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Old 03-23-2015, 11:09 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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in my not so humble opinion, in order to "get over" something bad that happens in ones life, they have to meet it head on. avoiding it only puts off the pain of healing. and it doesnt matter what that bad thing, or things are, for instance my kidneys have failed to the point where i am on dialysis three times per week. now i could sit around feeling sorry for myself, and say woe is me, etc. but instead i dont let it get me down.

death smiles at everyone, marines smile back. i not only smile back, but i kick his butt.
Hope you are feeling better now. That is a great attitude of yours. (( hugs ))

I agree with majority of your post. But I think everybody handles trauma differently, especially at early stage.

If certain situations are too triggering, I think they should avoid the situation if and only if avoiding the situation works better for them, do whatever they want to make themselves feel better. It is a long process and there is no one size fits all way to "get over" trauma.

Just my opinion anyway.

not everybody is a Marine lol
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:23 AM
 
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I think I would need a padded cell, never mind a safe room, if I had to listen
to all the liberal commie crap taught at Brown all day.
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:33 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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That's funny.

We have a 'quiet room' at work. The company is 99% Republican (employees and owners). Sometimes I think I'm the lone Democrat!

I have had trauma in my life. I found that the best thing to do is face it; read about what happened to others; watch shows about it, etc.

The more I have faced it, the less it has bothered me or triggered negative emotion. It's like a curse word; the more someone hears it the less impact it has.
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:35 AM
 
Location: deafened by howls of 'racism!!!'
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That's funny.

We have a 'quiet room' at work. The company is 99% Republican (employees and owners). Sometimes I think I'm the lone Democrat!

I have had trauma in my life. I found that the best thing to do is face it; read about what happened to others; watch shows about it, etc.

The more I have faced it, the less it has bothered me or triggered negative emotion. It's like a curse word; the more someone hears it the less impact it has.
unless the purpose of the quiet room at your place of employment is to recover from having your dearly and closely held beliefs challenged, I don't get your point of bringing it up.
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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That's funny.

We have a 'quiet room' at work. The company is 99% Republican (employees and owners). Sometimes I think I'm the lone Democrat!

I have had trauma in my life. I found that the best thing to do is face it; read about what happened to others; watch shows about it, etc.

The more I have faced it, the less it has bothered me or triggered negative emotion. It's like a curse word; the more someone hears it the less impact it has.
I experienced a loved one's suicide. I joined a support group. Many people in the support groups avoided certain situations (e.g. triggering movies)

Healing process is not the same for everybody else.

For example, soldiers with PTSD are often advised to avoid guns, many found it counterproductive, but this approach works for some.

It is important to realize that different people deal with trauma differently. There is no one size fits all way to "get over" it. matter of fact, one will NEVER get over that particular trauma, you get THROUGH it. You learn to live WITH it.

In this particular case, banning the debate just to avoid upsetting a few is counterproductive. Students need to figure out a way to deal with their own trauma.
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:41 AM
 
Location: Del Rio, TN
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WTF? Kindergarten for 20 year olds?
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:53 AM
 
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The wussifying of American youth continues according to plan.
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:59 AM
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That's funny.

We have a 'quiet room' at work. The company is 99% Republican (employees and owners).
Then it's to get away from noise.
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Old 03-23-2015, 12:06 PM
 
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Then it's to get away from noise.
Yeah, that would be a private phone call room, most every office has them.
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Old 03-23-2015, 12:07 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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unless the purpose of the quiet room at your place of employment is to recover from having your dearly and closely held beliefs challenged, I don't get your point of bringing it up.
It's the same concept...a place to get away for a while, whatever the reason.

Sorry if it offends you!
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