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Old 09-01-2017, 10:19 AM
 
Location: From the Middle East of the USA
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I am not happy with an untimely pregnancy, but my 17-year old daughter told us as soon as she pondered the thought of it, after missing her period. We have a great relationship, we are open and honest about most things, and we are fair and forgiving when we have to discipline our children.


She decided to tell us immediately about her situation because she believed she could run to us for support! What a joy! We did not have to wait for months. She did not have to torment herself with a false fear of rejection or disappointment.


To the parents out there. What was your experience when you found out? Why or why not did your son or daughter tell you early on?
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Old 09-01-2017, 03:24 PM
 
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You're happy your teenage daughter is unmarried and pregnant?
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Old 09-01-2017, 09:52 PM
 
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I read it as being glad to have a relationship where their daughter felt comfortable being open with them right away.
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Old 09-02-2017, 04:03 PM
 
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I read it as being glad to have a relationship where their daughter felt comfortable being open with them right away.
I read it the same way. The parents are glad that when the daughter was in serious trouble that she immediately turned to her parents to help her. The OP's first statement is that she's not happy about the untimely pregnancy.
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Old 09-03-2017, 09:11 PM
 
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OP: Maybe you will let us in on her plans. OK if you don't too. I've got some stories along these lines but will save for maybe later if this thread continues.
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Old 09-04-2017, 04:59 PM
 
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Good for you and your child. I hope my daughter if faced with the same thing would run to me and we'd work it out together. Make the best of an unexpected situation and make sure once the baby is born she is on birth control. Many people are so bashful about that with their daughters, if they are old enough and dating get them on the pill and make sure they take it.

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You're happy your teenage daughter is unmarried and pregnant?
If you read and comprehended the OP's post you'd understand what you're asking isn't even close.
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Old 09-06-2017, 08:24 AM
 
Location: From the Middle East of the USA
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I'm not happy about the decision my daughter made to have sex. She was on birth control, but she did not take it properly like she should. She knows better. We talk. We tell her that you must take the pill everyday and be consistent with it.


I would love to report that my daughter would have finished college, found her career path, met a husband, and then start a family. It is not going to happen for her that way. We are disappointment with the situation, but when we reframe everything and think about a new baby, we can't help but show some excitement for a new life.


We are like most parents that have tried to show our daughters the way...However, teenagers and adults alike will make their own decisions, some that are detrimental in some ways...
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Old 09-07-2017, 06:13 AM
 
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I'm not happy about the decision my daughter made to have sex. She was on birth control, but she did not take it properly like she should. She knows better. We talk. We tell her that you must take the pill everyday and be consistent with it.


I would love to report that my daughter would have finished college, found her career path, met a husband, and then start a family. It is not going to happen for her that way. We are disappointment with the situation, but when we reframe everything and think about a new baby, we can't help but show some excitement for a new life.


We are like most parents that have tried to show our daughters the way...However, teenagers and adults alike will make their own decisions, some that are detrimental in some ways...
Maybe in the future the shot or the implant would be a better choice of birth control for her, no daily pill to take.
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Old 09-07-2017, 07:05 PM
 
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You're happy your teenage daughter is unmarried and pregnant?
And why shouldn't she be? She's hopefully going to be a grandma.
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Old 09-07-2017, 07:18 PM
 
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it is always interesting to deal with these threads. We had three daughters and a stray one brought home at 16 or so.

Mom however was a Bellevue trained RN. And the source of female wisdom to three or four years of graduates from the local high school located 50 yards from our home.

No one got pregnant. We have no illusion that there was no sex. But they were well instructed. No abortions? None we know of...but that is no guarantee...they were well instructed.

We probably would have welcomed an error into our family...but good instruction prevented that.
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