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Old 07-09-2017, 07:25 AM
 
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Hi, there! I think I’m a little bit crazy, but I’m willing to get pregnant in my 40s. I’m 45 at present and have very irregular periods. My hubby and I have been TTC for nearly 2 years. My gyny says that we can try DE IVF. It may give me better chances to conceive. So is DE IVF my only chance to conceive?
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Old 07-09-2017, 09:44 AM
 
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Very individual. Some women have no issues with fertility or post-40 pregnancies. Others do. Some have fertility v problems that exist independently of age, as well.

With your history, it is definitely possible that fertility concerns are an issue.
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Old 07-10-2017, 11:49 AM
 
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My grandmother was 42 when she had my dad. My Mother-in-law was 45 when her youngest child was born. It's a possibility.
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Old 07-10-2017, 02:21 PM
 
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While it's a fact that a woman's fertility decreases with age, there are a ton of very fertile women having babies at advanced maternal ages (post 35).

I think it's a bit careless of your obgyn to just tell you that you will need IVF without extensive testing as fertility it's VERY VERY individual based.

My advice is to head to your nearest fertility specialist/ reproductive endocrinologist and get the process started by doing some testing on you and your partner.

Good luck.
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Old 07-10-2017, 03:53 PM
 
Location: Southlake. Don't judge me.
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Hi, there! I think I’m a little bit crazy, but I’m willing to get pregnant in my 40s. I’m 45 at present and have very irregular periods. My hubby and I have been TTC for nearly 2 years. My gyny says that we can try DE IVF. It may give me better chances to conceive. So is DE IVF my only chance to conceive?
If you've been trying for two years AND you're 45 AND have very irregular periods...then at a minimum, I'd suggest (as the previous poster noted) speaking with a fertility/reproductive health specialist and having some testing done.

It is possible to conceive and carry to term at age 45 (as I've noted a few times, we had our child when my wife was 45), but given the other items you've noted, you may require IVF. But as others have stated, there is lots of variability by individual, so get to a specialist so you can A) get more complete information on your situation, and 2) get expert opinions and advice on your options.
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Old 07-13-2017, 11:41 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Have you had you FSH level tested? Since you stated your periods are irregular that's also a sign of perimenopause. I know 3 women who had babies at 42. One at 43. That's the oldest I personally know. I went through perimenopause at 38 and was completely through at 42, so obviously that's not normal, but you need to make sure all the blood tests are done to make sure it's still possible for you.
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Old 07-13-2017, 11:50 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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I would say it is highly doubtful. Of course some women do give birth later in life, but that is the exception more than the rule, plus if you have been trying for 2 years, it seems even more unlikely. Go get tested & do the de ivf if you can afford it. My Gran did give birth at age 45, but it was her 11th baby.
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Old 07-14-2017, 11:21 AM
 
Location: Denver CO
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Women CAN get pregnant in their 40s. But if you've been trying for 2 years and you have irregular periods, your odds are not great. I am not sure if you've been seeing that doctor for this whole time, but unfortunately, you should have considered medical intervention long before 2 years.

No one can predict anything when it comes to reproduction but sadly, your changes of conceiving aren't great at this point. Not naturally and really, not even if you tried own egg IVF. I think it comes down to how much value you place on a genetic connection and how much money/health insurance you have to cover ART (assisted reproductive technology). Most people have to find the balance between the two. Maybe it's worth it to try one IVF cycle with your own eggs, maybe not. No one can answer that for you. But if you are open to donor egg, while it's no guarantee, the odds are certainly much more in your favor.
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Old 07-19-2017, 03:41 PM
 
Location: North Texas
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While it's a fact that a woman's fertility decreases with age, there are a ton of very fertile women having babies at advanced maternal ages (post 35).

I think it's a bit careless of your obgyn to just tell you that you will need IVF without extensive testing as fertility it's VERY VERY individual based.

My advice is to head to your nearest fertility specialist/ reproductive endocrinologist and get the process started by doing some testing on you and your partner.

Good luck.
Yup, this.
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Old 07-19-2017, 03:52 PM
 
Location: Des Moines Metro
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You can get pregnant but that doesn't mean that you should. The potential for birth defects significantly increases after age 37. Please also consider adoption!
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