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Old 04-17-2015, 08:33 AM
 
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Sorry if anything in this post is TMI,
Sexually I only have one guy that is my husband, so excuse me for my ignorance in sex. I’m newlywed so I’m still new into this whole BCP thing. I got married on February 6th

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May I ask. Is anyone here who are on BCP or are expert on BCP, BCP = Birth control pills. I have a few questions. What are the chances of get pregnant while on BCP? Not likely right? Because BCP is 99% effective if taking correctly right?

I guess I want to talk about BCP, anyone who know alot about BCP, please share your experience... And if anyone here who have alot of experience in birth control. Beside BCP, are there any other birth control out there is more effective? Like most effective birth control with least side effects. Please let me know, thank you.

I took all my pills on time, exactly on the same time everyday. I never miss one pills, so I know I’m 99% safe. I am also NOT on any Antibiotics so it not messing up my BCP... Last month I got my period five days late, it turn out to come late, a 'breakthrough bleeding'. Heard this is normal for those who new to BCP as their body still adjust to the BCP

And this month, it is the 17th of April and I still have not get my period yet. That means I am 2 WEEKS late. I am way passed my placebo pills. Now this is kindda scary because I never been this late before in my life. Despite being 2 weeks late, I still take my pills on time everyday.

I’m 30 and husband is 29, and we married. My husband really really want a baby, he have baby fever. If unplanned pregnancy happen, then we will keep baby at all cost. We both against abortion, we both love babies.
But at my age 30, I’m not young anymore. Just three months into marriage and get pregnant, it not easy right? People tell me that the older you are the harder to get pregnant.

Anyone here that is not on Antibiotics, take their BCP on time and accidently got pregnant? Uh.. this is like playing the lottery. Husband told me to take the pregnacy test. I am scare to take the test, because I’m scare to see the positive pregnancy test result.

I havent' take the pregnancy test yet, and he already kiss my stomach. He say when I'm pregnant, he want to kiss my stomach Everyday for 9 Months untli the baby born. I can already tell he going to spoil the baby rotten!!

We been through alot of hardship to be together. From my Chinese mother disapproval of him to our huge cultural difference.
I do want a baby, but not now. I want more of ‘us’ two people time alone together as a couple before we have a baby. I hope I'm not being too selfish. Am I?
We have plan to have a baby in 2016 when we buy our own house. Right now we rent in a bad area neighborhood, and it not a good idea to raise a newborn baby here.

Sorry for my bad English grammars, English is my third language.

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Old 04-17-2015, 08:36 AM
 
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This whole week, I been having pregnancy scare. Like I said above, I’m on BCP and I’m 2 weeks late on my period.
I told my husband that I can’t be pregnant because I took the BCP everyday, exactly on time. And we only 3rd month into our marriage so my body still trying to adjust to the BCP; it probably just late again, breakthrough bleeing; heard this is normal when you new to BCP

My husband want a baby so he happy that I’m late, lol
He be THRILLED if I’m pregnant. Yestedady when he left to work, he already kiss my stomach. He told me take the pregnancy test and when I’m pregnant, he will kiss my stomach EVERYDAY for 9 Months until the baby born.

But uh.. he making his Chinese wife feel awkward. Kissing my stomach for 9 Months everyday until the baby born, is too much affections. He is a doting husband alright, but he going to suffocate his wife and the baby.

I have an abusive mother in my childhood, and I grow up in a very cold family with no affections. So now getting alot affections from my husband, I'm just overwhelmed!
I'm still getting used to him kiss my butt cheek, it make me feel kindda awkward.

I can already tell that he going to be the Dad that will spoil his kids rotten!!
I was raise in a strict traditional Chinese family, so I know I will be very strict to my kids. And him, he the Dad that will spoil his kids. The kids will always run to daddy daddy for everything because daddy spoil them rotten. Arg!!
Before we TTC, I think we need another talk on how we going to raise kids. We have the talk before, he said it himself that he will spoil his children.

When he wanted marriage, I constantly told him that there a big cultural difference between us. Sexually, I only have one guy that is him and he know this. Pretty much he said as long as I’m by his side, we go through these together and everything will work out.

