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Trying for a year without a pregnancy is diagnosed as infertility. You should talk to the OBGYN about whether or not there is an increased chance for secondary infertility because of how long it took to get pregnant the first time.
Done and thanks. Fortunately, after one is pregnant the first time it becomes easier the second time. Thanks for the concern though. We are happy with one or two children and we are just fortunate enough to have the one unlike many mid to late 30's females waiting to get their career or relationship started. But they'll find out soon enough I suppose, or get sticker shock once they see the cost for fertility medication or how their insurance company won't cover one penny of the $15,000 IVF cost.
I know a ton of people having first babies at about 35 with zero problems getting pregnant. Some do, but most don't. It's more iffy after 40.
You definitely need to report on their diet, exercise, and other factors that is producing this outlier population. Fertility specialists will want to know what's up with them. Might even be some money in it for you.
After 40, you're basically done unless you're doing IVF. Too many late 30 somethings and early 40 folks would dispute the "iffy" optimism.
You don't know what treatments they had to go through, and they will either lie to you because they are ashamed or want to keep it private from you. Perhaps early 30's but mid to late 30's is low to nil without mucho dinero assistance. But hey, keep going by anecdotal evidence and ignore your OBGYN when they tell you to make sure you get your first child before you're 30 or you're going to regret it.
Are you a woman? I've never been in a group of just women who DIDN'T talk freely about pregnancy, childbirth, or fertility issues, including every single gory detail. Why would you be ashamed by it? It's life. Most wouldn't bring it up at a dinner party, but women talk about just about everything pretty freely to each other.
Are you a woman? I've never been in a group of just women who DIDN'T talk freely about pregnancy, childbirth, or fertility issues, including every single gory detail. Why would you be ashamed by it? It's life. Most wouldn't bring it up at a dinner party, but women talk about just about everything pretty freely to each other.
That's cool and everything. Fortunately, I'm friends with women in my HS class and most are in the mid to late 30's. Those that didn't have children are undergoing fertility treatments, have given up (aka "taking a break"), or are desperately seeking sperm donors because they can't land a man. But like I said you should report your findings because you seem to be around a very unique group of people.
Done and thanks. Fortunately, after one is pregnant the first time it becomes easier the second time. Thnks for the concern though.
25% of people who are already parents experience secondary infertility. I don't know if more people fall into that secondary infertility diagnosis if they had infertility issues with the first child. That's what I was suggesting that you find out.
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We are happy with one or two children and we are just fortunate enough to have the one unlike many mid to late 30's females waiting to get their career or relationship started.
If a mid- to late-30's females are still waiting to get their careers started AND still putting off having kids, they may have bigger issues.
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But they'll find out soon enough I suppose, or get sticker shock once they see the cost for fertility medication or how their insurance company won't cover one penny of the $15,000 IVF cost.
Surprisingly the two friends that had IVF got 5 go's at it. Good insurance.
25% of people who are already parents experience secondary infertility. I don't know if more people fall into that secondary infertility diagnosis if they had infertility issues with the first child. That's what I was suggesting that you find out.
Thanks, appreciate the insight. Odds seem to be in my favor. Maybe someone could provide raw statistics instead of "tons of friends" anecdotal evidence to back up their rebuke when it comes to mid to late 30's fertility without IUI or IVF?
Personally, I think it's great schadenfreude to watch ultra-feminists' biological clock tick out so I think they should wait as long as possible to start trying.
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If a mid- to late-30's females are still waiting to get their careers started AND still putting off having kids, they may have bigger issues.
I agree.
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Surprisingly the two friends that had IVF got 5 go's at it. Good insurance.
Exceedingly rare. Even with coverage often times it's a 25% copay or something similar, still thousands of dollars per try. Plus the round of drugs you inject make you completely bats**t insane, from what my female friends have told me anyway.
Good luck with the planning part. Most 30 somethings have infertility problems and many do not make it past that due to the high cost of IUI and IVF, even with coverage. Fortunately, we lucked out being able to do natural but past 29 I wouldn't count on success so soon.
My sister had her first child at 41. No special treatments or anything.
I'll agree that success rates decline past 35 (can't agree on the 29), but declination is not the same thing as "you're screwed unless you have good insurance or get lucky."
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Why would you be ashamed by it? It's life. Most wouldn't bring it up at a dinner party, but women talk about just about everything pretty freely to each other.
Maybe someone could provide raw statistics instead of "tons of friends" anecdotal evidence to back up their rebuke when it comes to mid to late 30's fertility without IUI or IVF?
