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Originally Posted by LuckyGem
This thread is the perfect example of why people should be more than careful with their reproductive capability.
Child of Incest = automatic grounds for abortion.
Child raised by grandparents because mother rejected/was incapable of raising her child and the child grows up thinking the mother is their sister (and father is absent) = The foundation for a dysfunctional adult if they do not adjust well to their new reality after told the truth, and that they lived a lie up to the present.
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The reality is that likely the child will be born before an aborition is possible. So if the situation is discovered and the choice is there its a solution (but one with just as much trauma if it goes through for some), but highly likely it will no be an option.
Telling someone a dark family secret is always a hard thing. It will remain a problem as long as its kept a secret. Likely the child will not be told, or will not be told with any consideration, if the deep dard family secret is ongoing and the perpatrator is there. But the truth is still going to come out eventually no matter what anyone wants. And if done properly it can be survivable. Therapy is something that will come into the equation if done right.
What we really need is to take incest out of the deep dark hiding place we keep it, where we can pretend it isn't so common and it really isn't that often. We do not want to think of it and do not want to deal with it and we make *shame* on the part of the victums a brick wall to recovery. And we encourage it to remain a secret, so uncle is not allowed to be near the kids at family gatherings and especially those kids, but its the family duty. The sickness is still there and uncle is free to find someone else. For the survivors, if we make it a "shame" it is always going to be a trauma they cannot let go.