I know he patience and he is a doting husband. He let me have things my way so I can be happy. But now to the kids issue, I don’t think he going to let me have it all my way. But uh.. we probably have cultural clashes on the ways we going to raise our children.

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Old 04-17-2015, 10:29 AM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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Since you're two weeks late, you can take a pregnancy test and you'll know for sure.


I always had spotting and late periods when I was on the pill. They prescribed different pills for me trying to find one that didn't make me spot, but we never found one. Finally my husband and I ended up using condoms for birth control, and then I had my tubes tied after we had two kids.


I think this is more of a post about your husband than about the pill...if he's too lenient and you're too strict, you'll balance each other out. Much better than two parents who are too strict or two parents who let the kids get away with everything.
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Old 04-17-2015, 10:36 AM
 
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Thank you for your advice,
Beside 2 weeks late on my period, I don't have any symptoms of pregnant. I don't even "feel" pregnant. I think it just my BCP acting up as my body still trying to adjust to it.

We talk about the kids issue before. We agree on we got married, I take my BCP everyday on time, so it should be 99% effective.
We plan to have kids next year in 2016 when we buy our house. Right now my husbannd is working 2 jobs so we can have enough money.
We both agree if I happen to get pregnant while on the pills, then we will keep baby. We both loves baby and he have baby fever.

Well I'm going to go buy a pregnancy test this morning and get this over with, I think I will faint if the pregnancy test is positive. We been having alot of uh.. sex so I'm scare.
I don't think we ready for baby, he been working ALOT. And he only 29 years olds, isn't that kindda young to be a father?

He been working 12-14 hours everyday, I don't see him as much now compared to the time when we dating. When we dating he have 1 job, now we married he have 2 jobs.
I want to spend more time with him as two of us before bring in a baby, is that too selfish of me? I told him we will have baby in 2016, at least I have another year with him alone as a couple.

I know he have baby fever but his wife doesn't. I really don't want a baby right now.
I let my Chinese mother disown me when I choose to married him. Mom discriminate against him because of his skin color.
We both went through alot to be together, and now we finally can be together. Only 3 months into marriage and a baby? Please No...
Am I being too SELFISH that I want a year with my husband before we going to have a baby?
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Old 04-17-2015, 10:39 AM
 
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And these is the questions I asked in my original post above, regarding to birth control
Maybe I should change BCP, maybe this one is not working as it should be?

Appreciated if the question in Italics below can be answer, thank you.
May I ask. Is anyone here who are on BCP or are expert on BCP, BCP = Birth control pills. I have a few questions. What are the chances of get pregnant while on BCP? Not likely right? Because BCP is 99% effective if taking correctly right?

I guess I want to talk about BCP, anyone who know alot about BCP, please share your experience... And if anyone here who have alot of experience in birth control. Beside BCP, are there any other birth control out there is more effective? Like most effective birth control with least side effects. Please let me know, thank you.
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Old 04-17-2015, 10:53 AM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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The pill is 99% effective if taken every day at the same time. It's 90% effective in actual use, which takes into account people forgetting to take it or taking antibiotics or supplements that may prevent it from working. If someone is overweight, it may not work as well for them. I have several friends who got pregnant on the pill and didn't know of any times they had forgotten to take it, or anything else that might have made it not work.

Before I got my tubes tied, I tried the depo provera shot...had spotting the whole time and gained a lot of weight. More recently, I had a Mirena IUD...spotting the whole time, weight gain, and it came out on its own.

A pregnancy test is pretty cheap. As long as you are having sex, whatever birth control method you choose, you'll probably have times when your period is late or you feel weird and want to take a pregnancy test. You should probably buy a few and just keep them in your cabinet, and don't even tell your husband when you're late, just take a test and only mention it to him if the test is positive.
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Old 04-17-2015, 12:08 PM
 
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Yes, if you take your pill on time every single day and you do not take any other medications that could make the product less effective, your risk of getting pregnant is very small.

