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Honestly though...morality aside, the original point of this thread is to question if it's a "trait" or a "choice". It's clearly a choice that people choose to engage in or not.
Are you saying you expect gay people to be celibate and not engage in relationships with people they are biologically hardwired to be attracted to romantically and sexually?
Are you saying you expect gay people to be celibate and not engage in relationships with people they are biologically hardwired to be attracted to romantically and sexually?
Why?
I honestly don't care what people do behind closed doors. But again...the fact that you can choose to do it or not proves it's a choice.
If you're telling me that you can't control yourself and you're just some animal that hops on the nearest gay person you can find....then yes...it's not a choice and you're hypersexual.
On the other hand, if you're like anyone else, and you can choose whom you're intimate with and who you're not...then it's a choice--just like the choices any hetero man goes through.
I honestly don't care who you're attracted to or what you do behind closed doors.
There is no sex needed to be a heterosexual or a homosexual. I don't understand why the paradigm is thought of this way when it comes to me but not to you. Do you realize you're talking to someone who is 34 and has only dated ONE person his whole life. Guess what i'm a hom0sexual. I was a homosexual all the way until age 28 too even before i ever dated. I have a teenage nephew who is a heterosexual and yet has never had sex. I never had sex until age 28.
I honestly don't care what people do behind closed doors. But again...the fact that you can choose to do it or not proves it's a choice.
Having sex is a choice but being gay isn't. Even if I never have sex in my whole life, I will still be gay. Even if a gay person has sex with people of the opposite sex and derives no pleasure whatsoever from it, they are still gay. Behavior and orientation are two separate things.
There is no sex needed to be a heterosexual or a homosexual. I don't understand why the paradigm is thought of this way when it comes to me but not to you. Do you realize you're talking to someone who is 34 and has only dated ONE person his whole life. Guess what i'm a hom0sexual. I was a homosexual all the way until age 28 too even before i ever dated. I have a teenage nephew who is a heterosexual and yet has never had sex. I never had sex until age 28.
I'd call you a human being. Whom you choose to be with is irrelevant in my mind.
As I pointed out above, this is a deviation from the OP's point. Go start a thread and we'll discuss it.
Clearly the op was referring to an emotional/physical same-sex attraction. You keep distinguishing the feelings/orientation for the same sex From acting on those attractions. May I ask... do you consider someone who never Acts on homosexual feelings to be gay ?
If you're telling me that you can't control yourself and you're just some animal that hops on the nearest gay person you can find....then yes...it's not a choice and you're hypersexual.
On the other hand, if you're like anyone else, and you can choose whom you're intimate with and who you're not...then it's a choice--just like the choices any hetero man goes through.
I honestly don't care who you're attracted to or what you do behind closed doors.
Why would you think he "hops on the nearest gay person he can find"? Being homosexual isn't about "lack of control" and indiscrimate sex.
He appears to be waiting for the "right man" to come along. Someone he has things in common with. Whose personality and temperament he likes. Who makes him laugh and feel joy. Who he is emotionally attracted to as well as physically attracted to.
As I pointed out above, this is a deviation from the OP's point. Go start a thread and we'll discuss it.
Haha. Another non-answer.
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