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Old 05-29-2017, 09:47 PM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I hope this is the right forum section for the topic. My husband and I have been "trying" to conceive for 7 years now. By trying I mean, we have not been using any birth control or such to stop a pregnancy. We have always been ready if and when we would have a child but didn't want to say we were trying to be obsessive about it as it would feel more disappointing I guess, so we hoped it would just happen at some point.

Well, it hasn't. I just turned 29 and nearing 30 has me concerned. Mainly I'm so worried age will start to wind down our chances and it won't ever happen. My husband is 28. I have had routine gyno visits including blood tests and vaginal ultrasound. They said there wasn't any known medical reason I couldn't have a child.

Anyone here had a long time trying like this? I hear many come off the pill and get pregnant within a few months. 7 years scares me that it just isn't going to happen and I feel very discouraged. Fertily doctors, treatments and IVF all are so costly with no certainty. I want to really make that last resort, but I'm not sure how long we should wait. Any advice?
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Old 05-29-2017, 09:58 PM
 
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IMO, if you want a child, you need to see a fertility specialist NOW. Routine gyno visits don't include an ultrasound. Have you discussed infertility with your doctor? What was the reason for the ultrasound? The blood tests I have an my annual appointment don't have anything to do with fertility. I'm just wondering on what basis the doctor claimed that there wasn't any medical reason you couldn't get pregnant. Usually the man's fertility is tested first because it is less invasive.
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Old 05-30-2017, 02:32 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I would at least go to a fertility dr and have everything tested to make sure you're ok. My husband and I took the more 'relaxed' approach when I was 32, after a little more than a year & no baby, dr found I had a uterine septum which was preventing pregnancy. I had that removed and 5 months later I got pregnant. I wouldn't worry too much about your age yet. I'm 34 and my husband is 38.


Good luck
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Old 05-30-2017, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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Does your husband have any other children? If there is a health issue, it could be on his side.
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Old 05-30-2017, 09:10 PM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I only mentioned to my gyno that we haven't been using anything to prevent pregnancy and how long it's been. At the time, I had been having long periods(for a couple months, like 2-3 weeks or longer) I was concerned so I setup the appt. I did a PAP and she had blood taken plus the vaginal ultrasound. After everything, she said they're was a cyst and it probably caused the longer periods. She said they're normal and usually correct themselves. The problem did stop and my periods are normal again under a week long. That was about a year and a half ago now. She said everything else seemed normal and I asked if there was any reason why I wouldn't be able to had kids and she said no, nothing abnormal was seen.

No, my husband has no children. There's no known medical issues with him, nothing we know of at least. He is so hesitant about going and being checked.. he really is resistant to it. Would it be best though for him to be checked first? Is there more that can be checked for me then also? Would I have to go to a fertility doctor for extra tests to be done, would he also need to see a fertility dr to be checked or does a regular doctor do that to? Not really sure of the best process.

Thanks for the replies so far!!
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Old 05-30-2017, 09:55 PM
 
Location: Australia
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It's a shame that your husband is hesitant about being checked out, but there is a test you can have which will provide info about the number of eggs you have left. My daughter had this test when she was about 33 and had been trying to become pregnant for 3 years or so. It was discovered that she had far fewer eggs left than most women her age. They had to take the IVF route (which, thankfully, did work out for them, twice).

The test is Anti-Mullerian Hormone (AMH). At least, that's what it's called here in Australia - your doctor will know. Of course I don't know how much it costs in the US - perhaps having your husband checked out would be a cheaper first option.
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Old 05-31-2017, 07:41 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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I hope this is the right forum section for the topic. My husband and I have been "trying" to conceive for 7 years now. By trying I mean, we have not been using any birth control or such to stop a pregnancy. We have always been ready if and when we would have a child but didn't want to say we were trying to be obsessive about it as it would feel more disappointing I guess, so we hoped it would just happen at some point.

Well, it hasn't. I just turned 29 and nearing 30 has me concerned. Mainly I'm so worried age will start to wind down our chances and it won't ever happen. My husband is 28. I have had routine gyno visits including blood tests and vaginal ultrasound. They said there wasn't any known medical reason I couldn't have a child.

Anyone here had a long time trying like this? I hear many come off the pill and get pregnant within a few months. 7 years scares me that it just isn't going to happen and I feel very discouraged. Fertily doctors, treatments and IVF all are so costly with no certainty. I want to really make that last resort, but I'm not sure how long we should wait. Any advice?
Ultrasounds may help diagnose any potential physiological impediments to conceiving, like fibroids, polyps, cysts, uterine/Mullerian duct abnormalities, etc., but won't give you any hormonal information. Depending on what your blood has been tested for, that won't, necessarily, either.

The problem could easily lie in your partner's court, as well...sperm count and motility factors affect conception as well.
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Old 05-31-2017, 11:10 AM
 
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I am in similar boat as you. We have been having unprotected sex for about 2.5 years and no baby yet. We took the casual route and didn't think much of it until last year as I turned 30. but I didn't have the courage to see a specialist, instead I started keeping track of my period & focused on losing weight. I lost some weight now and finally after some encouragement from this site (few posters) I visited OBGYN/infertility specialist last Friday. This is the information I got

According to my obgyn since I have regular period and we are having unprotected sex for 2 years... we meet the definition of infertility. 40% of time the issue is female and 40% of time the issue is male and 20% of the time it is both. There is some basic test that are done to identify common/simple problems. If no issue is noticed in this initial test then they go into more complicated testing.

The initial testing for me is:
1) Day 3 blood test. She gave me prescription to get my blood work done on 3rd day of my period.
2) she also suggested I get ovulation kit to detect when I am ovulating. apparently one can bleed without ovulating.

2nd stage testing are Ultrasound (which she gave me prescription for) and HSG to see if my tubes are open.

Initial testing for male is
1) Semen analysis. she gave me prescription to get that tested. A men can give semen in the office or we can pick up a home kit & he can give sample at home. My husband like yours is not on board for testing & think its silly but he is willing to give me his semen if I pink up the home collection kit.

I say get the prescription for you and your husband together. Get first stage testing and then you can decide if you want to move forward. I am not sure I would want to go down IVF path but getting some blood work done & semen analyzed is still casual enough. Good luck
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Old 05-31-2017, 11:44 AM
 
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I am no way suggesting you should not seek medical advise, I am not a health care professional.


My spouse and I tried very hard to get pregnant. It was akin to a forced march across tough terrain. Doctors, tests, charts, thermometers ........ you get the picture. It was a very emotional time for us (years) and really put a strain on our marriage.


Finally we threw in the towel and reconciled that is was just the will of the universe.


Coming to grips with it all was a huge weight off our shoulders and we decided to celebrate by taking a stress-free trip to the Baja for a few weeks. We had the time of our lives.


About a week after returning we found out we were pregnant.


Just a thought.
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Old 07-23-2017, 03:50 AM
 
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Hi, I am sorry you are going through this. I have no dir experiences, but a friend of my sis is cycling in Gdansk (Poland) as the price is more pocket-friendly. She had 2 failed IVF-s in national clinics, and couldn't afford 3d cycle cos of high prices.
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