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I have no idea what this young woman is complaining about --- that there are moments when men explain things in a (perceived) condescending way?
Well, when my husband is suffering a moment of male-refrigerator-blindness when trying to find the mayonnaise,
and I point out it is on the shelf right in front of him at eye level -- is that "womansplaining" ?
We all do this, not a gender thing....
(But now that I mention this, how is it that men can never find the right-in-full-sight jar of mayo, but can instantly, even with a blindfold on, find a bottle of beer in even the farthest hidden reaches of a fridge??)
Men tend to want to be helpful. One of the biggest complaints from women regarding the men in their lives is that a woman will vent and her man will try to come up with a solution to fix the problem. The women will say, 'But all I want to do is vent!! Don't try and fix everything!'
So in an attempt to try and be helpful, if we feel someone doesn't understand something, we'll explain it in a different way.
It's usually based on the response we're getting. If some of you are getting the same reaction over and over again - perhaps you're coming across with a deer caught in the headlights look.
In some videos I've seen of men being accused of mansplaining the women were going off topic and making statements that made no sense. It felt like mansplaining was used as a tool to shut down men who had:
1) more legitimate points
2) tried to get the discussion back on track
3) further explain something the women simply didn't seem to grasp
All of the above is fair game for either gender. You can't stand the heat? Try closing your mouth.
Not everyone has the skills it takes to win a debate.
The responses to this thread are telling in their own right, but that being said, OP, what the heck are you talking about?
Are people in general tired of other people not speaking truthfully or diverting the topic? Sure. But that is hardly a male-only trait - let's be honest.
I just love the way women have to pipe in that they don't know what those silly young things are talking about. As if that makes them superior or something. I am tired of mansplaining and we all are. If you are such an awesome woman that men don't do that to do you... good for you. But for the rest of us unlucky ones... here are some examples for you
- when you call the HVAC person because you heat is out and the HVAC spends 20 minutes telling you how your system works because he isn't really sure the problem, you have just been mansplained.
- when you have been on the HOA for 5 years and the newest male member comes on board and starts telling you how HOAs work, you have been mansplained.
- when you are the boss and are asking the male IT manager why something doesn't work and he launches into a speech on the differences between blah blah program and blah blah program... but doesn't answer the question.. you have been mansplained.
Maybe someday this will be eliminated.
Many women don't get so upset about the things you describe. Certainly not enough to create a word to describe it. I may roll my eyes if it happens and say thank you because that is what polite people do. There are jerks in the world and they come in both genders. There are also women and men who need things explained to them because they truly do not understand. Women who create videos like this are bitter and narcissistic, and I have lost 2+ minutes of my life listening to it. She wants women to follow her silly videos and agree that she is right about whatever little pet peeve she may have. But let's be honest, doing vlogs like this are so someone can get their 15 mins and fulfill their little narcissistic fantasy as their following grows.
"Any other women sick of all the mansplaining men do?"
It's not just men, my most condescending boss EVER was a female, drove me nuts.
Mine was an overbearing man who treated me like DIRT despite the fact that my team had the best numbers year after year after year. When I asked me why he treated me so badly (after having just received an 'Exceeds" evaluation) ~ he told me it was 'for my own good'.
I knew I was doomed.
Whenever I think about mansplainin ~ I think about him mainly.
I just love the way women have to pipe in that they don't know what those silly young things are talking about. As if that makes them superior or something. I am tired of mansplaining and we all are. If you are such an awesome woman that men don't do that to do you... good for you. But for the rest of us unlucky ones... here are some examples for you
- when you call the HVAC person because you heat is out and the HVAC spends 20 minutes telling you how your system works because he isn't really sure the problem, you have just been mansplained.
- when you have been on the HOA for 5 years and the newest male member comes on board and starts telling you how HOAs work, you have been mansplained.
- when you are the boss and are asking the male IT manager why something doesn't work and he launches into a speech on the differences between blah blah program and blah blah program... but doesn't answer the question.. you have been mansplained.
Maybe someday this will be eliminated.
#triggered.
You are seeing things through "mansplaining"-tinted glasses. And it is causing you unnecessary distress.
When someone is consulted on their area of expertise, they usually like to explain things and talk about the subject. Don't take it personally. So what if someone gives you information you already know? Obviously, you don't know everything, otherwise you'd fix your own HVAC system and de-bug your own computer programs.
You are seeing things through "mansplaining"-tinted glasses. And it is causing you unnecessary distress.
When someone is consulted on their area of expertise, they usually like to explain things and talk about the subject. Don't take it personally. So what if someone gives you information you already know? Obviously, you don't know everything, otherwise you'd fix your own HVAC system and de-bug your own computer programs.
And this is the crux of it. People are too wrapped up in how they perceive things rather than how it actually may be. Perception is everything and if it upsets you so much then maybe a bit of self reflection is in order for your own well being. People don't conform to what your ideal may be, it is up to you to make it work.
If I were on a date and some woman started in with all this feminazi crap I would politely excuse myself saying I needed to use the restroom and just leave.
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