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Old 11-21-2017, 12:21 PM
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...and don’t take away their smart phones and force them to actually engage in conversation.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:21 PM
 
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I do what I want and what I feel is appropriate because Iím an adult. Thereís no reason a child canít make the same decision. In reality, most emotionally healthy kids will probably want to hug those they love, know, and trust. But no, I wonít force them to hug those they barely know, not even at a funeral. It depends on the situation.

Iím not making anything sexual. Far from it.
I don't think anyone is saying force them to hug a stranger and of course that's a good thing, but family? If they don't want to that's fine, but to even suggest that it's over the line for a family member to want to hug a child in certain circumstances is weird. Telling your child to stop being shy and hug their grandmother/father is harmless.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:22 PM
 
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i'm not suggesting you force them to hug those they dont wanna hug, its the REASON behind it..

an estimated 300K people are sexually assaulted per year, so to tell your children dont give a hug because .1% of the population is sexually assaulted, and .03% of them are from family members per year.. then you shouldnt show affection..

Not forcing them to hug, and telling them dont hug anyone because some people are sexually assaulted is not the same thing..
No one is saying to tell kids never to hug people, but to respect a child who doesnít want to hug someone, anyone, donít make them just because itís a family member or youíre at a funeral. Itís really not a big deal. If someone needs a hug THAT badly from that one person/child, then maybe they are the one with an issue. Again, the reason for the kid not wanting to do it doesnít matter at all.

Iím not a person who likes hugs. People I know know this. I will hug family, but friends I rarely hug. No one makes a big deal about it. The same logic applies to children, or should.

In your first post to me you said you heard someone on the radio say ďyou shouldnít FORCE people to hugĒ because of sexual assault. Well yeah, you shouldnít FORCE people to hug period. Maybe you meant to say something else, but thatís what you said.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:24 PM
 
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I don't think anyone is saying force them to hug a stranger and of course that's a good thing, but family? If they don't want to that's fine, but to even suggest that it's over the line for a family member to want to hug a child in certain circumstances is weird. Telling your child to stop being shy and hug their grandmother/father is harmless.
They shouldnít have to hug anyone if they donít want to, for whatever reason. Itís really not a big deal, I donít see why it bothers some so much. So little Timmy doesnít want to hug grandma today, who cares? I mean... there are bigger issues than letting kids decide whether they want a hug at any given time.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:25 PM
 
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Itís not assuming theyíll be groped. Some people just donít want contact, sometimes or even never. If Iím sad, sometimes I just want to retreat and be left alone for a bit at least. Other times I do want to have a hug. Some people have sensory issues, etc.
Those people who dont like to be touched, make it commonly known.

Trump for example, is a germ freak.. its pretty hard to hide that from people...
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:25 PM
 
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No one is saying to tell kids never to hug people, but to respect a child who doesnít want to hug someone, anyone, donít make them just because itís a family member or youíre at a funeral. Itís really not a big deal. If someone needs a hug THAT badly from that one person/child, then maybe they are the one with an issue. Again, the reason for the kid not wanting to do it doesnít matter at all.

Iím not a person who likes hugs. People I know know this. I will hug family, but friends I rarely hug. No one makes a big deal about it. The same logic applies to children, or should.

In your first post to me you said you heard someone on the radio say ďyou shouldnít FORCE people to hugĒ because of sexual assault. Well yeah, you shouldnít FORCE people to hug period. Maybe you meant to say something else, but thatís what you said.
You know what's funny? I actually love hugs. I'm VERY touchy feely with those I love and care about. It's like a family joke. HOWEVER, I also understand that not everyone is a hugger/cuddler and I respect that. Why is it so difficult?
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:33 PM
 
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Oh shut your mouth. I didn't even make a comment on that. I'm pointing out that all you SJW's are going to eventually make eye contact an assault if this keeps up.
Imagine being so invested in ass-backwards patriarchy that you think giving women and children control over who touches them is a slippery slope.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:41 PM
 
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I don't think anyone is saying force them to hug a stranger and of course that's a good thing, but family? If they don't want to that's fine, but to even suggest that it's over the line for a family member to want to hug a child in certain circumstances is weird. Telling your child to stop being shy and hug their grandmother/father is harmless.
Lots of grandpas (and uncles) are pedophiles.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:43 PM
 
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I'd caution about making ANYTHING too big of a deal to young kids, good way to create some sort of mental hang-up.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Boston, MA
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Forced hugging is not the epidemic that some of you people believe it is and it cannot be blamed for damaged women.
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