Is it unfortunate to be an Asian male? (interview, website, CNN)

[GoPadge]

I've dated women of a number of races; Black, White, Vietnamese, Columbian and Spanish. I never considered their race as an issue, nor did I set out to date women of those particular races. I just happen recognize early that I like pretty women, and they come in all races.

[brikag]

I never thought it was unfortunate to be an asian male. In HS & college, I had a lot of people coming up to me to write their papers. I declined happily! But in the process, I had a lot of dates.... er tutoring sessions. I behaved!
But, I would have to say there are people who like their spouses/partners of a different race. Whether it's the color of their skin to the interesting culture they come from, it attracts people together. It's human nature.
Me and my siblings are dating caucasians. They've said it made their lives not only entertaining but colorful.

[foma]

First, Blkaneseichiban, I love your nick. That is awesome. I've never heard anybody use the word "blasian" 'cept for me and my husband when we refer to the period of films that came out in the late 90's with JetLi/Jackie Chan (ie Romeo Must Die and Rush Hour although others allude me right now!)

2nd: My family is Chinese. I married Irish/German blood. My brother married German blood and my other brother married a Chinese girl. I was the first Asian girl my husband ever dated so no, he doesn't have a fetish. I'm not submissive, I'm not your stereotypical tiny Asian girl and I can't cook worth a crap. Why can't ppl just fall in love b'c they are in love?

I know for a fact that neither I nor my brothers had any hidden agendas when we married our mates. We married for love. It had nothing to do with race.

[LongHornGuy86]

^^ Keep telling yourself that.

All too often I see Asian women marry into white because they think it's somehow a status increase.

Somehow I just don't buy that 50% + of all Asian women in the US who marry interracially (mostly white men) because of love. There's definitely some interaction going on here, from both parties.

I can honestly see why so many Asian men are bitter.

[kaykay]

I think in this area, right or wrong, actually, Asians are perceived as being very intelligent. As an example, awhile back I was talking to a co-worker about his physician. I said, "So you recommend this guy, you think he's really intelligent, huh?" He looked at me like I had lost my mind and said something like, "He's ASIAN!" (with the implication that OF COURSE, he's intelligent!)

[LongHornGuy86]

Kay, as a fellow Plano-ite and graduate of Plano West I find that thought process so ignorant. There were just as many pot-smoking, dope dealing Asians as there were whites.

I guess under that same logic, I, a black male am less intelligent? Give me a break.

Asians just study harder, and just like the rest of us, if they do not, will fail. Simple as that.

[kaykay]

Originally Posted by LongHornGuy86

Kay, as a fellow Plano-ite and graduate of Plano West I find that thought process so ignorant. There were just as many pot-smoking, dope dealing Asians as there were whites.

I guess under that same logic, I, a black male am less intelligent? Give me a break.

Asians just study harder, and just like the rest of us, if they do not, will fail. Simple as that.

Well, it's just a perception, right or wrong... I think

[Nirvana-Guy]

Originally Posted by ducksburg

I just read a post on interracial dating and marriage which prompted me to come up with this idea.
Asian males seem to be at disadvantage.Being Asian is okay,but being Asian male is not that great.
Will white/black/hispanic females take Asian males into account when it comes to dating and marriage?

That is because Asian girls (specially the Japanese, Korean and Vietnamese girls) are hot. But as you point out, you are a guy and guys are not hot like girls. hehe...

Come on now... a lot of companies give preference to Asian workers (tech workers, specially) since they think asian guys are good computer people.

[Stonecoldharbours]

Asians are very intelligent people and have good work ethics, never met one I never disliked, they are good people in my book.

[FilmCutter]

Originally Posted by Blkaneseichiban

Okay I accidently came across this post/forum because I'm actually working on a research paper about Asian Males/Black Female relationship and how stereotypes (especially surrounding sexuality) have been known to hinder/inhibit such unions from even beginning.

This is more so an interst for me b/c first I am the product of a Japanese father (Nisei) and Black mother who are high school sweethearts and have been together for what will be their 27th wedding anniversary (but my older sis will be 30 so that tells u something lol). And it is an understatement to say that my family does not invoke curiosity in folks; and we always recieve sometimes disrespectful commentary from onlookers/friends/associates/strangers.

Also, while doing this research there is really little to NO research done on this type of pairing and I'm exploring why it isn't as prevalent as say BM/WF or AM/WF, etc.

And as far as my own dating styles I have primarily dated Black men or Black-mixed or Black Hispanics, only one male who was Blasian like me and his mother was Japanese and his father was Black. However, I've always been really interested in Asian men (I lied earlier, i did have a little boyfriend who was Korean back in the 1st grade hehehe), but I too have found roadblocks to dating Asian men.

But anyways thought I would share the living product of such a union and here are some photos:


THEN:
NOW:

You have a beautiful family. It shows that interracial marriage has its benefits when people are brave enough to cross the color lines despite what family and friends may say about it. I'm still struggling with that, to be honest. I would like to date an Asian man, simply because I have met some very nice good-looking ones and would like to get to know him better. I just want to have a richer dating experience, even though I hate dating. LOL! Dating is like shopping for shoes. I hate that! Not to get off subject. Anyway, I am open to dating different people because it can be boring staying in your comfort zone all the time, or worse, dating someone just because you think your family and friends would approve of them.