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Absolutely not. Not in public or private. Research clearly shows that spanking is harmful. I expect the usual anti-science crowd to deny it, of course.
My family spanked (and has for generations). We are all fine. Successful, well-grounded, etc.
Abuse is harmful. But spanking doesn't have to be abuse.
One thing I tell people who are going to spank is to only spank after they have cooled down. Don't hit your children when you are angry as it is something that shouldn't be done out of anger, but rather merely as a form of discipline.
When my kids were young, like 2 and 3, glaring did nothing. Later on it did.
A spank can be effective for a kid who isn't able to be reasoned with, whether due to age, or because they're in the middle of a temper tantrum. So yes, I spanked mine, but from roughly ages 2 to 4. After that, the tantrums stopped, you could explain things to them, and alternate forms of consequences were more effective. Also, I like 'consequences' better than 'punishments'.
A few slaps on the bum might help with a small child. However, one thing I notice is that it doesn't always stay that way. There are kids get beatings well into their teen years. You have to wonder what the parents are thinking. You also have to wonder if it's really that effective, especially on teenagers. Do said kids understand consequences?
A few slaps on the bum might help with a small child. However, one thing I notice is that it doesn't always stay that way. There are kids get beatings well into their teen years. You have to wonder what the parents are thinking. You also have to wonder if it's really that effective, especially on teenagers. Do said kids understand consequences?
What they learn: "If you do something that I don't like, I'm allowed to hit you and scream at you."
What do they do when they're older? Hit and and scream at people who do things that they don't like...or worse.
What they learn: "If you do something that I don't like, I'm allowed to hit you and scream at you."
What do they do when they're older? Hit and and scream at people who do things that they don't like...or worse.
Understand this is not an argument against spanking, but rather, a follow up on what you have mentioned. I'm wondering if this is why Jamaica has one of the highest murder rates in North America, a country where corporal punishment is pretty much common place. I wonder if some kids learn that violence is normal. I think about the prisons. Alot of them probably got beatings when they were kids. And still ended up doing violent things as adults (or before they became adults).
If it is warranted and not excessive. One time I was in my house and the kids next door were throwing rocks at the windows on my house. I yelled at them out the window. One kid just laughed and kept thowing them. I went outside, walked over to the kid, grabbed him with one hand and wacked his ass with the other hand. His mother who was also outside looked at the kid and said calmy “He told you to stop.”
Not a good idea these days to be hitting your child in public. You may find yourself behind bars and the child in a foster home. Why bring trouble with the law to your front door?
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