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They have to stay married, millennials (ages 22 to 37 in 2018) couldn't survive financially single!
Never been married, no problem surviving financially. I would need to to buy a house though since those cost around $700,000 even in the less expensive areas I'd probably be looking at.
It's mostly because Millenials wait longer to get married, late 20s to early 30s is the norm now. That lowers divorce rates from both sides. Delayed marriage means a lot of the 22-37 group still aren't married to begin with. Also most people in their early 20s just don't have life figured out yet to the same extent they do by late 20s to early 30s, which means they make better choices in who to marry. Closest I came was in my early 20s, right out of college. We'd been together for years but I'm glad we didn't. Careers took us different directions and really we didn't want the same things. I wasn't at all ready to settle down, buy a house, and have kids. Maybe now but not then.
I think it is a good move not to get married at an early age. What does one really know about themselves and choosing a good partner in their early 20's ?
I got married at 22 (while still in undergrad), and as a millennial in San Francisco, that was considered young, and my friends and family said I should play the field more, for those reasons.
6 years later, I'm still very happily married. My core values haven't changed too much, and since I chose a husband who shares those values, the only thing we ever squabble about is food (he's a militant vegan).
Prior to meeting him, I've had two other exes propose to me, and I cannot imagine the horrorshow that would've definitely resulted had I said yes to either of them...
It's all individual though. Some people are not truly ready for that kind of commitment or figuring themselves out until later, and that's totally fine in my book.
Finally millennials being credited with something positive ..
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Americans under the age of 45 have found a novel way to rebel against their elders: They’re staying married.
New data show younger couples are approaching relationships very differently from baby boomers, who married young, divorced, remarried and so on. Generation X and especially millennials are being pickier about who they marry, tying the knot at older ages when education, careers and finances are on track. The result is a U.S. divorce rate that dropped 18 percent from 2008 to 2016, according to an analysis by University of Maryland sociology professor Philip Cohen.
I've read research that suggests that Baby Boomers (i.e the parents of Millennials) are the generation most likely to get divorced. For Millennials, such as myself, many of whom had divorced parents, I think there is more of a determination to not repeat the pattern. It isn't so much a "rebellion", but a desire to not make our parents mistakes.
I'm 39 and have been married over a decade - together with my spouse for nearly 20 years. I do think younger Gen X's also are less likely to marry and when married less likely to divorce. IMO that is because we grew up with a lot of divorced parents. My own parents (who were/are Boomers) both of their parents also divorced when they were kids. My husband and I made a conscious decision when we married (I was 28 and he was 35) that divorce was never going to be on the table unless there was abuse or extra-marital affairs that produced "outside" children. That's it. If these two aren't occurring, we work it out. It is easy for us to work it out because we have a genuine love and respect for each other as individuals and aren't as concerned with "roles" as previous generations were/are nor are we invested in religious dogma regarding marriage.
I'm 39 and have been married over a decade - together with my spouse for nearly 20 years. I do think younger Gen X's also are less likely to marry and when married less likely to divorce. IMO that is because we grew up with a lot of divorced parents. My own parents (who were/are Boomers) both of their parents also divorced when they were kids. My husband and I made a conscious decision when we married (I was 28 and he was 35) that divorce was never going to be on the table unless there was abuse or extra-marital affairs that produced "outside" children. That's it. If these two aren't occurring, we work it out. It is easy for us to work it out because we have a genuine love and respect for each other as individuals and aren't as concerned with "roles" as previous generations were/are nor are we invested in religious dogma regarding marriage.
My fellow GenX friends are split down the middle.
A bunch were married in their mid to late 20s. This reflected the Boomers, more or less.
But also a bunch of us waited a until our late 30s. Up until the 70s, we would have been looked at with raised eyebrows and whispers behind our back about .... well you know.
At the end of the day, people should get married when the time is right. Or not at all if that is their choice.
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