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Whoever agrees with 12K/month for maintenanceis out of their freakin mind.
It does not matter what lifestyle she was used to during the marriage. The marriage has ended. He is no longer responsible for her, he is only responsible for his kids.
When the complaining is coming from women, I think a lot of it is sour grapes. They wanted to stay home because it sounds WONDERFUL and they didn't get the chance.
Au contraire. I never wanted to stay home, I never thought it would be WONDERFUL, and I loathed every second of it. I couldn't WAIT to go back to work. I was ready to hang myself.
It's not about what anyone deserves. These decisions are based on income and assets. I'm sure if it was about what she deserves he would think $2 would be too much...which he does and that's why his a** is in jail.
Exactly. It's not his right to determine what he thinks he should give her.
Whoever agrees with 12K/month for maintenanceis out of their freakin mind.
It does not matter what lifestyle she was used to during the marriage. The marriage has ended. He is no longer responsible for her, he is only responsible for his kids.
Wrong. Marriage is a contract. He got his benefits. Obviously he didn't think it was a contract. Too bad, so sad. These a-holes really make me angry. I'm glad he got his face out there, in case he ever decides to date - people will be able to warn his date what a piece of scum he is.
I am a woman, and a feminist and this is beyond bs. Alimony in most cases is just legal extortion plain and simple. I understand giving temporary alimony to a spouse who stayed out of the workforce to raise kids but then re enters the workforce or for those who are too old to become employable. I do not support it otherwise.
This is partly why I avoid divorced dads like the plague because many end up paying for their ex wife and the new wife often has to help support this lazy dead weight too.
Au contraire. I never wanted to stay home, I never thought it would be WONDERFUL, and I loathed every second of it. I couldn't WAIT to go back to work. I was ready to hang myself.
I agree with you. Being as housewife is no dream job. Raising kids is no dream job. Where do these people get that being home taking care of a house and kids is some luxury thing? If they really believed that, they'd find a way to plant their *****es home too, but they don't because they know better.
[quote=Idon'tdateyou;29509446]I am a woman, and a feminist and this is beyond bs. Alimony in most cases is just legal extortion plain and simple. I understand giving temporary alimony to a spouse who stayed out of the workforce to raise kids but then re enters the workforce or for those who are too old to become employable. I do not support it otherwise.
I would put money on it that you're a right winger. I'm right, huh?
That's another thing American men should be aware of - if your marriage does fall apart, there will be those who cheer your downfall, and regard it with glee. Sometimes the best way to win is not to play the game in the first place...
Her pay out was $768K over 6 years. It all depends on his income and how long they were married to know if that's reasonable or not.
It makes me nuts when people complain about alimony in situations where one spouse stayed at home and the other makes a very high income. The reason one spouse is usually home is to make it possible for the other spouse to work 24/7 to build their career. It's a sacrifice by the stay at home spouse, usually because it makes everyone else's life easier to have a 24/7 "wife and mom" to keep things running, even if it's not a whole lot of fun for mom, and she winds up taking care of EVERYTHING that both spouses normally cover together. When the complaining is coming from women, I think a lot of it is sour grapes. They wanted to stay home because it sounds WONDERFUL and they didn't get the chance. The reality is spending half your time in the car hauling kids, and the other half doing laundry, running errands, making sure home work is done, and cooking/cleaning. I was home when my kids were little, and although I adore them, I couldn't wait for them to get older so I could go back to work and spend my days with grownups. I stayed at home because it made life for my FAMILY easier--it was a lot of hard work for me, and it set back my own career. I'd LOVE to have a stay at home wife to take care of everything for me. It stinks to be one.
I have never desired to be a stay at home mom and many of the ones I know are simply too lazy to work. If a spouse stays at home they should be cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, running errands etc but many that I know often do little or nothing of these. Many even have a maid and nanny while they go shopping and to the gym (saw this with a relative). Other sahms I knew didn't cook or clean and expect their husband to do those because they are spending the day on the computer.
Those who truly work hard at home I respect but I still don't feel they deserve a lifetime of alimony.
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