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View Poll Results: Would you accept your child if they came out as LGBT?
Yes, I would accept them 213 72.70%
I might have difficulty accepting them, but I will try 24 8.19%
I would accept it if they were gay or bisexual, but not if they were trans* 11 3.75%
I could not accept it 45 15.36%
Voters: 293. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 12-23-2016, 07:40 PM
 
Location: NJ/NY
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I just want my kids to have a happy life. As long as they are not hurting anybody else, I will accept whoever they are.
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Old 12-23-2016, 07:54 PM
 
Location: The Republic of Gilead
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A lot of parents can't accept gay children because they are embarrassed of how it will look on them if they have a gay child. A lot of the stories about parents throwing their kids to the streets when they come out of the closet come down to that.

I am in the closet, a big part of it being my family. I have been out before, but my family completely broke down and fell apart. They ended up manipulating me into conversion therapy and I have been closeted ever since (it didn't work, but my family thinks it did).
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:07 PM
 
Location: Free From The Oppressive State
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A lot (if not most) parents are at least somewhat unsupportive, and while I understand that it takes time to adjust expectations, it's sad when relationships become strained due to a child coming out. Although some people may feel that sticking to their principles is more important, and if they love their child, maybe they feel that helping them leave the LGBT lifestyle is best.

What does everyone think here?
What would I care who my fictional kid dates as long as they aren't being hurt? What is the point of this thread? Genuine curiosity, or are you fishing for something else?

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A lot of parents can't accept gay children because they are embarrassed of how it will look on them if they have a gay child. A lot of the stories about parents throwing their kids to the streets when they come out of the closet come down to that.

I am in the closet, a big part of it being my family. I have been out before, but my family completely broke down and fell apart. They ended up manipulating me into conversion therapy and I have been closeted ever since (it didn't work, but my family thinks it did).
Are you old enough to support yourself? If you are, then live your own life and hell with them. Don't waste your fricken life trying to be something that you are not. This happens on different scales, not just a gay person, it happens in regards to occupation, likes/dislikes, religion, thoughts/beliefs....

You will hate yourself later if you don't be true to yourself right now. You have one life. Live it as you are. If they can't accept it, that's their problem.
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:25 PM
 
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A lot (if not most) parents are at least somewhat unsupportive, and while I understand that it takes time to adjust expectations, it's sad when relationships become strained due to a child coming out. Although some people may feel that sticking to their principles is more important, and if they love their child, maybe they feel that helping them leave the LGBT lifestyle is best.

What does everyone think here?
I would absolutely support my child if they were bi, gay, transgender or whatever. How can you not support your child even if you disagree with them.
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:26 PM
 
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Yes. I would continue to love and accept my child if she was gay. I feel the same way about my grandkids. They would always have my and my husband's love and acceptance.
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:37 PM
 
Location: Denver metro
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I would hope that the answer is yes for most of the people on here. I am a gay man in his early 30s who came out over a decade ago to my parents. They weren't fans and laid their guilt on me in a major way (tried to convince me to go to reparative therapy, which I rejected). I guess we get along ok, but our relationship is distant. They essentially chose their evangelical Christian views over me. Sometimes, I wonder why they even bothered having me. If you can't accept the fact that your future child could potentially be gay by no choice or fault of their own, then please do the world a favor and keep your legs shut.
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:40 PM
 
Location: Long Island
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Of course I would accept it.

But I would worry every day about people mistreating him because of his orientation.
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:44 PM
 
Location: Gone
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Absolutely not. I won't get into my own personal beliefs here but no.
Enough said..................
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:45 PM
 
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I would hope that the answer is yes for most of the people on here. I am a gay man in his early 30s who came out over a decade ago to my parents. They weren't fans and laid their guilt on me in a major way (tried to convince me to go to reparative therapy, which I rejected). I guess we get along ok, but our relationship is distant. They essentially chose their evangelical Christian views over me. Sometimes, I wonder why they even bothered having me. If you can't accept the fact that your future child could potentially be gay by no choice or fault of their own, then please do the world a favor and keep your legs shut.
I was sympathetic to you until your last line about keeping legs shut. Women are always to blame I don't think so. How about men keeping it in their pants.
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Old 12-23-2016, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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I don't know. I don't have any children, so I cannot predict the future.
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