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Old 11-21-2017, 12:51 PM
 
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I'd caution about making ANYTHING too big of a deal to young kids, good way to create some sort of mental hang-up.
No one is advocating making a big deal out of anything. We’re just saying stop telling your daughter to go give grandpa a hug, and don’t make her feel like she’s being rude when she doesn’t want to receive a hug.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:55 PM
 
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Imagine being so invested in ass-backwards patriarchy that you think giving women and children control over who touches them is a slippery slope.
While I don't agree with that poster on this topic, most of the stuff you're trying to roast them over they never actually wrote or even implied.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:59 PM
 
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No one is advocating making a big deal out of anything. We’re just saying stop telling your daughter to go give grandpa a hug, and don’t make her feel like she’s being rude when she doesn’t want to receive a hug.
....in other words, exactly the point I was making....don't make a big deal out of it.

One would think that forcing a kid in front of relatives to do something they don't want to isn't exactly "de-escalating" the situation right?

I'd suggest taking several deep breaths and slowly reading peoples posts more than once before responding if you're this upset because you're rampage posting at this point.
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Old 11-21-2017, 12:59 PM
 
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Women were respected before the sexual revolution? Look up the 50s and see how they were treated.
But respectfully so. Their pretty little heads just weren't burdened with all those decisions the menfolk took off their shoulders and made for them. The men of the time respected that the female mind just wasn't up for all the difficulties of agency on their own behalf.
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Old 11-21-2017, 01:02 PM
 
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Women initiate hugs with me waaaaaaay more than men do. Sexual assault?
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Old 11-21-2017, 01:05 PM
 
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I never "forced" my daughter to hug her grandmother or grandfather, it was her choice, bu I did encourage it.
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Old 11-21-2017, 02:33 PM
 
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Forced hugging is not the epidemic that some of you people believe it is and it cannot be blamed for damaged women.
Who’s saying it’s either an epidemic or may be blamed for damaged women?

This is literally such a simple concept I can’t believe there’s pushback against it. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of hugs unless a kid starts to or tells me they don’t want to hug someone for some reason at some point. Then I would say “okay” and not make them, and stick up for them if grandma or whoever tries to make it a big thing. That’s it. I think people are imagining much more convoluted scenarios for some reason.
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Old 11-21-2017, 02:38 PM
 
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Is anybody really forcing children to give hugs? Like are they punishing them if they won't? Isn't it more of a suggestion, ie "It's time to go, give everybody a hug goodbye!" The whole thing seems like such a tempest in a teapot.
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Old 11-21-2017, 02:40 PM
 
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I would never force my kids to hug or kiss someone. I wasn't made to hug or kiss anyone I didn't want to either, and I think that was a good thing. It's crucial that people understand that they have ownership over their own bodies.
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Old 11-21-2017, 02:41 PM
 
Location: Clown School
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Is anybody really forcing children to give hugs? Like are they punishing them if they won't? Isn't it more of a suggestion, ie "It's time to go, give everybody a hug goodbye!" The whole thing seems like such a tempest in a teapot.
I've seen people demanding that their kids give their relatives or guests a hug when the kid clearly didn't want to.
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