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Old 06-02-2013, 12:03 PM
 
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Breadwinner Wives and Nervous Husbands - NYTimes.com

 
Old 06-02-2013, 02:52 PM
 
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I know a number of women who are doing well career wise, but some how it all balances out because nearly everyone of them is a spend thrift.
 
Old 06-02-2013, 03:01 PM
 
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A lot of women will resent their husband if their husband doesn't make as much as them.
 
Old 06-02-2013, 03:56 PM
 
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From the article:

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Given these findings, it isn’t surprising that when a wife earns more than her husband, the risk of divorce rises, too. To study this, the authors used a survey conducted in two waves, 1987-88 and 1992-93. (There were no more recent data available for this particular test.) Then they investigated the likelihood of a divorce in the five-year interval. For this sample, some 12 percent of all couples were divorced during this period — a sobering fact about the stability of marriages in general. But the divorce rate rose by half, to about 18 percent, for couples in which the wife earned more than the husband.

How to explain the jump? Some people might think that a wife who earns more will do fewer household chores than her tradition-bound mate expects. Regardless of your opinion about men who harbor such feelings, the facts rule out that explanation: women who earn more than their husbands actually do a greater share of household chores, compared with couples in which the wife works but earns less.
No kidding. If the breadwinning men of the 50s had to come home and do the lion's share of housework and child-rearing after a hard day at work, they would have been unhappy, too. I wonder why these women end up doing more chores. Oh, wait, I was that woman. For me at least, it was because he slacked off. He figured that if I was taking care of the bills, that was just in addition to taking care of the chores. Seems he assumed that the chores were inherently mine to begin with. The paycheck was just gravy. No thanks.

However, the author does note that it's not necessarily possible to tell who becomes unhappy first, the woman or the man.

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Is there any way to tell whether it’s the wife or the husband who becomes unhappy when the wife earns more? Does he think that she is threatening his manliness, or does she think that he’s a slacker?

That may be impossible to answer, partly because of something I learned long ago from Alvin E. Roth, a Nobel laureate in economics last year. I call it Roth’s rule: In equilibrium, it’s impossible for you to be happier than your spouse.
Makes sense to me.
 
Old 06-02-2013, 05:22 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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A lot of women will resent their husband if their husband doesn't make as much as them.

The fight for equal pay, then they get equal pay and look down on guys.


Typical women... get em back in the kitchen
 
Old 06-02-2013, 08:56 PM
 
Location: Austin
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The fight for equal pay, then they get equal pay and look down on guys.


Typical women... get em back in the kitchen
pot stirrer
 
Old 06-02-2013, 09:13 PM
 
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The fight for equal pay, then they get equal pay and look down on guys.


Typical women... get em back in the kitchen
feminism will soon collapse under the weight of it's own gravity.
 
Old 06-02-2013, 10:20 PM
 
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feminism will soon collapse under the weight of it's own gravity.
...but not before we have way more sex and way better sex than non-feminists, and make way more money, and have better health care, and cure cancer and global warming.

The heat death of the universe is a long way off. In the meantime, let's have fun!
 
Old 06-02-2013, 10:25 PM
 
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...but not before we have way more sex and way better sex than non-feminists, and make way more money, and have better health care, and cure cancer and global warming.

The heat death of the universe is a long way off. In the meantime, let's have fun!
Not that I have any problem with any of those things, but I noticed there was nothing in your reply about a fulfilling or lasting relationship with anybody. That's telling.
 
Old 06-02-2013, 10:26 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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The fight for equal pay, then they get equal pay and look down on guys.


Typical women... get em back in the kitchen
LOL..... We had a huge drunken debate in our family about Feminism this weekend.. LOL... it was funny...

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