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View Poll Results: Citizens, I would like to propose a porn tax hike.... would you support that.
Yes, I would support a tax hike on pornography 26 40.63%
No, I would not support a tax hike on pornography 19 29.69%
No, I would not support a tax hike because I believe any tax hike is bad and unconstitutional 19 29.69%
Voters: 64. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 04-14-2009, 12:25 AM
 
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You find it absurd because you twisted it to suit yourself. Read it again if you really want to know, or don't if you want to stick to your story. I was admitted to every college I applied for back in the day. Financials were quite a different story.
Key phrase here is BACK IN THE DAY. Have you seen colleges' endowments today? They'd put to shame the girls sleeping with your imaginary all-horny-men adcoms and finaid offices. That's why the Ivies don't charge students a dime if they make under 40K. At Harvard and Stanford, if you make under 100K, you don't pay a dime. At my school, a public school, it's 40K and indexed to inflation. The only places that don't have large endowments paying for folks to go to school like this are community colleges and vocational schools. However, Pell grants pay the tuition of the vast majority of them and other costs can be paid with a part time job/small loans.

 
Old 04-14-2009, 01:36 AM
 
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Wellll.... at least due to this thread we have a pretty good idea of who here has sticky keyboards & spends a bit of cash on "hand lotion" !

I wasn't going to open myself up to ridicule,but I had a sudden burst of
"I don't give a *$%^ !"
Porn HAS ruined my marriage, period. I discovered my husband had a porn adiction before the wedding, & he swore,promised to give it up for me, as I made it totally clear I wouldn't have it in the house,didn't want it around my kids,he had the choice: Porn or Me.

Well, it wasn't long until I learned what his choice was, & began finding magaznes hidden. He'd apologize & swear he'd not do it again. He lied. His addiction was so bad, he couldn't even achieve satisfaction w/ normal relations,as he was so used to going solo. Kept lying,kept hiding it. Even when we were so broke we could barely afford food for our 3 kids, he'd still buy porn. And lie about it. Hide it,throw a fit when I confronted him about it. Constantly lying,hiding,sneaking around.

I can't trust him, as honesty is VERY important to me. He has used the excuse that I don't give him enough sex ,but that is total BS, as we were going at it almost daily when I made my first "discovery" of his porn stash. And when we moved here a few years ago, we had vowed to make a fresh start in the new house. We were so happy, until I found a HUGE box of REALLY hard-core porn in the barn. I was so hurt, it was dated for the past year, & as I helped pack everything, he purposely schemed to fool me again... the lying,dishonesty, hiding & sneaking around just makes me sick.
We've been married 7 years,& it's been pure Hell for the most part. I feel so betrayed,like he'd rather get sexual satisfaction from a zillion other women than ME. I feel like a nobody, and there's no way I could compete w/ those women w/ all the plastic surgery & silicone. He is always complementing me, but no matter how much I know he desires ME, I still can't bring myself to "share" my man,regardless of HOW.
Hell, I admit I do lust after other men at times,of course,it's only natural. HOWEVER, I do NOT lie & hide things,spend money that we don't have, and break his heart due to MY lust. I have evolved,I can control it.
I have asked him several times to get help, he gets mad & refuses. I SOOO want a divorce,and was about to start the process when in Feb of 07 I discovered one of our VERY rare occasions we had sex,the birth control failed. Now we have a 21 month old son w/ mild cerebral palsy, & as I don't work to care for him,I have no money to leave. I'm stuck.

WHEW. OK, I feel better now.
Just thought I'd give a little bit of personal experiance to this subject. I have no problem w/ what a couple does together,it's the deceit that screws things up. On the outside,I DO think it degrades humans, as ( I thought ) that the ability to control our sexual urges is one thing that humans have evolved beyond an animal level. Apparantly not ALL humans... and we all know what a loose attitude about sex leads to;rampant STDs, unwanted pregnancies, etc.
Porn IS addicting, for sure. Just like any other addiction, you soon lose the thrill, & have to move on to more, & harder stuff. My husband just the other night told me ( he didn't think I heard him mutter under his breath ) that he prefers the porn because they "don't talk". It's a way to avoid all human emotion, & just consider your own physical needs.
When you can't trust the father of your children to go to the store & spend the few precious dollars you have left on your CHILDREN, instead of porn, there's just nothing left. I had such severe depression when I was pregnant w/ our last child due to this problem, I wonder if it contributed to his present medical problems. The guilt is eating me alive, & the feelings of helplessness & isolation are consuming me. I SO wish I knew a way to break the cycle & LEAVE, but I feel so crappy abut myself due to all of this I am scared to go it alone.

Sorry so long, thanks for letting me vent!
That isn't porn's fault. It sounds like your husband has some psychological issues that need to be sorted out and your banishing of porn seems to bring it out more. You should be asking why and taking him to a psychoanalyst. You could do it under the guise of "marital counseling," preferably with both couples and individual sessions.

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I have asked him several times to get help, he gets mad & refuses. I SOOO want a divorce,and was about to start the process when in Feb of 07 I discovered one of our VERY rare occasions we had sex,the birth control failed. Now we have a 21 month old son w/ mild cerebral palsy, & as I don't work to care for him,I have no money to leave. I'm stuck.
You need to assert your independence, no matter if you're married or single. Get a job of your own (I know, easier said than done in this economy) even if it is minimum wage. Build up some money for yourself so you don't have to "rely" on a man or anyone ever.
 
Old 04-14-2009, 12:12 PM
 
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Thanks everybody. Really good thread. Closed
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