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Over the years I have heard quite a few black women complain about successful black men who date outside there race.
You know, a few years ago I really could not speak on the subject because I had little "real life" experience but now that I'm older (late 20s) I'm beginning to take notice of this issue.
More or less, as a black man who has no desire to live the urban life style and has always seek to live in a more affluent area I find that meeting single, black, attractive females around my age quite CHALLENGING!
I have lived in two states longer then 5 years each and have came into the same problem. As far as what I can see, most of the Afro Americans live in highly concentrated areas and since I chose not to live within that area my opportunity to interact with other blacks females is very slim.
So at the end of the day, if I build up my life outside of where most of my racial group resides (because there is more opportunity!) why should I be faulted for selecting another racial group as a female partner when it just boils down to female availability and proximity (at least for me)?
As long as you are dating a woman because you have a solid romantic and and similar interests, as well as respect for each other, it's all good. The color of skin shouldn't matter, and that includes marriage.
Good luck to you, I can understand your predicament. What are you supposed to do, become a monk?
Why do you care what people think of who you date. If you don't associate with the people who have the problem with who you are dating, then you should date who you want, why should you care what they think?
Why over analyze it? Date who you have access to, if not you'll be alone and single.
Unless you've walked in his shoes, don't insinuate he is over analyzing it. Say he's dating a white woman, it's serious, and he takes her to meet his friends or family. It is possible he will be looked upon by members of his race as thinking he is "too good" for a black woman.
Who cares, do you plan on running for President in 2012?
Date who you want, nevermind what hangups other people have about who you choose to date.
You're preaching to the choir. I never said that I actually took stock in how other people felt about my dating life. I'm just making an observation. But I will say that the more people are taught to have hang-ups about such things, the more difficult it may become to meet people who happen to be of another race whose visceral attraction to you isn't automatically offset by what they've been fed at home.
LOTS of men date outside there race, but within there gender. Others date outside there gender, but within there race. Others date outside BOTH....while still others date WITHIN both.......And some just say "to hell with it" and stay home with there TV set.
Finally, some men are married, and there wives won't let them date ANYONE.
That's the unique thing about being black in the Midwest, If an African American has to date black, 100-175 mile radius is not a problem to find that person and carry on a relationship, I am very familiar with that area, from: Reading-Pottstown-Morristown- Levittown-Darby-Chester(shriek)-cherry hill-Rahway-Newark to Roosevelt NY and back to Quaker Town to for a cheap motel is a run, I think that's why Midwestern Brothers go wild out there with all the African American women in one place.
Last edited by thriftylefty; 06-03-2009 at 06:20 PM..
More or less, as a black man who has no desire to live the urban life style and has always seek to live in a more affluent area I find that meeting single, black, attractive females around my age quite CHALLENGING!
most of the Afro Americans live in highly concentrated areas and since I chose not to live within that area my opportunity to interact with other blacks females is very slim.
First, do you reside on planet earth? There are fine smart sisters EVERYWHERE I've been..LOL and they're on the prowl for a good brother.
First, do you reside on planet earth? There are fine smart sisters EVERYWHERE I've been..LOL and they're on the prowl for a good brother.
There are many areas in this country, especially suburbia where yes, there are black women (and damn fine ones at that), but they are few and far between as opposed to white women tank.
Over the years I have heard quite a few black women complain about successful black men who date outside there race.
You know, a few years ago I really could not speak on the subject because I had little "real life" experience but now that I'm older (late 20s) I'm beginning to take notice of this issue.
More or less, as a black man who has no desire to live the urban life style and has always seek to live in a more affluent area I find that meeting single, black, attractive females around my age quite CHALLENGING!
I have lived in two states longer then 5 years each and have came into the same problem. As far as what I can see, most of the Afro Americans live in highly concentrated areas and since I chose not to live within that area my opportunity to interact with other blacks females is very slim.
So at the end of the day, if I build up my life outside of where most of my racial group resides (because there is more opportunity!) why should I be faulted for selecting another racial group as a female partner when it just boils down to female availability and proximity (at least for me)?
I think it should not matter what nationality a person is if that is the person you want to be with.
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