Californians still considering a house purchase in Portland? Don't bother - It's too late. And you deserve better! (camp, living in)

[Hockeygirl063]

nobody in their mind w should buy one of those new houses. How stupid people are. I would NEVER live where i can open my freaking window and touch my neighbors house. That is all that is being built now. The OP is obviously very bitter. I have seen all kinds of new construction in the Beaverton and Tigard areas.

Although i am not looking for a house if you do some research you can find decent houses all over the west side of Portland.

I want to move to MN because the cost of living is better and from everything i have read and researched they have better schools than here. Portland is just getting so expensive it is horrible here and besides that after more than 25 years I am sick of the crappy weather. YES summers rock and the next few days it is going to be hot. But the fall and winters are so gloomy and rainy. I want a place that has 4 seasons. If i did move I know part of me will miss the NW. I would miss the mountains and being close to the ocean.

At this point still stuck here and I hate the place I live in but I can't convince my other half we should move. Our rent goes up at least $100 every lease we sign. This place has zero amenities. We are close to a park which is nice but since they built the mini mall across the street it has done nothing but make more noise and traffic.

[Bluesmama]

Originally Posted by Minervah

It's sad. I've seen couples break up when one half wanted to move and the other half didn't not long after the move took place. If the unhappy poster is so miserable with the thought of moving to Portland, I hate to think what it will be like when he gets there.

Well, I married an Oregonian and the only reason I'm still here is because ... well, I can't move the Rock of Gibraltar (husband). But I have it made it VERY clear over the years that I will NOT move any farther north than here, including Washington.


I did put my foot down in my first marriage. Ended up in Corpus Christi, TX, which is way down into the Gulf, because my first husband insisted on moving there and I kicked and screamed to no avail. Absolutely THE worst humidity imaginable, and we were there during the summer. For one month. Either we were leaving that Hell-hole together or I was leaving without him. We left together.


As for the poster who doesn't want to move here.... I know his wife got a big promotion in order to relocate, but do they really NEED it? Because if they were managing okay then she may have done a disservice to her family if everyone else was happy there. On the other hand, I don't think we know the whole story.

[Yankeemama]

Originally Posted by Hockeygirl063

nobody in their mind w should buy one of those new houses. How stupid people are. I would NEVER live where i can open my freaking window and touch my neighbors house. That is all that is being built now. The OP is obviously very bitter. I have seen all kinds of new construction in the Beaverton and Tigard areas.

Although i am not looking for a house if you do some research you can find decent houses all over the west side of Portland.

I want to move to MN because the cost of living is better and from everything i have read and researched they have better schools than here. Portland is just getting so expensive it is horrible here and besides that after more than 25 years I am sick of the crappy weather. YES summers rock and the next few days it is going to be hot. But the fall and winters are so gloomy and rainy. I want a place that has 4 seasons. If i did move I know part of me will miss the NW. I would miss the mountains and being close to the ocean.

At this point still stuck here and I hate the place I live in but I can't convince my other half we should move. Our rent goes up at least $100 every lease we sign. This place has zero amenities. We are close to a park which is nice but since they built the mini mall across the street it has done nothing but make more noise and traffic.

Not sure what this has to do with the previous post. And aren't you a renter in an apt. building? If so... I think you actually DO "open your freaking window and can touch your neighbors". Why are you up in arms about someone else's choice for a home? Home ownership is a source of pride for many people no matter how small the home.

[SWCM7950]

Originally Posted by Yankeemama

It will only get worse when late November brings rain and gray and shorter days. Who knows, maybe OP is just really exaggerating the insensity of his recent posts so his wife will read them and realize she is making a mistake.

Ummm I wasn't the OP if you are talking about me.

[SWCM7950]

Originally Posted by Hockeygirl063

nobody in their mind w should buy one of those new houses. How stupid people are. I would NEVER live where i can open my freaking window and touch my neighbors house. That is all that is being built now. The OP is obviously very bitter. I have seen all kinds of new construction in the Beaverton and Tigard areas.

Although i am not looking for a house if you do some research you can find decent houses all over the west side of Portland.

I want to move to MN because the cost of living is better and from everything i have read and researched they have better schools than here. Portland is just getting so expensive it is horrible here and besides that after more than 25 years I am sick of the crappy weather. YES summers rock and the next few days it is going to be hot. But the fall and winters are so gloomy and rainy. I want a place that has 4 seasons. If i did move I know part of me will miss the NW. I would miss the mountains and being close to the ocean.

At this point still stuck here and I hate the place I live in but I can't convince my other half we should move. Our rent goes up at least $100 every lease we sign. This place has zero amenities. We are close to a park which is nice but since they built the mini mall across the street it has done nothing but make more noise and traffic.

You'll love MN! One of the most underrated places to live!

