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"I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of those that date lots and lots of (mostly, but not always) white guys.
Why? It's simple: I'm a racist."
"This trend has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with patriarchy and cultural sexism and a lifestyle I grew up with and want nothing to do with anymore."
"I date white men because the term "model minority" grosses me out. I date white men because it feels like I'm not ostracizing myself into an Asian ghetto and antiquated ideas of Asian unity. I still see myself as a minority. And with that, pretty soon comes connotations of "outsider." And I don't like that."
1. Will you date a self-proclaimed racist like her? Why or why not?
2. Can you be able to date a person who hates and disrespects her own culture and her own people? Why or why not?
3. Do you think American culture is a white culture? For a minority woman (or man), the only way to be accepted by American culture is to date white people?
Those words are a huge insight into why so many Asian American women only date, marry White men, and exclude Asian men with such ease. Asian women are not playing with this. They are on a mission. It still doesn't make much sense though. Asians are already accepted in the dominant White American culture. The dominant culture loves that 40% of their Universities are Asian, they love to hire Asians in their companies, they love giving Asians loans to start businesses all over the place, they love when Asian families move into their neighborhoods, they love to have Asian doctors, and they love sending their children to schools that have high populations of Asians. What exactly are Asian women after that they don't already have? Also it is comical that 'model minority' grosses her out. Asians greatly benefit from that in American society. Someone needs to ask her if she would like to trade the 'stereotypes' of Asians with the 'stereotypes' of Black people. I bet she would embrace that 'model minority' thing then.
This one is difficult for me, my wife is Asian. She has never dated an Asian as an adult, but according to her, it's simply a matter of attraction. She has a crush on some Asian actors, but she hasn't met anyone in person that she would want to date outside of high school. One thing I've noticed,which doesn't mean a thing, is that she like guys with long, european-style sharp noses. I have one, and she like's that dude Matt Bomer, who is actually gay, from White Collar, who has one also, so I guess she has a type.
She also likes Tony Parker, who is black but also has the same kind of nose, which is disconcerting since he actually lives here for most of the year and we run into him from time to time.
You know, I've never thought about it before, but I guess just as a guy can be a leg man or a breast man, a girl can be a nose girl.
Googling Nose Porn in 3,2,1..... Afraid of what I'll find!
Those words are a huge insight into why so many Asian American women only date, marry White men, and exclude Asian men with such ease. Asian women are not playing with this. They are on a mission.
Many Asian women culturally are taught to "marry-up", so it may be a matter for some of going with the dominant culture to obtain financial security. However, there are also plenty of Asian women who go for non-Asian American men because Asian men tend to fall into stereotypes of themselves, i.e. the boring STEM worker who is afraid to let loose.
Googling Nose Porn in 3,2,1..... Afraid of what I'll find!
I have never replied to any one of my posts. However, I am doing this as a public service.
Do not! Do not! Do not! EVER google the phrase "nose porn". I clearly did not think this one out. Sadly, if I just thought about it a little, I would probably have anticipated just what exactly would come up.
Seriously, you cannot unsee this. I need a shower, many in fact. WTF is it with some people?
The Asian cultural issue--in Asia--is one few American liberals would expect. Especially for a female feminist. They too rebel against "white" society and run for Far Eastern "wisdom." They're not as disdaining of American and Western culture as the Asian woman quoted in post #1 though.
While I like many aspects of various Asian societies--some of their traditional respect for elders is admirable--I'm not sure how well I could do being a female in one of those societies. Especially Buddhist.
One can get a better glimpse into the Southeast Asian portion through books like:
The parental treatment of the daughter in the "Catfish" book so disturbed me I had to go talk to my female Asian professor during office hours about it.
And the "Road of Lost Innocence" has forever scarred my heart I think. It was easier for me not knowing. In a selfish way I almost wish I never knew. Now I'm responsible for what I know--and I can choose to turn away to live in my own comfort.
Some Asian-American youth are at strong odds with some of the traditional views and cultural expectations held in some of their families.
But I think another part that affects a lot of Asian females is TV and what they see in movies.
I think the women is trying to bring attention to her blog more than anything.
I wouldn't date a women who was hung up on topics I consider silly. I don't typically date Asian or Hispanic women, but I didn't create a blog saying I only date Black and White women at the exclusion to the former group. What is she getting out of it other then attention
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