Irregular periods, including bleeding before the placebo week (breakthrough bleeding) and very light or skipped periods are common, but do not increase the risk of pregnancy if there are no missed pills.

For most women, any BCP will produce regular, predictable periods that tend to be less painful than periods off the pill. Most gynecologists will suggest not changing the pill until at least three full cycles have been completed, because most of the irregular bleeding goes away by then. There are also pills that are designed to produce periods only every third month. Women who prefer not to deal with periods like those, but even they can cause breakthrough bleeding.

Because you will be concerned if you do not see a period, one of the older style that cycle each 28 days will be better for you. Check the pregnancy test now, which will probably be negative. If it is, keep taking your current pills for at least one more month. Things should settle down. If they do not, see your gynecologist. It may mean that you need a pill with different doses of the two hormones in it or you may need one with a slightly different dose. Modern pills have lower doses than some of the old standbys from years ago, and lower dose pills are more likely to cause irregular bleeding.

By the way, which pill are you taking?
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Old 04-18-2015, 06:32 AM
 
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Hi, sorry I think I might have post this thread in the wrong Forum section. This is 'Health and Wellness' and not Birth Control Pills section. I apologize for any inconvenient
It should go under the "Pregnacy" Forum section instead.

Please MOD, can you Closed this thread for me. Thank you

I'm sorry, I already repost this thread in the Pregnancy section. So it accidently got double posting. Please delete this one for me. Thank you

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Old 04-18-2015, 09:10 AM
 
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Hi, sorry I think I might have post this thread in the wrong Forum section. This is 'Health and Wellness' and not Birth Control Pills section. I apologize for any inconvenient
It should go under the "Pregnacy" Forum section instead.

Please MOD, can you Closed this thread for me. Thank you

I'm sorry, I already repost this thread in the Pregnancy section. So it accidently got double posting. Please delete this one for me. Thank you
It's fine here. Don't worry about it.
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Old 04-22-2015, 05:44 PM
 
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Fertility is not necessarily tied to age. I have known women (my sister-in-law, for one), who required fertility treatments to conceive in her twenties. If you have an optimally functioning endocrine system, no hormonal issues, no physical issues that complicate conceiving, thirty is not particularly "old" in the world of conception, at all. You are not even considered medically to be of "advanced maternal age" until you are post-35. Unless you have preexisting relevant health issues, have been plagued by miscarriages, or have already attempted to conceive and have had no luck over a period of active trying, there's no real reason to think that conceiving at 30 is a difficult thing, to be honest.
Hi, pardon my ignorance in sex. Sexually I only have one guy, that is my husband. There was no other guy prior to him. I'm still new to this whole BCP
I started this BCP in December, now is April already so it have been 5 months. I don't know why my body still trying to adjust to this BCP, should I change BCP?

I never been this late before, so I'm kindda worried. When you married and sexually active, you 22 days late, it worrisome.

I don't have any health issue, my check up all come out normal. I never have miscarriage before, this is first marriage for both me and my husband.
To be frank, I am not TTC, so I hope I'm not pregnant. We said we TTC in 2016, but now he already have baby fever.

So in my situation, is there anything I should worried about? Me being a virgin and sexually inexperience should have no effect into getting pregnant at the age 30 right?
Well I'm married so I'm not a virgin anymore, but being sexually inexperience doesn't lessen the chance to get pregnant right?

I heard that women who have children before are more easier to get pregnant compared to a women who never have had children before, is this true?



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I would recommend being financially ready, though, in addition to simply emotionally ready. If having a house is a priority, and that's not happening, you might not be ready. If him working multiple jobs will hinder his ability to be around, you might not be ready.
I don't care for a house, the house was never a priority to me. I'm fine with living in this cheap rent neighborhood area with him. But he wants to buy a house, because he doesn't think it a good idea to raise a newborn baby in this type of environment.
He thinking far into the future. I guess as a married man, he want his wife and kids to live in a better neighborhood.

I do want him around with the baby, because right now he working 12-14 hours everyday. When we dating, he work 1 job. Now married he working 2 jobs.
I think it best to wait till 2016, when we have our house and he be working less hours.

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