Trying to become pregnant for 7 years.... (teenage, fertile, hospital, Clomid)
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I noticed this thread is almost 2 years old, but it popped up again with another post. I'll add something a friend of my ex told us worked for them after 4 years. Quit trying to get pregnant. Just have good healthy, wear you out, ride 'em cowboy sex. Do whatever you want to enjoy it. Just think "fun" and not "baby". They went this route and she was pregnant within, I think, 6 months.
I noticed this thread is almost 2 years old, but it popped up again with another post. I'll add something a friend of my ex told us worked for them after 4 years. Quit trying to get pregnant. Just have good healthy, wear you out, ride 'em cowboy sex. Do whatever you want to enjoy it. Just think "fun" and not "baby". They went this route and she was pregnant within, I think, 6 months.
This is the absolute worst thing you can tell someone. It's like telling them they're mentally ill and that's why they're not getting pregnant. 35 years ago, when I was trying to get pregnant (I succeeded) the research said that infertility can cause psychological problems, but psych problems do not cause infertility. I suspect it's the same today.
I noticed this thread is almost 2 years old, but it popped up again with another post. I'll add something a friend of my ex told us worked for them after 4 years. Quit trying to get pregnant. Just have good healthy, wear you out, ride 'em cowboy sex. Do whatever you want to enjoy it. Just think "fun" and not "baby". They went this route and she was pregnant within, I think, 6 months.
Yeah, that's how it works. Just like the people who tell their blood sugar to be normal dammit, and boom! No more diabetes. And the ones who can't do that are just a bunch of losers.
Infertility is a medical condition, not a lack of having fun sex. And btw, I'm not taking this personally because I was lucky and got pregnant quickly when I wanted to. But I know far too many people who have faced this issue and the very last thing they need to be told is asinine advice like this.
Yeah, that's how it works. Just like the people who tell their blood sugar to be normal dammit, and boom! No more diabetes. And the ones who can't do that are just a bunch of losers.
Infertility is a medical condition, not a lack of having fun sex. And btw, I'm not taking this personally because I was lucky and got pregnant quickly when I wanted to. But I know far too many people who have faced this issue and the very last thing they need to be told is asinine advice like this.
I had a lot of difficulties with painful PCOS, from an early age. Was borderline for hypothyroidism. Back then it wasn't treated; many doctors still don't recognize borderline hypothyroidism as a issue. Once I began treatment, cycles became normal! Had first baby through adoption, one on super low dose of Clomid. Another baby after ovarian cyst surgery (surprise)! Last baby came after starting thyroid medication. By then I had only one ovary and was in my early forties. It was a delightful surprise, and husband and I are still amazed!
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Yeah, that's how it works. Just like the people who tell their blood sugar to be normal dammit, and boom! No more diabetes. And the ones who can't do that are just a bunch of losers.
Infertility is a medical condition, not a lack of having fun sex. And btw, I'm not taking this personally because I was lucky and got pregnant quickly when I wanted to. But I know far too many people who have faced this issue and the very last thing they need to be told is asinine advice like this.
I know it's not helpful to TELL someone to "just relax" - that doesn't help them relax.
But the fact is, many couples with indetermined infertility (a specific medical cause hasn't been found to determine the cause of their years of infertility) DO often get pregnant right away if they stop trying, or in many cases, successfully adopt.
Then, they get pregnant right away.
No one is calling the couple crazy, or losers.
It's a stress thing, and it's real.
(This doesn't hold as much for couples for whom a clear medical reason has been determined that is causing them not to be able to conceive).
Hmmm. After we adopted and later conceived, a lot of people said,..."Oh now, see? So many people get pregnant after they adopt!" It was really annoying. Well, some do, most don't. We did in large part because we adopted at an unusually young age. Stress isn't a leading cause of infertility, by any means...for anyone. To claim otherwise is of no practical help to people.
I know it's not helpful to TELL someone to "just relax" - that doesn't help them relax.
But the fact is, many couples with indetermined infertility (a specific medical cause hasn't been found to determine the cause of their years of infertility) DO often get pregnant right away if they stop trying, or in many cases, successfully adopt.
Then, they get pregnant right away.
No one is calling the couple crazy, or losers.
It's a stress thing, and it's real.
(This doesn't hold as much for couples for whom a clear medical reason has been determined that is causing them not to be able to conceive).
I noticed this thread is almost 2 years old, but it popped up again with another post. I'll add something a friend of my ex told us worked for them after 4 years. Quit trying to get pregnant. Just have good healthy, wear you out, ride 'em cowboy sex. Do whatever you want to enjoy it. Just think "fun" and not "baby". They went this route and she was pregnant within, I think, 6 months.
That's a terrible thing to tell someone. The implication is they've been doing something wrong, not relaxing, not having fun, or having a lot of stress and their personality is the problem. That's blaming the victim!
Yeah, I know, it worked for your ONE friend but that does not mean it's good advice. I don't think after 7 years of infertility more adventuresome sex is going to work for them. Clearly there's a problem and it's not their personalities.
If stress caused infertility victims of rape would never get pregnant and we know that isn't true, nor would the 16 year old in the backseat of a car and scared to death her parents are going to find out!
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