and now it's working. Thanks to all of the advice that has been given!
Good luck! Incidentally, in my view the bottomline is that Pittsburgh and LA both have pretty strong characters in their own ways, so if you try one and don't like it, the other will very likely still be waiting for you. Not that you shouldn't take your best guess right now, but you aren't really going to be locked in permanently if it ends up feeling like you made the wrong choice with the benefit of hindsight.
It's possible that you both will have to go separate ways...which isn't bad. You also need to see how serious she is with L.A., and if she wants to just 'taste it for a did there, done that' experience...or if that really is THE place she sees herself in her life.
No matter what, in life, no matter how good of friends you are right now, you'll be making work friends, neighborhood friends, and later boyfriends that turn into husbands with familys and such.
So that friend now might be great for an initial move, but in the end, it's just you living out your own life as well.
I was thinking this last night. Two girls moving to a city together---they better both like it. There's a huge possibility that one could move in with a new boyfriend within a mere 6 months, and the other will be left to fend for herself.
It sounds like Jazz is the most responsible of the two. Jazz's reasons are mature, her friend's reasons are less so. As a result, I see Jazz's friend most likely to end up in whirlwind relationships and Jazz most likely to be the first to settle down into a meaningful marriage. That tells me that Jazz could very well end up stuck in LA living on her own. As a result, Jazz should move where Jazz will be happiest.
To be fair, we are only conversing with Jazz, so I don't feel like we are really in a position to judge Jazz's friend too much (not that I think Jazz is being inaccurate, but it is difficult to get much of a sense of a person secondhand even under the best of circumstances).
I was thinking this last night. Two girls moving to a city together---they better both like it. There's a huge possibility that one could move in with a new boyfriend within a mere 6 months, and the other will be left to fend for herself.
It sounds like Jazz is the most responsible of the two. Jazz's reasons are mature, her friend's reasons are less so. As a result, I see Jazz's friend most likely to end up in whirlwind relationships and Jazz most likely to be the first to settle down into a meaningful marriage. That tells me that Jazz could very well end up stuck in LA living on her own. As a result, Jazz should move where Jazz will be happiest.
Well thank you for that comment! My friend is very mature. We will agree on a place (I pray that it is Pittsburgh), but if we don't then I will probably still move on my own then. It's just I didn't want to be in a place completely by myself not knowing anyone! Hence the advantage of having my best friend move with me! But I do believe that Pittsburgh will be the final decision for her and then we can get started on locking down a place to live and things of that matter!
To be fair, we are only conversing with Jazz, so I don't feel like we are really in a position to judge Jazz's friend too much (not that I think Jazz is being inaccurate, but it is difficult to get much of a sense of a person secondhand even under the best of circumstances).
I'm in a position to judge anything anyone posts on the internet. Just going wtih the information at hand. Couldn't think of a better way to convey this important factor to Jazz if she hadn't thought about it already. It would be a terrible thing to move to a new city expecting to have a friend's help with the cost of living and then end up living alone.
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Originally Posted by jazz06
Well thank you for that comment! My friend is very mature. We will agree on a place (I pray that it is Pittsburgh), but if we don't then I will probably still move on my own then. It's just I didn't want to be in a place completely by myself not knowing anyone! Hence the advantage of having my best friend move with me! But I do believe that Pittsburgh will be the final decision for her and then we can get started on locking down a place to live and things of that matter!
I moved to a new city alone at your age, and it was very exciting, not lonely at all. But I can understand your fear.
If you were to post this question in the Cleveland, Boston, Philly, Denver, or any other city, I'm sure most people would say, Are you nuts, go to LA!
I spent a week in LA, my impression: smog, traffic jams, fake boobs.
Of course, you can find that in the 'burg as well.
One thing you will be able to do is live very cheaply and have a ton of disposable income. There are lots of apts throughout the area that are very, very reasonable. And at your age, I'm guessing you won't be home much anyhow.
Hell, if my townhouse rental was vacant I'd offer it to you since at a very young age you and your BFF sound level headed.
If you were to post this question in the Cleveland, Boston, Philly, Denver, or any other city, I'm sure most people would say, Are you nuts, go to LA!
I spent a week in LA, my impression: smog, traffic jams, fake boobs.
Of course, you can find that in the 'burg as well.
One thing you will be able to do is live very cheaply and have a ton of disposable income. There are lots of apts throughout the area that are very, very reasonable. And at your age, I'm guessing you won't be home much anyhow.
Hell, if my townhouse rental was vacant I'd offer it to you since at a very young age you and your BFF sound level headed.
Good luck to which ever city you choose.
Damn, I have socks older than you.
Haha! Yeah. I didn't like the impression that I got when I was in L.A. We probably wouldn't be home much just because of school and work and going out a few times. We are interested in living in downtown or even some surrounding areas like Shadyside, Oakland, maybe even North Shore (the gated apartments over there). I wouldn't mind living in a townhouse either. (Still convincing her! She's borderline!)
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My friend is very mature. We will agree on a place (I pray that it is Pittsburgh), but if we don't then I will probably still move on my own then. It's just I didn't want to be in a place completely by myself not knowing anyone!
Hence the advantage of having my best friend move with me! But I do believe that Pittsburgh will be the final decision for her and then we can get started on locking down a place to live and things of that matter!
