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I disagree. As a married woman of a certain age, I expect to be addressed by the honorific Mrs. until I personally invite you to do otherwise, and I will demonstrate the same respect to you by using the honorific Mr. when interacting with you. I am very uncomfortable with the assumption of intimacy inherent in the use of sweetheart outside of family relationships. And if you teach your children to call me the sickenly saccharine Miss "first name" you'd better duck, because there will soon be a shoe flying at your head.
The problem with your unreasonable expectation is that nobody, and I mean NOBODY gives a flying rip who you are, how old you are, if you're married, or what your first and/or last name is.
I don't think anyone cares if someone is particularly offended by being called sweetheart, its what you do in response to it that is befuddling some people. I would not complain to a supervisor because someone triggered me by calling me sweetheart. What if that person got fired because of my complaint? Is that justice being meted out for my inconvenience? Guess that'll learn 'em not to do that again.
Eh, to me, a northerner by birth, sweetheart is a term of familiarity and inappropriately used by those with whom I do not share a close relationship. I did not watch the video, so I cannot speak to the specifics of Judd's behavior, but I don't like it when people other than my huband or mother call me sweetheart either.
Yeah but Ashley Judd is from a southern family. She knows the cultural connotations.
She is choosing to be over sensitive and offended.
Where I'm from, you only call people sweetie if they're your romantic partners, much younger relatives, or if you happen to be the neighborhood sweet cookie-baking granny.
Or if you're consoling a good female friend. Like, "sweetie, he didn't deserve you anyway" if they're crying over a breakup or whatnot.
It is not a compliment, and it's been considered sexist for the last few decades.
Sweetheart has been considered sexist for decades? I never got that memo. I'd say it depends on how it's delivered. For some, it's just reflexive habit because it's common where they live.
Unless the person is being sarcastic or rude, it's almost never meant as an insult. I think people need to get over worrying about what strangers say to them unless it's intentionally rude or mean. Even then, who cares what strangers think of you? I would only get offended or hurt by something someone said if it was someone I knew, and even then I don't get offended very easily. Life's too short.
Oh - you don't care about anyone except yourself? You don't care about social issues? You don't care about justice and fairness? That's in large part what this forum is about, you know.
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Feminist Ashley Judd Loses Her Mind When Airport Worker Calls Her 'Sweetheart'
