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Old 11-22-2017, 05:21 AM
 
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Girls and boys shouldn’t be forced to hug/touch.

I’m notoriously touchy-feely. I love hugging, playing with hair, touching people. I try really hard to be considerate of people who don’t like to be touched—and those who may not have the strongest voices, such as children.

Let’s be real here: Little girls being forced to touch and hug adults are how pedophiles—even those from 40 years ago—are able to easily manipulate teen girls into doing disgusting things.

Girls (and boys), it’s OK to tell adults you don’t want to be touched in any way.

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Old 11-22-2017, 05:23 AM
 
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No one is saying to tell kids never to hug people, but to respect a child who doesn’t want to hug someone, anyone, don’t make them just because it’s a family member or you’re at a funeral. It’s really not a big deal. If someone needs a hug THAT badly from that one person/child, then maybe they are the one with an issue. Again, the reason for the kid not wanting to do it doesn’t matter at all.

I’m not a person who likes hugs. People I know know this. I will hug family, but friends I rarely hug. No one makes a big deal about it. The same logic applies to children, or should.

In your first post to me you said you heard someone on the radio say “you shouldn’t FORCE people to hug” because of sexual assault. Well yeah, you shouldn’t FORCE people to hug period. Maybe you meant to say something else, but that’s what you said.



So Granny doesn't get a hub because little Johnny doesn't like the way old people smell?
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Old 11-22-2017, 05:26 AM
 
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So Granny doesn't get a hub because little Johnny doesn't like the way old people smell?
Whatever the reason, Johnny doesn’t want to hug. He doesn’t have to.
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Old 11-22-2017, 05:35 AM
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Whatever the reason, Johnny doesn’t want to hug. He doesn’t have to.
Sorry, only one rep to give you now.

I do not understand why this concept is so difficult. Adults, rightly, feel that they have autonomy over their own bodies. Why should it be different for children?
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Old 11-22-2017, 05:42 AM
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You know, there is one thing I haven't seen mentioned here (if it was, and I missed it, my apologies), and here it is:

Why would anyone even want a hug, or any other expression of affection, that was not freely given? Doesn't that sort of defeat the entire purpose?
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Old 11-22-2017, 05:53 AM
 
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I only allow one person to touch me, that my secretary, she's a hugger and been around thirty years , still uncomfortable over that. I just don't like to be touch
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Old 11-22-2017, 05:54 AM
 
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I didn't even make a comment on that. I'm pointing out that all you SJW's are going to eventually make eye contact an assault if this keeps up.

I agree that degree of stupidity is coming from the liberal SJWs and will happen as the ball keeps rolling down hill.
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Old 11-22-2017, 06:02 AM
 
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Girls and boys shouldn’t be forced to hug/touch.

I’m notoriously touchy-feely. I love hugging, playing with hair, touching people. I try really hard to be considerate of people who don’t like to be touched—and those who may not have the strongest voices, such as children.

Let’s be real here: Little girls being forced to touch and hug adults are how pedophiles—even those from 40 years ago—are able to easily manipulate teen girls into doing disgusting things.

Girls (and boys), it’s OK to tell adults you don’t want to be touched in any way.
Playing with hair?

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I only allow one person to touch me, that my secretary, she's a hugger and been around thirty years , still uncomfortable over that. I just don't like to be touch
I didn't know they were still called secretaries. I thought administrative coordinator or assistant was the new term.

I'm ok with the fist bump for people who don't seem receptive to the hug. It's not like someone is gonna get a tongue shoved down their ear if they're squirming away. That's just gross, people who force the hug or the kiss.

I've got an old cousin, 32 years older than me who still tries to get that wrinkly lip kiss and she's a smoker. Yuck!
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Old 11-22-2017, 06:18 AM
 
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So Granny doesn't get a hub because little Johnny doesn't like the way old people smell?
No she doesn't. It's not all about granny. She is an adult. She will get over it.

I remember when I was about 3 or so. My mom and dad made me give my great grandmother a hug and she kissed my cheek and gave me a long hug. I was scared to death. She was probably almost a 100 and looked the the Crypt Keeper. I still remember that.
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Old 11-22-2017, 08:14 AM
 
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Men should not be allowed to touch children that are not their own and even that should be closely supervised.
Geez, this is absurd, I hope the poster is joking.

Everyone is a potential suspect or rapist in this modern day police state.

I think its things like this, that people living 100 yrs from now will be looking back to our times and laughing about, how could those people have been so dumb back then to consider such things, the same way people today refer to things people did in the past.
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