[Minervah]

Originally Posted by Hockeygirl063

nobody in their mind w should buy one of those new houses. How stupid people are. I would NEVER live where i can open my freaking window and touch my neighbors house. That is all that is being built now. The OP is obviously very bitter. I have seen all kinds of new construction in the Beaverton and Tigard areas.

Although i am not looking for a house if you do some research you can find decent houses all over the west side of Portland.

I want to move to MN because the cost of living is better and from everything i have read and researched they have better schools than here. Portland is just getting so expensive it is horrible here and besides that after more than 25 years I am sick of the crappy weather. YES summers rock and the next few days it is going to be hot. But the fall and winters are so gloomy and rainy. I want a place that has 4 seasons. If i did move I know part of me will miss the NW. I would miss the mountains and being close to the ocean.

At this point still stuck here and I hate the place I live in but I can't convince my other half we should move. Our rent goes up at least $100 every lease we sign. This place has zero amenities. We are close to a park which is nice but since they built the mini mall across the street it has done nothing but make more noise and traffic.

When I was living in Portland researching other cities in which to move, Minneapolis was second on my list. I chose Cleveland because it worked just a bit better for me. I did visit Mpls and really liked it. It's worth a look if you haven't already visited.

There are similarities between Mpls and Portland but Mpls is a lot less expensive.

[Bluesmama]

Originally Posted by jjpop

Compact cities, protecting farmland for the future, farms within 20 miles of the metro providing the city with agricultural goods without the need to truck them in from 200 miles away... I'm not seeing the downside.

Too many people think food is grown in the backs of grocery stores.

[psichick]

Originally Posted by Minervah

It's sad. I've seen couples break up when one half wanted to move and the other half didn't not long after the move took place. If the unhappy poster is so miserable with the thought of moving to Portland, I hate to think what it will be like when he gets there.

My bf has stated that he may want to leave Portland because of all the people moving here and ruining it. I told him if he really wants to leave, I'll miss you, but good luck. I never understand why couples move when one person is going to be extremely unhappy (like the OP). A promotion can't be worth a marriage/happiness. The marriage will suffer. Since I moved somewhere that soothes my soul, it's like I can handle anything life throws at me here. If I hated the place I lived and dealt with life crappola, I doubt I'd handle it very well. Crazy. There's more to life than money.

[Cliftonpdx]

Originally Posted by psichick

My bf has stated that he may want to leave Portland because of all the people moving here and ruining it. I told him if he really wants to leave, I'll miss you, but good luck. I never understand why couples move when one person is going to be extremely unhappy (like the OP). A promotion can't be worth a marriage/happiness. The marriage will suffer. Since I moved somewhere that soothes my soul, it's like I can handle anything life throws at me here. If I hated the place I lived and dealt with life crappola, I doubt I'd handle it very well. Crazy. There's more to life than money.

Exactly, I have seen so many relationships fall apart because one person in a couple was unhappy with where they lived. My wife and I both love Portland and happy to be living here. There are only a few other places I would live if we weren't here, and they are all in the northwest.

[SWCM7950]

Originally Posted by psichick

My bf has stated that he may want to leave Portland because of all the people moving here and ruining it. I told him if he really wants to leave, I'll miss you, but good luck. I never understand why couples move when one person is going to be extremely unhappy (like the OP). A promotion can't be worth a marriage/happiness. The marriage will suffer. Since I moved somewhere that soothes my soul, it's like I can handle anything life throws at me here. If I hated the place I lived and dealt with life crappola, I doubt I'd handle it very well. Crazy. There's more to life than money.

First off I'm not the OPer but I think you were directing your comment to me. You sound young and naïve. The dynamics of a marriage and especially a marriage that involves kids is probably so foreign to you. When you grow up and enter into a committed relationship and have been with someone over a long period of time sacrifice and compromise are part of making it work. Money is not everything in life of course, but it's required to support kids, provide a roof over your head, clothe yourself etc. If you are single with no kids and only a bf you have no obligations to anyone or anything in your life right now. That's great enjoy it............but part of growing up and becoming an adult is living less of your life for yourself and living more of it for other people i.e. a wife, kids, career, family whatever. But that thought is lost on a lot of self absorbed young people. I hope your bf knows what truly matters to you in your life, because it certainly isn't him if you could so easily say "adios" to him just because he wants to move somewhere else. If you need to live in a particular environment to "soothe your soul" and deal with life's adversity..........doesn't sound like you are well adjusted at all to do such.


Oh and for the record I won't be extremely unhappy moving to OR. It's just not ideal and I don't think it's the best decision for us at this time. I'll be perfectly fine living in OR and probably will fit right in and find much happiness. I just think it's ridiculous the way people pine for OR as some sort of utopian mecca. It's downright childish actually. Most people that have that belief have never really lived anywhere else from what I've seen and read. I've been to OR and while it's a beautiful place with some advantages, at the end of the day the novelty wears off like anywhere else.........and life goes on. There are beautiful great places all over the country.