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Old 05-09-2018, 03:51 AM
 
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We started telling people at around 4 weeks lol. My husband couldn't keep his mouth shut. I shared with my employer at 8 weeks, posted publicly on facebook at 10 weeks. I might be a little more hesitant to share if I felt I was at high risk for miscarriage but we are young and healthy so whatever. I would want some emotional support from family/friends if I had a miscarriage. I don't think I would keep that a secret.
Neither could DH. With the first, I didn't go for the test until I'd missed two periods, and we were absolutely sure. You had to get a blood test back then, and the results took a couple of days. Remember the old "rabbit test"? I was 25, DH 31, we'd been married five years by then, and it honestly wasn't "planned", but there you are. I have to admit, DH was happy, but I wasn't...I was scared (both of childbirth and motherhood). I didn't want children. I never liked babies. But I later changed my mind...it was one of the greatest things that ever happened to us, and I wouldn't trade oldest DD (now 32 and the mother of our two grandsons) for the world.

I made the mistake of telling my employers (two single men who were brothers owned the company) at two months into my second pregnancy, as soon as the test confirmed it. Neither of them were pleased. One of them made a snarky comment, "Get the Electrolux". The other took me behind closed doors and pressed me about why DH and I wanted another child, he didn't think we could afford it, etc. etc. He even suggested I "end" it. I adamantly told him it was PLANNED (not that it was any of his business). We'd bought a bigger house the year before, oldest was in preschool, DH had an excellent insurance plan, and we felt the time was right. He said if I insisted on having the baby, I could only be out for two weeks. After I miscarried a few weeks later, they had the gall to send me flowers. I didn't attempt another pregnancy while working for THOSE a**holes. Pregnancy was a taboo...pregnant women were "fat" and didn't fit the office culture.

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Old 05-10-2018, 10:54 AM
 
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We started telling people at around 4 weeks lol. My husband couldn't keep his mouth shut. I shared with my employer at 8 weeks, posted publicly on facebook at 10 weeks. I might be a little more hesitant to share if I felt I was at high risk for miscarriage but we are young and healthy so whatever. I would want some emotional support from family/friends if I had a miscarriage. I don't think I would keep that a secret.
wait until the 4-5th kid , your sharing side will be emptied
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Old 05-10-2018, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Somewhere that cost too much
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I was around 6 weeks and told my BF to not tell his family. Which of course he did...that weekend a lost the baby.
It is personal choice. This was my 2nd miscarriage and BF's first so of course he was excited. Plus he can't keep a secret,
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Old 08-05-2018, 12:46 PM
 
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I always waited until around 12 weeks to tell anyone other than my husband.
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Old 09-04-2018, 11:35 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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It seems a bit early but it's her choice. I told my parents & sister when I found out - about 4 weeks along. I told work around 12 weeks, because I was showing early. I announced on social media later, probably closer to 20 weeks. Our parents told our aunts & uncles right away, against my wishes. It was difficult getting pregnant and so many people I'm close to experienced many miscarriages, so I tried to wait as long as I could. For the next, if it happens, I won't tell our parents right away.
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Old 09-10-2018, 10:07 AM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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I told my mom and online friends the day I got the + with all six, and others closest to me knew by six weeks. Announced to everyone else around 8 weeks.
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Old 09-10-2018, 12:14 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I spilled the beans with our first (my son) the same day the pregnancy test turned blue! I was a day or two late for my period, I guess. I was so excited and we had been trying for a while.

My second pregnancy I had announced it after six weeks but I miscarried a week later.

My third pregnancy (my daughter), I waited a little bit. I think my OB did an ultrasound around eight weeks, so once I saw that beating heart, that's probably when I announced it.

My fourth pregnancy, I waited until eight or nine weeks but then I miscarried at ten weeks.

ETA: I should clarify that this was before social media was a thing, so by "announcing" it, I meant my family and close friends. I didn't announce to friendly acquaintances until I was showing, so somewhere around four or five months.
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Old 10-28-2018, 11:31 AM
 
Location: Fort Bend County
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I didn't share the news of my pregnancy til I was 14 weeks...(2nd trimester) even then I still held my breath for 20 weeks...
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