What I Know About Having Babies (normal, fertility, medical, conception)

[CD's Only Mrs. X]

Never trust a man who says "I can't have kids." Any man can have kids, literally.

And the same applies to women as well. I have heard time and time again from young women swearing on a stack of bibles they can't get pregnant for numerous so called reasons, so why bother with birth control? Then a few months into fresh relationships all of a sudden its a miracle, they are pregnant! I find this more common with teens and those who are in their early twenties.

Also just because you miscarry does not mean you can't get pregnant, it means YOU CAN and there are underlying issues as to why you miscarried.

[thebpseven]

I want to point out, that a man who has had a vesectomy continues to produce sperm for the rest of his life. Vasectomy merely "disengages the pipes", so to say. There have been documented instances (rare, I will say) of vasectomies failing. But rather than anecdotal stories, this article state that as many as 1 in 100 vasectomies will fail 1-5 years after the procedure, which is considered a failure of the procedure, not a failure to be tested and having "remainers" afterward.

vasectomy statistics

[thebpseven]

Originally Posted by TheOriginalMrsX

And the same applies to women as well. I have heard time and time again from young women swearing on a stack of bibles they can't get pregnant for numerous so called reasons, so why bother with birth control? Then a few months into fresh relationships all of a sudden its a miracle, they are pregnant! I find this more common with teens and those who are in their early twenties.

Also just because you miscarry does not mean you can't get pregnant, it means YOU CAN and there are underlying issues as to why you miscarried.

And this is PRECISELY why birth control is the responsibility of BOTH partners, EVERY TIME. Boy, I can't stress that enough...

Also, I didn't say that miscarrying means you can't get pregnant, I said miscarrying may be a reason to see your doctor if you suspect an underlying, recurrant problem. Sometimes there is no actual problem that caused a miscarriage, sometimes biological conditions for pregnancy just weren't ideal. There have been studies that suggest not even waiting after a miscarriage to try again if you are wanting to try:

Pregnancy After Miscarriag - Pregnancy Symptoms, Stages, and Healthy Pregnancy Information on MedicineNet.com

[Sweetbottoms]

How Long Do Sperm Live?

if healthy sperm get beyond the cervix into the uterus and up to the fallopian tubes, they can live as long as 5-7 days after ejaculation

[MDPP]

Originally Posted by thebpseven

And this is PRECISELY why birth control is the responsibility of BOTH partners, EVERY TIME. Boy, I can't stress that enough...

Also, I didn't say that miscarrying means you can't get pregnant, I said miscarrying may be a reason to see your doctor if you suspect an underlying, recurrant problem. Sometimes there is no actual problem that caused a miscarriage, sometimes biological conditions for pregnancy just weren't ideal. There have been studies that suggest not even waiting after a miscarriage to try again if you are wanting to try:

Pregnancy After Miscarriag - Pregnancy Symptoms, Stages, and Healthy Pregnancy Information on MedicineNet.com

Awesome link.... I had a miscarriage May of 2010 & also May of last year and my gynecologist told me my chances of having another miscarriage would increase if I decided to get pregnant right away after explaining to him my husband didn't want to wait. Anyway I got pregnant in July and am still pregnant (: due date April 4th with baby number 4!

[thebpseven]

I am sorry to hear about your losses, but I am very happy to hear about your pregnancy that is going well... congratulations! That's awesome!

[thebpseven]

I gotta say, IMO the consensus on how long sperm can live has not yet been reached satisfactorily enough. It's well documented how long they survive outside the body, but so many studies disagree on how long they can live inside the body (I saw another recent one yesterday that said 2 days...that can't be right) that it's just best not to take any chances.

Sweetbottoms, do you have a link from a medical website or a link from an article with it's references posted and/or overseen by a medical professional? I can't find any authors, references, links, or doctor's name attached to that one, and I am unable to substantiate that information from any other source...can you help us out on this one?

UPDATE: I got one, Mayo Clinic:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/pregnancy/AN00281

[thebpseven]

By the way, parents and parents-to-be,

I have seen this floating around various sites, and I felt it had enough of an impact to everyone here to see and think about it:

Antidepressant use in pregnancy may raise autism risk - CNN.com

While there has been a huge spike in autism rates, there has also been a huge spike in the use of antidepressants during pregnancy. And while I cannot personally comment on whether this is bottom-line conclusive or not, it bears knowiing that a link may have been found.

[MDPP]

Originally Posted by thebpseven

I am sorry to hear about your losses, but I am very happy to hear about your pregnancy that is going well... congratulations! That's awesome!

Well thank you (:

[eastwesteastagain]

Originally Posted by thebpseven

By the way, parents and parents-to-be,

I have seen this floating around various sites, and I felt it had enough of an impact to everyone here to see and think about it:

Antidepressant use in pregnancy may raise autism risk - CNN.com

While there has been a huge spike in autism rates, there has also been a huge spike in the use of antidepressants during pregnancy. And while I cannot personally comment on whether this is bottom-line conclusive or not, it bears knowiing that a link may have been found.

Important to keep in mind that this is one study, with a small sample size, that found a correlation between increased antidepressant use and incidence of autism (not a causal relationship) from culling information from hospital records. Even the OP's article refers to preliminary study, speculation, etc.

The American Congress of OBGYNs does not include this study in their resources on antidepressant use in pregnancy (multiple searches on relevant terms came up empty, but here's a link to perinatal/postnatal depression that may be useful ACOG - Perinatal and Postpartum Depression a Top Priority; also from the Mayo Clinic http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/ant...ssants/DN00007 ). It is safe to say this is in no way bottom-line conclusive based on the available research at this time, and that antidepressant use in pregnancy should be discussed with one's medical provider to evaluate potential risks and benefits to both mother and baby. (paraphrased from ACOG).