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There was an article published some time ago, usually involving Millennials, that simply being approached for a date/drinks or a random non-sexual compliment from a man is considered "harassment" or "sexual harassment". Can't find it out, there was a vast percentage that said mere compliment or being asked for drinks also constitutes said harassment.
The new Capt. Marvel star Brie Larson said that a man asked for her # and remarked about it on Twitter, that women are living a life "on the defense".
The Twitter post struck a divisive argument from both sides of the spectrum. Where some argued, "You cannot fault a man for trying, whatever he did was not sexual harassment" where men should take into consideration that whomever woman you approach won't be okay with it. Meaning, you must be able to read her mind.
Some argued that "men need to understand that women, in general, had suffered threats of violence by men who they rejected and that any future man...that has no idea of said woman's history...it would behoove him not to even take a swing at them.
Do Millennials see the dating game much differently than older singles?
If a guy goes up to a girl and says "Hi Beatiful! You're gorgeous!", its not sexual harassment if she thinks he's cute andcwould like to hook up. It is sexual harassment if she doesn't think he's cute, and would not date him. Apparently it is up to men, to mind read and know what the girl is thinking before they approach her.
I don't see how Brie Larson (or any one person) represents all millennials. I don't understand why some people and articles insist on these generalizations.
I do think that asking for someone's number just because they smiled at you is jumping the gun. I wouldn't call it harassment--maybe more being socially inept? If you're going to ask for someone's number, you could at least talk to them for a little while first.
Much of the talk about sexual harassment is referring to the workplace, where there's little escape and people have to deal with power dynamics.
Years ago after I was married I flat stopped talking to women on a personal level in the work place...too much danger of a women taking offense what is said and running to HR.
I even remember one instance where a man was talking to his girl friend and what they said to each other was over heard by a passing women...bingo....HR.
Social media has certainly made things more awkward in interpersonal relationships. It's like we've forgotten how to have a conversation because everyone is trying to get the point across in the equivalent of 140 characters. Context matters.
Read the situation. If a woman is engaged in a conversation with her friends she's probably not going to appreciate you interrupting to ask for her number. Regardless of what you look like.
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