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Since everyone knows that lesbians don't count because they're hot (sorry jjrose), here's a breakdown of what gay guys are like (I might have the percentages off a little bit, but not too much):
25% - Convince themselves/pretend that they're straight. Date women, maybe even marry them and have families and whatnot. May secretly look at something gay and feel horribly ashamed and guilty. Most gay guys experience this at least sometime in their lives.
20% - Probably appear to be asexual. Never date anyone. People start to wonder why they haven't ever had a girlfriend when they're in their mid-20s. People suspect that they might be gay, but they otherwise seem normal. They might come out to a few select people, but they do their best not to broadcast it to the world.
20% - Earnest, sincere guys who tried dating girls at one point but really that they're gay and this isn't going to happen. They want to live a normal life, get married, have a family, etc., and be respected by the rest of the world. They might be out, but they don't broadcast it to the world. Most here value monogamous relationships.
Note: These three groups generally don't like the activists and the promiscuous types.
20% - Middle of the roaders who have embraced gay culture, go to pride parades, and see themselves as distinct from being a straight guy. They might date but they probably have open relationships. Might still blend into the background in professional settings.
7.5% - Activists who shout "we're here, we're *****" very loudly and shame the 65% who would want to lead otherwise normal lives as hating themselves. Opposed to watching football and drinking beer because it's masculine.
7.5% - Promiscuous types who have a lot of issues and a lot of other problems. They dance in thongs at pride parades and think that's what being gay is all about, because they mask their insecurities with booze and sex with a different guy each night. A lot of them probably have AIDS and don't care.
The problem is that most of the population only sees the last two groups, or maybe the 20% "middle of the roaders" in some contexts. The 65% remain invisible to everybody but a select few.
Whoa, whoa, whoa!!! Where are the sources for these statistics?
Why must gays feel the need to say they are gay everywhere? Its a yearbook, who promotes sexuality in a year book?
Because they can. It's not promoting sexuality. It's all about them being accepted for who they are. Why do you have a problem with this. And please, do you have any idea how many high school girls get pregnant. And here you are worrying about a gay guy
Since everyone knows that lesbians don't count because they're hot (sorry jjrose), here's a breakdown of what gay guys are like (I might have the percentages off a little bit, but not too much):
25% - Convince themselves/pretend that they're straight. Date women, maybe even marry them and have families and whatnot. May secretly look at something gay and feel horribly ashamed and guilty. Most gay guys experience this at least sometime in their lives.
20% - Probably appear to be asexual. Never date anyone. People start to wonder why they haven't ever had a girlfriend when they're in their mid-20s. People suspect that they might be gay, but they otherwise seem normal. They might come out to a few select people, but they do their best not to broadcast it to the world.
20% - Earnest, sincere guys who tried dating girls at one point but really that they're gay and this isn't going to happen. They want to live a normal life, get married, have a family, etc., and be respected by the rest of the world. They might be out, but they don't broadcast it to the world. Most here value monogamous relationships.
Note: These three groups generally don't like the activists and the promiscuous types.
20% - Middle of the roaders who have embraced gay culture, go to pride parades, and see themselves as distinct from being a straight guy. They might date but they probably have open relationships. Might still blend into the background in professional settings.
7.5% - Activists who shout "we're here, we're *****" very loudly and shame the 65% who would want to lead otherwise normal lives as hating themselves. Opposed to watching football and drinking beer because it's masculine.
7.5% - Promiscuous types who have a lot of issues and a lot of other problems. They dance in thongs at pride parades and think that's what being gay is all about, because they mask their insecurities with booze and sex with a different guy each night. A lot of them probably have AIDS and don't care.
The problem is that most of the population only sees the last two groups, or maybe the 20% "middle of the roaders" in some contexts. The 65% remain invisible to everybody but a select few.
I suspect you pulled these numbers out of your left ear, but I do agree that not all gays act the same - just like any other group. The gay people I know are for the most part typical boring middle age people who have been in long term monogamous relationships and do no more to draw attention to themselves than your average middle aged couple. Unfortunately, the ones that I know who not like that tend to be in-your-face jerks who insist that they and their issues are the center of the universe. Unfortunately, what sticks out in your memory are the ones that are a thorn in your side who insists on drawing attention to themselves, even though they are outnumbered by nice ordinary people who just want to be able to quietly live their lives.
Our side is not as judgmental as the side you chose.
What about those that "out" people who don't want to be outed? Who are they to judge it is wrong to keep your private life private? Talk about not respecting someone's wishes and being judgmental. I had a student once who tried to commit suicide after another gay student decided every gay person was obligated to let people know they were gay, or they were a hypocrite who needed to be exposed.
If the high school were to allow this then they should be balanced and allow someone to come out as a heterosexual in the yearbook.
I was just thinking the same thing: what would people think if someone wrote a feature, and wanted it in the year book that addressed the subject: "why I am not a homosexual and I am proud of it? " This is just plain nutty as far as I am concerned. BTW, as I mentioned yesterday, there hasn't been anything about this in any of our papers, on radio or TV here in AR. I think I would like to know more about it? When did all this happen? I am not sure it really did..but I certainly could be wrong. I have searched google and yahoo. I can find a few similar claims, but they did not just happen and were not in AR. One was 2 years ago in TN. One was in Mich. Can anyone actually provide a reference to this and what really happened, if it happened at all. anyone can claim anything and a lot of what we see today on some of these blogs just are not legit.
I suspect you pulled these numbers out of your left ear, but I do agree that not all gays act the same - just like any other group. The gay people I know are for the most part typical boring middle age people who have been in long term monogamous relationships and do no more to draw attention to themselves than your average middle aged couple. Unfortunately, the ones that I know who not like that tend to be in-your-face jerks who insist that they and their issues are the center of the universe. Unfortunately, what sticks out in your memory are the ones that are a thorn in your side who insists on drawing attention to themselves, even though they are outnumbered by nice ordinary people who just want to be able to quietly live their lives.
Yeah, I obviously made up the numbers. It's fun to do!
But my main point is that outside of having family or friends who are gay, most people's exposure to gay people are either the activists or the hedonists. Most gay people aren't either and nobody knows that they're gay. In fact, some actively try to hide it.
You really think discrimination is forcing them to be promiscuous and have open relationships? Lol. Even today with less discrimination against them they still behave the same.
So, you actually believe heterosexual men are any different? There are gay men that like dating different men, mostly when they are younger, no different than straight men. Most older gay men want what other people want, someone who is commitment oriented to share their life with. Also, consider it is much more difficult for gay men to find their match, than it is for straight men, especially since women out number men, particularly when they are older. Also, women by nature often pressure men into marriage, it is societies norm. And yes, the oppression of being gay does affect their ability to form long lasting committed relationships. If you think gay men have it as easy as straight men, you must be really naive, but then phobes really aren't that concerned with being objective in their thinking.
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(sorry jjrose), here's a breakdown of what gay guys are like (I might have the percentages off a little bit, but not too much):
