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Old 02-14-2014, 11:06 PM
 
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My last name has always been associated with my career and my eponymous business, so changing it was never an option.

 
Old 02-14-2014, 11:45 PM
 
Location: Illinois
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Well, that may have been the origin of the tradition, but it's not the tradition anymore, is it?

I mean, people still say 'bless you' when you sneeze, but nobody seriously thinks there are evil spirits in you anymore.

When I took my husband's name, I wasn't giving up my identity and cultural heritage. I was joining with him to create a family. We merged our finances, our furniture, everything. At the risk of sounding sappy, we became one. I suppose I could have hyphenated my name, but I really didn't feel the need to. I was proud and happy to take his name.

And by the way, from a geneology standpoint, people keeping their father's name is a nightmare.
Just because something is a tradition doesn't mean it has value. "It's the way we've always done it!" doesn't automatically make it right.
 
Old 02-14-2014, 11:58 PM
 
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I'd be disappointed if my wife didn't take my name because its something we discussed and decided upon. I'd hope if she didn't want to it would've been addressed.
 
Old 02-15-2014, 12:12 AM
 
Location: CA
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I always saw last name as partly functioning to connect you to your family. When you marry, you form a new family unit. It makes sense then that you share a name. This is especially true if you have kids.

Of course, nowadays it could be the man taking the woman's last name. But that's often your father's last name, so you have a man's name either way.

I don't think it's that big of a deal, but I do see valid reason behind the tradition. I'd personally change mine because I hate my last name anyway.
 
Old 02-15-2014, 05:56 AM
 
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Yes I believe..
An in India they sill use this tradition....
 
Old 02-15-2014, 07:19 AM
 
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Yes I believe..
An in India they sill use this tradition....
Yeah not only do women have to use their husband's family name but in some regions they also have their first name changed by the husband's family as well. Way to lose your entire identity.

The other half : Unequal unions - The Hindu
 
Old 02-15-2014, 07:28 AM
 
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Just because something is a tradition doesn't mean it has value. "It's the way we've always done it!" doesn't automatically make it right.
What about "That's the way I WANT to do it?" That alright with everybody? No?
 
Old 02-15-2014, 09:46 AM
 
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I always saw last name as partly functioning to connect you to your family. When you marry, you form a new family unit. It makes sense then that you share a name. This is especially true if you have kids.

Of course, nowadays it could be the man taking the woman's last name. But that's often your father's last name, so you have a man's name either way.

I don't think it's that big of a deal, but I do see valid reason behind the tradition. I'd personally change mine because I hate my last name anyway.
I know a couple that took syllables from each of their last names to make a new one. My husband and I came up with some tongue tying and funny examples when we tried the same. But in the end, I think I am glad I took his name as it turned out to be important to his father. Little did I know how important it would be to all of us to accommodate, cherish and care for the in-laws who are such wonderful people.
 
Old 02-15-2014, 09:51 AM
 
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I kept my last name, who needs to do more paperwork? Our last names are so simular, I wouldn't need to change any monograms.
 
Old 02-15-2014, 09:52 AM
 
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I kept my last name, who needs to do more paperwork? Our last names are so simular, I wouldn't need to change any monograms.
I don't remember doing any paperwork. But who knows, it was a long time ago!
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