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Originally Posted by eddiehaskell
With hurtful comments being the current event of the moment, I'm wondering if anyone here has ever made a racist/sexist/homophobic/hurtful remark (or even had the thought)? Do you know many people that have?
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Have I made a racist remark? Yes. Lots of times. The majority have been in regards to racist jokes. A few out of anger looking for the most hurtful things to say.
Have I made a sexist remark? Yes. Lots of times. The majority have been in regards to sexist jokes. A few out of anger looking for the most hurtful things to say.
Have I made a homophobic remark? Yes. Lots of times. The majority have been in regards to jokes. A few out of anger looking for the most hurtful things to say.
Have I made a hurtful remark? Yes. A few out of anger looking for the most hurtful things to say.
Some of the racist, hurtful, things I've said have included calling people "white trash" or "trailer trash". Don't get me wrong, I have also directed racial remarks towards black people, Hispanic people, Asian people, etc. The key is that it always comes back to looking for something hurtful. If the person is overweight, it would be a remark about their weight. So, even though I might have thrown out a racial slur in anger, it wasn't about the race in my remark, it was strictly looking for something that the person would take as offensive.
The good thing, if you will, is that it's pretty dang rare, but since I am nearly 50, over the years a comment, even every couple of years, turns into "lots of times". Additionally, the majority of them would have been when I was in that 17 - 30 bracket.
Now, would I not hire someone or be friends with someone due to their race, sex or sexual orientation? No. Would it bother me if my daughter started dating a person of a different race or even turned out to be gay? No, for the most part. As far as my daughter ending up being gay, it would bother me that there would be an increased chance that she wouldn't have children.
If you looked at my current group of friends, you're going to find almost exclusively white people. Why? It's quite simple, the area I live is dominated by mostly white people and the hobbies I have are dominated by mostly white people. In suburban Houston on the lake, you don't run into many other races wakesurfing. I only have 1 black friend who lives in LA. I only have 1 gay friend (who is more of an acquaintance - but with whom I'm having lunch with next week). I do have a couple of Hispanic friends and a couple of Middle Eastern friends, but the majority are white.
I believe the number of people who never make any hurtful remarks dealing with race, sexual orientation, weight, etc are going to be EXTREMELY small. However, I think most of the time they are made is for the hurt factor and not the prejudice factor.
Obviously, there are racists out there, and the owner of the Clippers is a racist.
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