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Old 08-13-2016, 08:19 PM
 
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My son, who is autistic, was bullied off and on in middle school, and we fought with the school constantly. In 9th grade, another boy took a swing at him and my son had enough. He knocked the other boy out. They never bothered him again.
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Old 08-13-2016, 08:38 PM
 
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Was born and raised in this part of NYC and family still lives on Staten Island. Read this story earlier this morning on local newspaper's website and was just sick to my stomach. Know the area where the family lives and as they say "you just don't know".


Report: Staten Island boy, 13, commits suicide after he says he was bullied | SILive.com
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Old 08-13-2016, 08:55 PM
 
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Wait.
So his school didn't do anything.
What did his parents do?

Look at this kid's poor sweet face.

For the record local NYC news sources are reporting the school claims listened and took seriously the parent's complains up to and including providing support/counseling, interviewing all students in 7th and 8th grades, and even had the NYPD (local LE) visit the school a few times.


Staten Island family torn over teen's suicide; says he was bullied in school | abc7ny.com
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Old 08-13-2016, 09:03 PM
 
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For the record local NYC news sources are reporting the school claims listened and took seriously the parent's complains up to and including providing support/counseling, interviewing all students in 7th and 8th grades, and even had the NYPD (local LE) visit the school a few times.


Staten Island family torn over teen's suicide; says he was bullied in school | abc7ny.com
If the school didn't expel the bullies, then no, they didn't do everything they could to stop it.
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Old 08-13-2016, 09:06 PM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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Just a few comments:

1. There are 2 sides to every story, and we can't hear the school's side of the story due to confidentiality laws.
2. However, I've seen this pattern all too often, so I don't doubt that the school may have been very lax about bullying.
3. In my school the problem was the teaching staff. They would hear about things going on but not report it to an administrator. Then an angry parent would come in and I'd hear about it. When I would confront the teacher about it, I would typically get the response, "Well, boys will be boys", or "It's just part of growing up", or "You know how girls are". Finally I had to start formally reprimanding a few teachers and had a professional anti-bullying team come in for a day of staff workshops on bullying.
4. We usually could stop bullying...if we knew about it. But many kids (apparently not this one) would not tell adults they were being bullied.
5. Boys tend to bully physically. Girls tend to bully emotionally.

All too many schools are lax about this
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Old 08-13-2016, 09:08 PM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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If the school didn't expel the bullies, then no, they didn't do everything they could to stop it.
As a Catholic school they could have fairly easily expelled the bullies. In a public school, expulsion is far less easy, although significant suspensions are possible. And there's also the legal angle to pursue, although most parents will not do it.
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Old 08-13-2016, 09:10 PM
 
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My daughter had a problem with a boy bullying her. She told me, I wrote a letter to the teacher. The teacher brought the letter to the principal and that was that. The pen is pretty mighty if you know the correct words to use. Schools don't want legal issues.
Fortunately you had a teacher and principal who seem to care and did their job to stop the bullying. Unfortunately that is not always the case.
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Old 08-13-2016, 09:11 PM
 
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This is heartbreaking. But I just don't understand why he would kill himself. I was teased and bullied in school and it was horrible what I went through. But I never thought about killing myself
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Old 08-14-2016, 01:12 AM
 
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It's sad and tragic and I saw his father crying on TV. But why his parents didn't remove him from that school after the inappropriate response of school administration?
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Old 08-14-2016, 01:43 AM
 
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American teachers are afraid of the parents and do not want to intervene.
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