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Old 03-11-2019, 07:17 PM
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I just had a miscarriage and I am not looking forward to telling my 4-year-old daughter about it. She was looking forward to having a little brother or sister and I don't know how to explain to her that her future brother or sister is no longer in her Mommy's tummy. I was just about to be 12 weeks pregnant and we found out last Friday. What can I do???
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Old Today, 01:38 PM
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Oh, honey. I'm sorry for your loss. It's not going to be easy to explain to your daughter, but I think just being honest is best, and letting her talk and ask questions after you tell her. You can explain that the baby wasn't growing right and couldn't grow up big and strong like her, so it passed away. If she seems receptive to more info or has trouble comprehending, it may help to show her how small the baby was at 12 weeks, so she understands that the baby was just starting out and didn't hurt when it died. Usually kids that age don't really have a concept of how long it takes a baby to start looking like the babies they see, and they assign feelings to everything--even their stuffed animals--so she will likely feel bad for the baby more than for you or for herself.

If you're religious, you can say her little brother or sister will be an angel watching over her. That can help soften the blow.
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